#this isn’t related to the spider-man post i jusr reblogged i was thinking abt it earlier today

[honeyoats]

Genuinely curious of everyone’s opinion on this. Thoughts on like. the recurring theme of superheroes or vigilantes being like I cannot let my friends or s/o know abt any of it. like i get the notion of like. if the ‘civilians’ know too much it puts them at risk but. isn’t it fine if they’re like like. Hey btw i mask up and fight crime at night. Just letting you know. So. Be careful. like that kinda thing. like i understand this whole thing of keeping ur identity hidden being Sacred but if. it werent.

like not being like. Let me make my friends/partner become a person deeply involved in what i do (like behind the scenes). but just like. Hey heads up. Because. i don’t know isn’t it Worse to not know of the risk… i mean obviouslt the natural solution i guess is to Not Become Involved With Anyone. but. Not sure if that works for anyone. so i feel like. Yes it is a risk to let them know. But it’s a calculated one. i think in the long run of like. knowing that persons secret identity (and not much else, but also there is a question of how feasible that is, like how long can the vigilante/hero go without slipping up or if their friend/loved one presses for more BUT there is a component of awareness to that. i think) it helps to be more aware of certain situations??????? i just think. not knowing is worse.

there’s also like. i guess the ethical part of it? of it being like… does this superhero/vigilante really know better than me when it comes to my safety. like maybe so BUT. is it still ok for them to make decisions without letting that person know. like especially if they’re a loved one. idk. does that make sense. like the question of autonomy. and judgment. Right. especially if that person is like. i want to take that risk. ya know. idk. lots of thoughts to be thought