#think the entire argument through and reflect on places that seem shaky reasoning-wise

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Replacement thoughts for the nuance:

-Seeing the nude human body is inherently traumatic Everyone is naked under their clothes, and the human body that we all have, that we all see in ourselves, should not be seen as inherently traumatic. Dysphoria and such exists, sure, however, society has never been comprised of incorporeal personalities - all humans have bodies - and we should stop pretending that some bodyless society is the norm.

-Sex scenes in art are pointless Sometimes sex scenes in art are gratuitous and only there to tempt those looking for porn, sometimes sex scenes are a plot point, sometimes the sex scene falls in between the two. Viewer discretion is advised (aka check the warnings/tags and curate your own experience).

-Wearing kink-related clothing in public is the similar to performing a sex scene in front of unwilling participants Outfits that expose genitalia and are being put to use at Folsom? Yeah, definitely sex related. Swapping out your denim blue jeans for leather pants and NOT going around giving a full dissertation on how the leather makes you/your partner feel? No, the pants are just pants, and the material should not be such a big deal, stop trying to create society-wide uniforms.

-Depicting female characters expressing sexuality is always degrading I don't know how to make this simpler, but women are just as human as men and generally also have thoughts just like men do, and sometimes voice them just as men do. Men, women, non-binary ... we are all human and should not be treated as separate species or as infants in adulthood.

-People's sexual fantasies are always an endorsement of the behavior they want to see in real life As a kid, I fantasized about being a dragon, because 'ooo, pretty'. This never meant I actually expected to become a real-life dragon. Look back at your own life, and you'll likely find something similar. There's a reason the meme of a cat clinging to a wall above a door with the caption 'They said I could be anything, so I became a security camera' was funny. Not all dreams come true, nor are all dreams meant to come true. People are allowed to be silly, it's not that serious.

-Sex work is more traumatic and coercive than other types of work Some people enjoy sex and don't care who they have it with, or are at least less picky about who they have it with. If they find that people are willing to pay them as they indulge in their own personal enjoyment, they may take that money as part of a perfectly fair exchange. Not all sex work involves human trafficking, just as not all human trafficking involves sex. The problem isn't the sex or the sex work, the problem is economic and about how we treat other people under the current classist system in general, aka the work and how workers are treated.

-Sex in a monogamous romantic relationship is somehow morally/fundamentally different from sex outside of romance and/or monogamy. Seeing as even the Bible refers to multiple definitions of what we call marriage, including taking a woman as your wife if her husband dies and you were her brother-in-law, or if you killed her husband on the battlefield, or if you already own her as a slave, this absolutely doesn't even fit with people citing the Bible as their source of morality, which is where that nonsense started. If you are not part of the consentual relationship between the adults in question, then you are not part of that relationship and your opinion does not matter. Deal with your own relationship(s) or lack thereof and get your nose out of everyone else's personal business.

-Some clothing is inherently sexual. The clothing is not alive. It is not sentient. It has no opinion, thoughts, wants, or desires. Any sexuality you see in that clothing is what YOU have chosen to see. The clothes are not the problem. Your inability to get your mind out of the gutter is the problem. Trying to mandate some uniform clothing standard for society will solve nothing. On the other hand, seeking help with your own need to over-sexualize everything and take everything personally might make a world of difference. 'Hypersexual disorder' is still a thing (https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19937105/), and claiming non-sexual things are 'inherently sexual' is a listed symptom (this is not a diagnosis and I am not your therapist or psychologist - this is merely something to take into consideration).

Case in point: I have Mormon neighbors who fret over bare shoulders, considering the uncovered shoulders to be risque and inherently sexual. I've lived in places where nobody cared about bare shoulders at all, and still live under the same idea that bare shoulders are just something that happens when it's hot outside and maybe wear sunscreen. We are not the same. I do not see tank tops as any more sexual than the completely non-sexual prairie dresses that many FLDS wear, I do not carry around the same cultural baggage that my neighbors do.

TL;DR Stop believing all the sensationalist crap you see in internet discourse. Stop claiming your own failings are society's fault. Sometimes society is wrong, sure, but sometimes it's just certain individuals who are wrong and you may be one of them.

Lines of thought that seem Normal but are actually rooted in extreme puritanism:

-Seeing the nude human body is inherently traumatic -Sex scenes in art are pointless -Wearing kink-related clothing in public is the similar to performing a sex scene in front of unwilling participants -Depicting female characters expressing sexuality is always degrading -People's sexual fantasies are always an endorsement of the behavior they want to see in real life -Sex work is more traumatic and coercive than other types of work The goal is to treat sex as just another thing people do. That is a much healthier attitude than hiding it! It's not uniquely traumatic, it's not weird to talk about it or include it in society.