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binders-and-beanies · 5 months ago

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U know what actually. Another thing that’s cool abt sex w older partners is that they’re generally more normal about disability. You can say it’s inherently predatory if someone 30+ fucks someone who’s like 25 but a lot of the time they’re a lot more mindful about bodily needs.

I’ll never forget the guy in his 40s who would repeatedly ask which restraints and toys were disability friendly for me and made me feel safe asking to change positions if my muscles hurt, or the woman in her 50s who asked if I had any kind of medical devices implanted or any medical conditions that could be triggered by anything she may do.

Like ok yeah those people “victimized” me but the people in their 20s who would misgender me during sex or say mean things about my body and compare me unfavorably to abled people, are inherently safer. Ok

#young disabled people are cool in similar ways too they just generally are only cool w disabilities similar to their own #whereas older people have seen it all #this is all referring to before my current relationship obvi btw #I’m blessed with a partner who gives so many fucks about my physical and emotional comfort #like I feel like I can change things up if I’m hurting and they’ll be just as happy etc #they’re disabled too in different ways and like close to my age #it’s just. that feels like above and beyond to me. like I’ve struck gold w this one person #before them I felt like I had to seek out specific communities and events in order to have sex without being shamed #and then still get shamed by people outside these communities who don’t have to think abt any of that #mine #txt #disability #nsft #idk how to tag this

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