#they're like clearly modded but not as stand out modded as many other things i've seen

[vivanightcity]

ahhhh

i was certain i'd taken screenshots of my very early modded minecraft explorations from like ten years ago, and i did.

Dragon mounts was one of my favorite mods, as was the original Witchery. Both of which, I believe, stopped being updated around 1.7.10, witchery did for sure.

It's so wild to come back now and there's these projects to make spiritual successors and continue them on, Bewitchment is a great continuation that has most of the same energy and spirit, and I know there's a 'dragon mounts reborn' out there too, I just didn't know about it until after I found out about ice and fire.

anyways, look at the dergs!

I am so tempted to make a 'improved' version of this old awful ass dragon platform base i made. I used creative and I thought it looked good. (I'm not actually ragging on it, I think it's cute ugly and very old minecraft)

[lesbian-ed]

I've been a closeted radfem for a few months now and I'm really worried about my relationships (especially online) that are going to collapse because most of them are liberal feminists (just like i was not long ago). They're really clearly well-intentioned with wanting to accept & support everyone, but i feel really uncomfortable not speaking out publicly against the "trans women are females/should be the focus of feminism"- esp b/c of their expectations to conform without question. Any advice?

Hi, anon.

Many women went through the same thing, and many women are still going through it. On this website especially, you’re ostracized for thinking critically and questioning the status quo. I know that you are aware of this from your ask. We can all relate. I can only speak freely for myself though, so I’ll share my own story with you. 

I used to be part of the libfem side of tumblr for as long as I’ve been on this website. I never really got involved in the gender politics, though, and I remember saying things that were strictly questioning that stuff without even realizing that’s what I was doing. I never posted anything about it though, I simply wasn’t involved. The only discourse I was ever invested in was the whole “are ace people lgbt?” stuff. I do a lot of research and I love listening to the opposing side and reading their blogs, watching youtube videos and listening to what they have to say. So, eventually ace discourse bored me, so I somehow slipped into radfem blogs. I found myself agreeing with most of the stuff these women talked about. I reached out to a few of them and asked them about my concerns. Of course, they were all very welcoming and understanding; They were nothing like the hostile libfem side. You know how it is. It’s like walking on egg shells around them; Don’t say this, don’t say that, don’t question anything… 

As I hope you can tell, I found myself in a community that actually cared about the stuff I cared about. This was the kind of feminist I wanted to be, the kind I had always felt like I was without being able to put it into words. I agreed almost fully with them, and it only took me a few weeks to abandon the irrational beliefs I had once held.

There was just one problem. The same problem you are describing. I didn’t have that many friends on tumblr as I usually just kept to myself around here. I knew the few friends I did have would probably leave me if they found out, and they eventually did. But losing a few acquaintances was nothing in comparison to potentially losing my girlfriend. She was more invested in the libfem discourse (she had identified as nonbinary from the day we met), and I was so scared of her finding out I was agreeing with radical feminist ideology because of the way that is demonized on this website. However, she hadn’t been on tumblr for almost a year and hadn’t seen the escalation of the discourse in question and how bad the lesbophobia had gotten.

A few weeks went past. I was struggling with this every day, it felt as if I was back in the closet again (I don’t fully wanna compare it to being in the closet as a lesbian, but the feeling was similar although not the same). I hid something I had found myself really really invested in to my girlfriend, and we share everything from phone passwords to our deepest darkest secrets. I just had to tell her, even though I knew it could be really damaging to our relationship. So I started dropping some hints, asking some questions; Trying to be subtle. We had a few arguments but I didn’t push because I didn’t want to say the wrong things. Finally, I just told her that I needed to explain why I had been acting so weird.

I explained how I felt, not what I thought. Naturally I go for thought, and not feelings when explaining myself. But this was important to me even on an emotional level. I explained myself, and I gave her some blogs I had been following. I found that we agreed on basically everything I had brought up. I knew we did, I know my girlfriend, but I was so scared something would still be in the way seeing how she was more invested in the libfem politics than I was (basically the whole thing you’re describing in your ask with wanting to accept and support everyone). I left it all out in the open, cried a little bit because I felt so relieved, and I left her to do her own research. 

To make a long story short, we agreed with each other. She understood how important this was to me, and it was important to her too. She said, “This is the kind of feminist I’ve always wanted to be,” just like I had thought when this all started. Everything made sense, we had actual arguments, we had actual facts to support us. Suddenly, we could actually do something about the injustices we see in the world. 

So, to answer your question. If you genuinely care about the people you’re mentioning, and you are confident that you mean as much to them as they mean to you, and you word things right, they’ll understand. Try and aim for understanding instead of full acceptance. They don’t have to agree with everything you say, but if they don’t want to lose you, they’ll at least try to understand. It sucks to not be able to express yourself fully around people you care about; Especially about important things like this. Try to speak from heart. Try to explain why liberal “feminism” hurts you. Why it can hurt other women. Then comes the facts, the statistics, the rationality. Show receipt blogs. Show your favorite radfem blogs. 

You’re bound to lose some friends on the way. Not everyone will understand. I’ve reached out to numerous libfem lesbians on this website asking questions, being curious about how they think about this stuff, and only been met with hostility and defensiveness. It’s frustrating, I know. But it’s worse if those people are your friends. I do think that friends are more prone to listening, though, since they know you personally. They know that you’re not a bad person. They know your opinions don’t come from a sinister place. Like I said, this website paints critical women (especially lesbian women) as demons. I’ve seen ridiculous claims about the supposed harm radical feminism does. Things that are blatantly untrue. But when those claims are all people see, they’re going to believe them. 

We all need to stand up against this. You are strong and brave for standing up, for even thinking about talking about this to your friends. Feminism is not meant to include everyone; It is a political movement for the liberation of females. When women understand this, we are unstoppable. That’s when we can make a change. I believe in you, anon. I’d love to hear from you again when/if you come out with your radical feminism to your friends. 

I hope my answer isn’t too messy. Come back if you have any more questions, and good luck 💕

/ Mod W