#they'll invalidate the aro identities of partnering and romantic aros just because they have a narrow view of aromanticism

[aro-bird]

#not entirely sure what this post is ab so sorry if im misunderstanding#but as an oriented aroace i wanna say some thoughts ab shit i see in fandom spaces a lot#particularly toh#whenever there is an aroace character specifically not interested in relationships everyone rushes to say 'oh well some aroace ppl!!!'#because they view oriented aroaces and other aspecs who enjoy relationships as 'less aro'#and when we try to say smth we get shut down and told we're erasing our own experiences#on the opposite hand we never recieve any support when we actually need it#like we're ignored until its time for us to be used in an argument against relationship averse aroace rep#sorry for the ramble but like#its driving me insane

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Yes, this post is specifically about that!

These people don't care about aros until our identities could be used as a weapon against other people. These people don't really care about the real aros that they're using the identity of and only use them as an excuse to justify their bigotry.

It's downright insidious and even harmful to partnering and romantic aros and it's disgusting.

Real-life aros are NOT just identities you can use to slap on your aro erasure just so you could make excuses. They are real people with real experiences, not just non-existent hypotheticals you could use to win some dumb internet fandom argument.

Alloaces, partnering aros, and other romance-favorable aros should never be used as an excuse to erase a character's aromanticism. Those are real identities of real people, not a gotcha card when someone calls you out on blatant aro erasure.

You aren't being progressive when you're trying to justify what you're doing when you take the little representation that aromantic people have and change it to something closer to what you deem acceptable for the sake of shipping.

You aren't being progressive when you're attacking aspecs for complaining about blatant arophobia within places where they should feel the safest especially if they find themselves within those aro characters.

You're just being a dick.