#this is a shitpost but also that whole plot point genuinely pissed me off because it was so fucking stupid lmao

[lord-squiggletits]

The most unrealistic part about exRID is that people actually got mad about Jazz killing a cop.

[aerinmelina]

I replied to this comment, however I feel this warrants an explanation via post as well.

I was speaking from a sleep-deprived, PMS-ing, worried mother state when I threatened to leave. My youngest child broke his arm just earlier this week and he’s trying to Spider-Man crawl up things while I frantically pull him off of walls and tables and kitchen islands and whatever else he’s been getting into (or onto). I might take a break from the Fablehaven fandom once in a while going forward, but I don’t see myself as fully leaving unless the drama continues full speed ahead and becomes a permanent fixture. I love you all too much to really leave, and this book series has meant so much to me for so long.

I said what I said out of frustration and hurt. @fairyprincesskendra is one of my closest friends, and the anon hate she’s been receiving has set my hair standing straight up. (Seriously, anon, go curl up in a hole and die. Take your shameful self away from this website and all others forever.) This girl means the world to me. She’s helped me through so much of my suffering. She’s listened to me moan and whine and cry about my ex and all of the crap that he still puts me through even now, and she’s done it with an open and accepting heart. She’s given me hugs when I’ve needed them. She’s helped talk me through anxiety attacks when the world of single parenting with traumatized children + traumatized self has been too overwhelming to handle. We’ve spent time painting our nails and playing board games and staying up late at night and co-writing fics (which we still need to finish at some point) and laughing about ridiculous hc’s and driving through the forest near her home and ordering way too much food when we’re out and... and... and... the list goes on.

It hurts me to think that some random person with an unhealthy agenda could be so cruel to someone who means so much to me. I don’t care what people say or think about me - that’s their issue, not mine. But for someone to attack one of my friends like that? It hurts. And I don’t think I’m the only person who feels hyper-sensitive about this right now. A whole bunch of us love her. She’s a wonderful friend and a good person.

The anon hate plus the appearance of another blog which held a similar atmosphere and overall feel as her own shitpost blog was a little much to handle all at about the same time. My understanding is that the new shitpost blog did not plagiarize her work, but the feelings between posts were eerily similar, and the overall aesthetic of the new blog was also close to Erin’s.

I felt it was important to explain that it’s okay for more than one person to contribute similarly-fashioned content into a fandom, which is 100% true. In doing that, however, I failed to recognize that Erin has worked so hard, and for so long, to generate content for this small fandom. She deserved some differences in blog names and aesthetics, and I should have addressed that as well. (I believe the new blog has adjusted their name and appearance so that they are more distinguishable from Erin’s blog. Thank you for that.)

Adding fuel to the fire, I logged on to tumblr this morning and found that @certain-death-awaits was receiving quite a lot of hate, hence the gif I chose to reference in my post this morning (RE: everything burning down and me being like ‘wtf mate???’). My feed is usually a good mix of all of the various fandoms I belong to + cool quotes, and it’s usually all positive content, but this morning all it was was hate hate hate hate hate and I simply can’t deal with that.

I am typically more well-spoken and articulate through written word than I am through spoken word. I actually shove my foot in my own mouth a lot via spoken word, and I’m amazed that I have the job I have because really... putting my foot in my mouth is like a special talent of mine, and I talk a lot in my current role. Maybe my autistic brother and father rubbed off on me a little too much while I was growing up. 🤷‍♀️ There are certain social things which have never really clicked with me, and I still find myself making errors to this day. This special talent of mine does also bleed over into my writing from time to time. I try to be pragmatic and diplomatic when I’m addressing sensitive topics and situations; that’s just who I am. That’s the approach I always take. And sometimes I flub it big time.

It’s an error. I’m a human being. I never mean harm to anyone (except Erin’s evil anon), and I never mean to offend anyone (again, except for stalker!abuser!anon who should shove off forever). This is a flaw in me which I recognize about myself, and I’ve used that recognition to learn to give other people the benefit of the doubt. “Did they really mean for that post to come across like that?” or “Did they purposely phrase it like this, or was that something they didn’t exactly say the way they meant to say it?” and other such questions are common thoughts which cross my mind frequently. I do forget sometimes that not everyone thinks along the same lines as me, and then I wind up assuming that all people will be as forgiving of me as I am of them and award me the benefit of the doubt as well. I try to carefully word my posts, but there will inevitably be mistakes. I promise that I don’t wake up in the morning asking the questions, “Who should I piss off today?” or “Who’s my next victim to offend?”

Please. With the knowledge you have about me now, and with the insight I’ve tried to give you regarding my gaps in social skills, please give me the benefit of the doubt. And please give others this benefit, too. We’re all humans, and sometimes we make genuine mistakes. It never hurts to reach out to someone with the hope of gaining understanding.

Well, damn. This has turned into a rant. I’m going to post this and go to sleep so that I can try to successfully drag my butt out of bed at some pre-dawn hour in the morning.

I’m still calling for peace. Please let the wars and the fighting stop. Can we not move on with our lives? Can this fandom please become an uplifting space again? I just want to talk about character traits and analyses and plot twists and holes again.