#this isn't an exaggeration btw it was an Actual trauma dump | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

lazylittledragon · 7 hours ago

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ok i have since blocked this person after receiving a very long (and honestly very upsetting) unsolicited trauma dump in my DMs, so i have to point out:

the problem was not using the word 'partner' as a gender neutral term (a more understandable argument, especially as the 'partner' is a trans character and it could be seen as misgendering?)

the problem they had was that the term 'my partner', 'their partner', '*name's* partner' etc is an inherently dehumanising phrase that normalises possession over your significant other and desensitises people to abusive patterns.

no this was not a joke

i am losing my entire shit right now, this single panel caused a nuclear disaster in my ig comments when someone said "halsin just saying 'astarion's partner' instead of his name feels icky"

which is such a fucking reach by itself but descended into this in about 5 seconds

#ramble #this isn't an exaggeration btw it was an Actual trauma dump #it was very. descriptive to the point that i had to be like 'i am a stranger. this is deranged'#i won't repeat any of it but this is very much a 'this happened to me so i have to make it a universal problem'#which is. honestly really sad #i can only compare it to like. how i hate the sound of the vacuum #it's my worst sensory noise #but logically that's my thing to deal with and i can't go around screaming at everyone in the world for having a vacuum y'know #this isn't even one of those things where we should train ourselves out of using certain language this is just BASIC GRAMMAR #sorry i got very very defensive bc after being mistreated by partners myself it's very upsetting to be told my space is not safe for victim #they also accused me of letting people dogpile them and i was like #nobody is dogpiling on you people are having a very reasonable reaction to a take that is fucking UNHINGED #the only reason i reposted their comment (with their name always covered) was bc i was genuinely convinced i was going crazy????#anyway this 3 act play is over thanks for reassuring me that this whole thing was not my fault akfdhdfhdf

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