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[theartofunlearning]

February...the month of the infamous Valentine's holiday.

Per Wikipedia it was originated as a Christian feast day honoring one or two early Christian martyrs (person considered to have died because of their testimony/faith/belief in Jesus) named Saint Valentine and has become a commercial celebration of romance and love in many regions.

Although I celebrate Vday, I haven't always enjoyed it. This year was a bit different.

There's been times when I received flowers, jewelry, romantic dinners, a romantic weekend, balloons, bears, etc. and there were times when, I received nothing, NATHAN, nada...usually my love for the holiday was based on who I was with and what I received. The ONLY consistent thing about the holiday was I GAVE to my son, he's received a Vday gift from me for the last 19 Vdays. The consistency of giving to him reminded me what Love really looks like.

During my quiet time I was praying about what to share for my heart day post and I received this download.

UNLearn the way you see Love! When I tell you everything I've gone through has later been revealed as a lesson. So as I've been UNLearning the Art of Love these are a few things I'd like to share.

Love is more than a feeling. Most times when you ask someone, "How do you know it's love?" the reply is usually something like..."he/she makes me feel good" or "it's the feeling I get when I'm around them." Now don't get me wrong feelings are valid, but I've done MANY things (stay focused in my Tabitha Brown voice) that FELT good, but wasn't Love. And if you're ok with just wanting to feel good, this message isn't for you...this message is for the lovers in the house!

The ones who give 100% in relationships.

The ones who yearn for real companionship.

The ones who "decide" to be vulnerable.

The ones who love hard.

Make sure your next Love shows:

Appreciation

Trust

Forgiveness

Communication

Empathy

Compassion

Correction

Accountability

Motivation

Respect

If you're not getting these things, it's not Love and this is for relationships, friendships, partnerships, family"ships" . But if you focus on more than just a good feeling, I'll bet you my lunch money that you'll see Love more consistently!

I spent my Valentine's and Galentine's with people who offer me all the characteristics I mentioned. It was a weekend of pure joy, laughter, crafts, and lasting "feelings" with no companion in site! Don't believe me, here's the pics to prove it!!!

I hope your day was great, but if it wasn't consider UNLearning how you've been taught to view the holiday and make it your own!!!

Love you,

Deb

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[theartofunlearning]

Last day of Winter.

First day of Spring.

Day-light savings.

St. Patty's Day.

Spring Break.

ANNNNNDDDDD My Birthday!!!!!

You guessed it, I'm referring to the month of March! If you know me, you know I love my birthday and usually have several events planned to spend time with my close family and friends to celebrate, but not this year...I planned NOTHING! I initially thought about reclaiming the BIG 4-oh! since I was preggers with my little mini and laying low to avoid contracting COVID-19 last year, but again just wasn't "feeling it". I wasn't feeling it because my milestone birthday had passed and every idea I'd had for years leading up to it had been taken off the table. Originally I said I would spend my 50th in Africa, but COVID-19 showed up and out across the world and that was out of of question. As my 40th was approaching, I'd looked up going to an island since traveling had began again and then I learned I was growing a special little one inside me, so those plans were out of the question. Usually we celebrate milestone birthdays: 1st, of course, 5, 10, 13, 16, 18, 21, 25... and so on. I mean you can go into Hallmark and purchase a card that says Happy 26th Birthday! It's doesn't exist, but why not!

Who decided which Birthdays are milestones?

One definition of milestone is an action or event marking a significant change or stage in development.

So, by definition 41 is actually my milestone year...because this past year, my God today! It was full of significant changes and stages of development in all areas of my life. So this year I'm UNLearning to concept that we only have huge celebrations for our milestone years, but inside celebrate as grand, make it as special and EXTRA as you want it to be for whichever year it is..."Because that's yo' business!" as my girl Tab would say!!!

Don't allow anyone to dictate your milestones, the significant years will differ for each individual.

Love you,

Deb 😘

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