#this is why ppl who add tags are my truest loves

[faunandfloraas]

Nothing weirder than presuming a post was kinda a flop only to realize it actually did get notes, it's just that tumblr groups likes together now so unless someone reblogs with tags or replies you can easily miss people interacting with it unless you click in directly to see...

[storytravelled]

Helpppp I love your confidence with approaching ppl to become moots 😭😭😭😭 I wish I had that confidence lol, any advice on approaching ppl ? <3

aw you're so sweet ty! i'm actually not that confident and barely interact with the mutuals i get and kind of just collect them which makes me super sad but i'm not confident enough to do anything about it,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

but i've also been here for a short while now and have some tips!

join groups! i found my first and dearest mutuals (who i ACTUALLY talk to) after joining my first discord server. we've got a few mutual interests (some that we've gotten into together) and we can get each other into stuff. honestly, tumblr isn't my favorite messaging platform and i prefer discord a lot, which is why you won't see a lot of interactions on here from me. i have a ton of mutuals now from making writing and rp blogs and finding spaces where others did the same- my ayaka blog made me mutuals with a ton of big genshin people, and joining interwoven fates did that for a ton of smaller genshin people that add just as much to my dash and daily interactions

this kind of goes with #1, but pay attention to events! i joined the aforementioned first discord server because of an event, and i've gotten to know quite a few people from either joining or following genshin extreme bias games. I've joined fanfiction and collaboration events hosted by blogs that are larger than mine, giving my work publicity and also giving me an opportunity to talk to other participants and the host as well as some talking points to use

interact with people! i know this is kind of useless and vague, but it is really easy to just send someone an ask off anon asking if they wanted to talk about something or contributing to something they're talking about. make sure to ALWAYS have at least three different talking points to use. they can be coherent with each other or not, but you need backup plans in case your conversations hit a dead end. however, the talking point strategy applies much better on discord and in pms than on asks. still, make sure to have backup plans. i recommend that if someone continually interacts with your posts or work, go talk to them! i remember the first person to send me interactions on my writing blog- he sent an ask off anon and i went to clarify with him and now we're super close! to go with this, it's generally easier to get people like that to go with you into groups. that way, you're not alone, and they can help you get more acquainted with a larger circle if you're not confident in your own interaction skills. i know @unkownknowledge, who i'm speaking about, mentions a lot that he's happy to help others who are intimidated about speaking to mutuals, and i am as well.

find multiple avenues! i created my sideblogs for fun, but they've become great ways to meet people. sideblogs are just more roads into more fandoms, so i highly recommend making some exclusively for some interests to get a concentrated topic in the people that follow you. to go with that, always make sure to properly tag your content so people will actually see it, even if it's a reblog. blog organization looks really professional too, although it doesn't really matter if you use it or if you tag reblogs as reblogs so it looks like you do. it's a neat trick and i don't think anyone really notices it, because it becomes a subconscious thing.

be yourself, be patient, and have fun! i know i said a lot of this with an undertone of "be super strategic and use all your angles and manipulate people into seeing and caring about you" but, in the end, what helped me most was finding what parts of myself were truest and amplifying those. be genuine and be yourself, and it'll be genuinely less tiring to talk to people. this is tumblr, where it's incredibly easy to find when someone's being fake because we're all insane and ridiculous here. please remember not to take things here too seriously. we're all just clowns in different circuses. the worst that can happen to you is that someone will politely reject you, delete your ask, or impolitely reject you. polite rejections will generally assure you that it's not your fault and they have a reason for doing what they do. deleting your ask means that you can let go of that person. don't worry too much about them, but i generally assume if they're answering asks regularly about their posts in a timely manner, about three days of them responding to proveably recent asks and ignoring yours generally signifies for me that they deleted it. in this scenario, you should forget about them. they don't matter that much, and you'll be okay without them seeing your url once ever and doing nothing, i promise. i'll help comfort/distract you, if you want. if they impolitely reject you, tell me and i'll take care of you darling don't worry about that. if you don't have many mutuals yet, you won't have much of a support system on this app. but that's what i'm here for! i'm going to help you in any way i can. this whole thing is solely for the purpose of having fun, so please keep everything lighthearted and don't worry too much about a lot.

ask literally everyone if they want to be mutuals. this is less a tip and more of a way for me to offer to you my mutualship because i genuinely like you. let's be friends, anon! i'd love to know more about you