#this ask goes out to all the requests ppl have ever sent me-especially recently- and have yet to have that ask answered

[princeanxious]

Your Janus is soo pretty!!! 🥺🥰 Also hello! I don't think we've talked before hiii! If we have I'm so sorry I have the memory of a gold

Aaaa thank you!!! I do try bc our snek boi obviously deserves the best, and he also gets the longest hair of all of them, as a treat. 💕

I dont think we've talked no, but I struggle to keep up w/ people through my inbox at this point-

(as I dont exactly make a habit of cleaning it out and there are. So. Many. Asks. Most of which were prompted by me or about my aus and i just. Haven't been able to/remembered to get back to them/or am saving some as stuff i am working on. A big part of the reason theres just so many is that ive literally been an active content creator of the fandom for just about 4 years at this point, so. When u tie that back w/ me never cleaning out my inbox, it piles up quick lol)

-so its much more efficient to try and communicate w/ me through my direct messages bc my inbox runs the risk of said interactions getting buried/forgotten, unfortunately ^^

(Then again i also offer the disclaimer that i do have a life & full time job outside of tumblr, so im not always going to message back right away even with direct messages and may also forget to reply later when i dont have time to the moment i get a message. I try, but I'm not perfect. ^^; thank you for understanding!)

Edit: also, for reference, my inbox currently has 1,475 asks in it atm ssssso uhhh. Yyyeah.

[kendrixtermina]

You know you have utterly failed as a parent when your adult daughter’s reaction to you getting a job closer to home is not “Yay, my littlest sister is gonna get to spend more quality time with dad” but “i better make sure she has a key to my appartment in case she needs to avoid him”

one wonders i mom will finally get tired when she has to put up with him fulltaime after years of seeing him only in small doses, but after all these years ive learned to keep my expectations low

its just that she could do so much better. like ok i get that she is old and not super attractive & might worry because of that or be afraid of being alone, but even if you restrict your choice to only ugly middle aged men, you could get so much nicer ones? 

There are ugly old men who are funny, there are ugly old men who are kind, there are ugly old men who know how to enjoy things, there are ugly old men who show appreciation, there are ugly old men who don’t yell at you & pressure you all the time and, though a rare breed in this society, you might even find an ugly old man who does not make you do all the work. 

Like recently I happened to overhear a phonecall where he was basically threatening to dump her or at least questioning her willingness to make it work after she gave him so many chances & showed so much forgiveness & sympathy to him. 

Like does he really think he has the greater market value here? 

He and mom may both be old and ugly, but you know what mom is & he isn’t? Likeable and interesting. She makes friends with ppl everywhere she goes. She’s funny, generous, approachable, capable, practical...

Of course she has flaws too like only wanting to see the good in everything & not being the world’s most reliable person, but she wouldn’t be like, alone & abandoned if they split. 

He, however? He went directly from his mom’s place to being married to my mom & never had to be responsible for himself in his life. He’s never lived without pushing anything that doesn’t interest him off to others. Also, no one can stand him. He’s got about as much charisma and charme as a caustic toilet cleaner. He has like 2 people who are nice to him out of pity, obligation or moral princile (my mom & my brother) & that’s it. 

I don’t think there is anyone enjoys him or relaxes/ lets down their guard around him. 

If mom ever dumps him, he’s gonna rot down to his skelleton before anybody finds out he’s dead. 

I’m not saying that an indictment of a bad person in and of itself like, I’m getting eaten by my cats as an old lady, I have no illusions there. popularity is not morals. But he hasnt got those either. 

Geez. If I had a wife who is fun, likeable, awesome, cool, badass, generous & forgives me anything - & especially if I still the same sort of distractable loner type that I am now - I think I would at least fucking notice. Maybe I couldn’t give her all the attention she needs either & maybe I’d lose my temper once or twice too, but I think I’d at least listen to simple requests/ wishes like “please go on vacation with me” & ask her what she wants once in a while instead of always imposing my will under the threat of making myself insufferable if I can’t get my will. 

I just hope he doesn’t terrorize my youngest sister when he moves back into Mom’s appartment. 

I try to watch very carefully what I say around her cause I don’t want to put her in a loyalty conflict situation or get accused of turning her against him or something, & you should always be careful that you don’t dump/vent to a child to an unlimited extent anyways. 

But last times I visited she’d complain unprompted, like saying he never listens to anything she says & characterized him as asking any available family member to make him food whenever he pleases (I said nothing to this) 

He also demonstrated that he knew less about what topics she’s interested in than I do,  and I am not her father, did not make the decision to conceive her, and live in a different city. 

Needing to be away for work in no excuse; This is not about quantity but quality. No one’s asking anything impossible. 

When my grandfather had to work in a different country for a few years - long before whatsapp or zoom or even cheap phonecalls - he made up little nonsense stories for my mom & her siblings and sent them as letters complete with handmade drawings, so that he could be a regular part of their bedtime ritual.  My mom, now in her fifties, still talks with great emotion about those letters. 

Meanwhile, I remember that my father had to be away half a year when I was in second grade, and I know I experienced it as a definite relief, was glad that he was gone (no more fear of beatings or about confessing mistakes)  & hated when we moved to join him at his new workplace. 

My youngest sister is in a good place now, she had a lot of struggles earlier but now she has good grades & many hobbies; She’s pretty self-suficient and in some ways reliable, maybe a bit youthfully emotional still, but she’s getting to be a splendid young woman - she’s cool, she’s conscientious without being a boring rules stickler, she’s sly & has a great poker face, she’s thrifty but still knows to have fun...

I don’t want anyone to put a crack in that just before the finish line. It’s just a few more years until she’ll be 15/16 and essentially a finished person. It should be possible to avoid screwing her for life for just a few more years.

Well. Having I.s appartment keys can only help.