#they're so deep in the victim complex that they can't comprehend the idea of being equally guilty of engaging in a toxic relationship
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"why didn't my friend group drop my ex after I told them how awful it was to be with him?" because he told us how awful it was to be with you.
#'he made me too uncomfortable to set boundaries by asking me to set boundaries instead of screaming at him when he triggers me by accident'#sorry buddy. I know you're hurt. but I didn't think it was possible to break a human being until I met him#no yknow what I'm still mad about this. they were bad for each other & they hurt each other yes#but they seem to think that their own pain essentially negates any pain he feels#they're so deep in the victim complex that they can't comprehend the idea of being equally guilty of engaging in a toxic relationship#I don't wanna take sides (bit late to say that) my issue is just.#when he opened up about his pain he did it so we could listen to him and lighten his burden as best we can#when they opened up about their pain they did it in the hopes that we would shun him and leave him to suffer in isolation.#he's trying to heal by moving on without them. they're tryina heal by praying for his downfall. this isn't healthy#hi I'm back. this is the same mfer who decided they didn't like one of my autistic friends so they kept a list of every social faux pas#and mistake and generally annoying or upsetting thing he did. so that whenever he was upset with them they could bring up the list#and call him out for something he did by accident that they never continued#*they never confronted him about#before eventually exploding and telling him everyone he loves will leave him because he's such a piece of shit and it's his fault#that they 'tried to fix him' but he's so unlovable they can't stand his company#they break people so easily. it's like second nature to them. I'd say I'm surprised they haven't targeted me before but I think they did#a few times. but I'm working on it. I like being their friend. but it's hard when they're so full of hate#final edit after talking it through with me therapist. I've figured them out#they opened up about their experience in that relationship in the hopes that ppl would enact revenge against their ex for them#but when they only received sympathy and emotional support they felt dissatisfied#so every time they re-tell the story of what happened they tweak the facts and leave out details to make it sound worse and more one-sided#in the hopes that the next batch of friends they tell will react with less compassion and more vitriol#I wouldn't be surprised if one day they just outright say he raped them#(they never met in person)
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