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Pronouns

In most languages, pronouns are used to refer to nouns. If we all only referred to each other by our names, let's face it, this would get so repetitive! 

In reference to the transgender community, our pronouns, or preferred pronouns, refers to how any person feels comfortable being addressed as.

The most common pronouns used by transgender people are: - He/Him - She/Her - They/Them

These are not, however, the only pronouns there are. If you are ever in doubt of someones pronouns, simply ask them politely and discretely!

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Packing

Packing (verb): A term used to describe the use of a non-flesh penis.

Packing is, much like binding, most common for masculine presenting transgender people and partakers in drag. There are some who simply refer to their prosthetic/non flesh penis just as their penis - many can be used for sex and to pee while standing. There are three common methods of packing:

- DIY Packers: This is an affordable method of creating a bulge in one's trousers. Common DIYs include using socks to create a bulge, or filling a condom with hair gel and tying it off.

- Store bought packers/"Strap-ons": These are often found in adult stores. They come in a variety of sizes and skin tones, both cut and uncut. Some have testicles, can be used for sexual penetration, or can be used to stand and urinate. Most can be held in place by a jockstrap or harness.

- Prosthetic Penises These are made to look and feel like a typical cisgender penis, and is attached to your body with medical adhesive. Some models can be used for sexual penetration and/or urination while standing. However, these tend to more expensive than other packers.

As one may guess, most packers require cleaning, and usually come with the instructions to properly do so.

Potential Risks of Packing:

Consider wearing a condom if you are using a rubber or Cyberskin packer or prosthetic penis for sex, as it is possible to spread HIV and other STIs with them.

Some people experience skin irritation from the materials of packers. This can be helped by wearing two pairs of underwear, with the penis in between them, to protect your skin.

Others may have allergic reactions to the medical adhesive used for prosthetic penises.

Sources: - http://www.phsa.ca/transcarebc/care-support/transitioning/bind-pack-tuck-pad

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Gender Identity Definitions

As most people in the LGBTQ+ community knows, the terms 'transgender' and 'non-binary' are simply umbrella terms. There are many different gender identities, and I can't claim to know them all.

Some of the more "common" gender identities include:

Bigender: A gender identity which can be literally translated as 'two genders'/'double gender'. These two gender identities could be male and female, but could also include non-binary identities.

Cisgender: A non-trans person (A person whose gender identity and gender expression is aligned with the sex assigned at birth).

Demigender: A gender identity that involves feeling a partial, but not a full, connection to a particular gender identity. Examples of demigender identities include demigirl and demiboy.

FTM/Trans Man: A female-to-male trans person. Note: Some trans men don’t think of themselves as having transitioned from female to male (because they always felt male). Some people prefer to be referred to as men rather than trans men

Gender Fluid: Individuals who experience different gender identities at different times. A gender fluid person's gender identity can fluctuate between multiple genders at once, none at all, or single gender identities. Some gender fluid people regularly move between only a few specific genders, perhaps as few as two.

Genderqueer: A person whose gender varies from the traditional 'norm' or who feels their gender identity is neither female nor male, both female and male, or a different gender identity altogether.

MTF/Trans Woman: Male-to-female trans person. Note: Some trans women don’t think of themselves as having transitioned from male to female (because they always felt female). Some people prefer to be referred to as women rather than trans women.

Multigender: Refers to people who experience more than one gender identity. It is usually used as an umbrella term for other identities which fit this description. Examples include (but are not limited to): bigender (two genders), trigender (three genders), polygender (many genders), pangender (all genders) and genderfluid (variable gender).

Neutrois/Agender: A gender identity which is considered to be a neutral/null gender/genderless. Some who consider themselves neutrally gendered/genderless may identify as both, while others prefer one term over the other.

Sources: - http://www.teni.ie/page.aspx?contentid=139 - https://www.itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2013/01/a-comprehensive-list-of-lgbtq-term-definitions/

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Dysphoria Definition

Gender dysphoria (noun):

A distressed state that stems from the conflict between a person's gender identity and biological sex. 

There are two widely recognized forms that gender dysphoria can take:

Physical Dysphoria: Discomfort related to one’s body.

Social Dysphoria: Discomfort related to how one is viewed by society.

There is huge debate in the trans community whether or not one needs dysphoria to be trans - the lack of education on the topic doesn’t help, either! Regardless of your opinion on the matter, take a moment to reflect upon your motivations before invalidating someone’s identity - consider that no one understands another’s mind, body or experiences more than said person does.

Our enemy is not each other, but the lack of education and acceptance that surrounds the transgender community!

Sources:

- https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/113146-social-not-physical-dysphoria/

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Legal Transition in the UK

Note: I have also posted information on legal transition in Ireland and the US. To find it, search #legal transition - you will find all three legal transition posts!

As in Ireland, there are two ways in which a person legally transitions in the UK: - Legal name change - Changing your gender marker on legal documents

Legal name change: This can be done at any time with parental permission, or independently at 16/18+ depending on whether you are making an unenrolled deed poll, an enrolled one, or a statutory declaration.

Statutory Declaration: Statutory declaration is the simplest and most common and it only costs around £5 to have it witnessed by a solicitor. The declaration is basically a document that states quite simply that you are no longer using your previous names and now intend to use your new name. It needs to have a specific format in order to be legally binding.

Deed Poll: For an unenrolled deed poll, you may change your name yourself once you reach 16. ‘Enrolling’ a deed poll means that you’re putting your new name on public record. You can only do this if you’re 18 or over. You must apply to the Royal Courts of Justice to get an ‘enrolled’ deed poll using the deed poll process. It costs £36.

Changing your gender marker on legal documents:

Generally, the following are required in order to apply for a Gender Recognition Certificate:

You’re 18+.

You’ve been diagnosed with gender dysphoria.

You’ve lived in your acquired gender for at least 2 years.

You intend to live in your acquired gender for the rest of your life.

There is, however, an alternative route. For that, this is required:

You’re 18+.

You’ve been diagnosed with gender dysphoria or have had a form of gender confirmation surgery.

You live in England, Wales or Scotland most of the time.

You intend to live in your acquired gender for the rest of your life.

You’re in (or have been in) a protected marriage or protected civil partnership before 10 December 2014 (16 December 2014 for Scottish partnerships).

You’ve lived in your acquired gender for at least 6 years before 10 December 2014 (16 December 2014 for Scottish applicants).

Applying for a Gender Recognition Certificate:

Complete and sign the right statutory declaration for your circumstances;

Fill in the appropriate form ( https://www.gov.uk/apply-gender-recognition-certificate/how-to-apply has a link to these forms)

Gather the relevant evidence (as above)

Send your completed application form to the GRP.

This costs £140

Sources:

- https://www.mermaidsuk.org.uk/assets/media/17-15-02-A-Guide-For-Young-People.pdf

- https://www.gov.uk/change-name-deed-poll

- https://www.gov.uk/apply-gender-recognition-certificate

- https://www.nataliegambleassociates.co.uk/knowledge-centre/changing-your-legal-gender-in-the-uk

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Gender Identity Vs. Gender Expression

Gender Identity: How a person identifies themselves, or what they refer to themselves as.

Gender Expression: How a person presents themselves. This can be affected by their clothing, makeup or lack of, etc, and is generally described as masculine, feminine, or androgynous.

One’s gender expression often matches their gender identity, however, this is not always the case. One’s gender expression does not invalidate their gender identity.

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Transtrenders

Transtrender (noun): NONEXISTENT

For the most part, I like to keep my own personal opinions away from this blog. This isn't always possible, but I do try my best to maintain a neutral standpoint, so that my blog may reach a lot of people and not cause upset. It can be upsetting to see a whole blog post that disagrees with you, filled with indirect hate comments aimed towards those who share your opinion, and I understand that. 

However, I feel this is a very important topic to share my opinion on - it is not one that I can properly research because it is considered to be a somewhat new “problem”.

First, rather than diving into opinions, I would like to highlight the effects that this term has on the transgender community as a whole:

The term "transtrender" destroys the idea that it is okay to question your gender identity - even as a teenager when this is most likely to happen. It insinuates that, unless you are a "100% approved 'real' trans" kid, you may never ask that people (even temporarily) refer to you with different pronouns and/or names as you attempt to find yourself.

The blow-up of this concept has led to the invalidation of the transgender community from all angles, by both the transgender community itself and by transphobes worldwide. In a way, it validates the transphobic argument that being transgender can be a fad in the first place.

This concept insinuates that others have the right to decide what gender you are, based only on their own interpretations of the construct of gender. Also, that they may then insist they know you better than you know yourself.

That last point may strike a chord with people -  it is the exact same idea that we have been fighting against throughout trans history, that anyone gets to decide who or what we identify as.

Now, back to the term itself. Urban dictionary defines a "transtrender" as: "A person who identifies as male or female but does not experience any gender dysphoria. It can also mean someone who identifies as male or female because they think it’s trendy/cool."

There are multiple problems, however with this definition. 

The primary problem: THERE IS A MASSIVE LACK OF EDUCATION ON TRANS ISSUES AND TRANS-RELATED DEFINITIONS. Feelings that you may identify as dysphoria, other's may identify as dysmorphia, low self-esteem, or anxiety. There is no fully accepted definition for what it is to feel dysphoria. On top of this, the difference (but equal validity) between social and physical dysphoria are rarely discussed!

Note: Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD): A distinct mental disorder in which a person is preoccupied with an imagined physical defect or a minor defect that others often cannot see/notice.

Other, very important problems:

It is not seen as trendy or cool to identify as transgender. People are abused for it, harassed and assaulted for it - some of us have DIED for it. That. Is. Not. Trendy.

Gender and gender roles are social constructs. I take great comfort in the construct of gender, but the gender roles/norms associated with them make me uncomfortable. This is the case for many, and leaves us with a choice: either conform to gender roles in order to “pass”, or express ourselves freely and face the consequences with it.

Gender presentation and gender identity are two completely different things that do not have to coincide. In fact, gender presentation changes meaning from person to person, depending on their view of gender roles.

YOUR GENDER IDENTITY IS A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. No two people experience dysphoria in the exact same way and/or with the exact same intensity. This is one of the many reasons why "defining" what it means to be transgender is so difficult - there is no one experience that defines it.

It is important for me to specify that this post is not made to attack anyone, in or outside of the transgender community. On the contrary, I want this to reach the people who disagree with me - I would genuinely like to hear why someone may disagree with this post! I would simply like to highlight in this post the absurdity of the idea that there is such thing as a "fake transgender person", or a "transtrender" when exploring one's identity is an important part of life. We have no right to decide who is or is not trans for anyone other than ourselves. In closing, the term "transtrender" may have been created with good intentions. Now, though, it is a misleading concept that only does damage to the transgender community and to those who are exploring, or who are now too afraid to explore, their own gender identity.

Sources:

https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/mental-health-body-dysmorphic-disorder

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_identity

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_expression

https://letsqueerthingsup.com/2015/03/28/why-the-trans-community-needs-to-ban-the-word-transtrender-for-good/?blogsub=confirming#blog_subscription-11

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DON'T ASK THAT!!! TRANS* EDITION

It occurred to me that I've gone so much into the "technical" side of being transgender in these posts. There is so much out there to talk about, and a lot of research to be found about being trans - what it means to be trans, the dangers we face.

This post, however, is more aimed towards cisgender people who may find this blog.

Hi! Welcome, and thank you for making an effort to educate yourself on transgender issues!! Spreading this information to EVERYONE is my goal, and I'm so happy to think that this blog might just reach outside of the community itself.

While I'm all about asking questions and educating yourself, this does NOT mean you can just walk up to any transgender person and ask them about whether they pack with socks or with a prosthetic penis!!! Just like with all human beings, there are just some things you don't ask someone unless you know them REALLY, REALLY WELL. So, I've decided to make a list of things you should NOT ask transgender people. Feel free to add anything you feel I have left out in the notes!

A general guide, of course, is to just ask yourself: Would I ask this question of a non-transgender person in a similar situation? If the answer is no, well, I think you get the gist.

"When did you decide to be / become trans?"

"What was your name before / So what's your 'real' name?"

ANY QUESTIONS SURROUNDING GENDER CONFIRMATION SURGERIES. PLEASE. DO. NOT. ASK.

"Which bathroom do you use?"

DEAR GOD PLEASE DON'T ASK ABOUT TRANS PEOPLES' SEXUAL ACTIVITIES

"Do you do drag? / Are you a transvestite?"

"How did your parents react?" (If you don't really know the person, just don't ask.)

"Are you sure you aren't just a tomboy / gay?" OR "Wouldn't it have just been easier to be gay?"

"Can I see a picture of you before?"

"Can I feel your boobs / penis?" For real???? REALLY???? DON'T ASK THIS TO ANYONE???

"Do you think you'll ever go back?"

Sources (ft. reactions):

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p02rx9mm

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/news/a40328/things-never-say-trans-person/

https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/06/whats-ok-not-ok-ask-trans-person/

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Legal Transition in the USA

Note: I have also posted information on legal transition in Ireland and the US. To find it, search #legal transition - you will find all three legal transition posts!

As in Ireland and the UK, there are two ways in which a person legally transitions in the US:

Legal name change

Changing your gender marker on legal documents

Legal name change can be done from any age with parental permission, and both can be done from 18 without it.

It's worthwhile to note that companies such as LegalZoom offer packages that streamline the name change process, giving you the paperwork you need to fill out for your state. The cost for this starts at about $139 ( https://www.legalzoom.com/personal/marriage-and-divorce/name-change-overview.html )

In most states, you have to pay a fee (around $150 to $200) to file your name change petition in court. It also costs a small amount of money to get forms notarized.

Not all states require that you file your name change in court, but some do. Realistically, you might still need a court order to show as proof of your name change to banks, the SSA, or the DMV because these organizations are wary of identity theft. Some states also require that you advertise your new name by publishing it in a newspaper.

Keep in mind that, unlike in Ireland and the UK, since laws change from state to state, I can only provide links to sites that can guide you fully through the processes of changing your name and gender marker. You can also visit your state's government website to get clear instructions for your area!

For both your change of name and change of gender marker processes, Transgender Equality provide guides for ALL states, and in the case of changing your gender marker, specific instructions on updating your legal documentation These guides can be found here: https://transequality.org/documents They can also provide how friendly each state tends to be about your changed gender marker.

THE FOLLOWING STATES REQUIRE PROOF OF SURGERY, COURT ORDER OR AMENDED BIRTH CERTIFICATE TO CHANGE YOUR GENDER MARKER ON SOME LEGAL DOCUMENTATION: Alabama, Georgia, Iowa, Kentucky, Louisiana, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas

Sources:

- http://mentalfloss.com/article/78427/7-things-know-legally-changing-your-name

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Being Trans in Public

Note: “Being Trans” is a series of posts I hope to continue. To see the others, search #being transgender

No one should have to feel afraid to step out the door being themselves. Unfortunately, for many, if not MOST trans people, this is simply our harsh reality. 

Transgender crime rates are, once again on the rise in the US (2018 holding the highest number of reported transgender homicides since 2013). Ireland has one of the highest rates of hate crimes against transgender people and those of African descent in Europe (as shown by a study done in 2017) Even more unfortunate, is that this fear is far from irrational. Most out transgender people, by the age of 18, will have faced at least one uncomfortable situation in public because of their gender identity or presentation. These can vary from mildly uncomfortable situations, to terrifying, traumatizing, and life threatening ones. 

Here are a few examples, as provided by a joint study in 2013 by TENI and ILGA Europe:

**TW/CW: MENTIONS OF R*PE AND USE OF TRANSPHOBIC SLURS**

“I was walking with 2 friends when a man started asking if I was a guy or a girl. When I didn’t answer and walked on he started shouting louder threatening to hit me. He then decided I was a girl and started singing a song about how he was going to rape me. He followed us down the road singing this song till he got bored of us not replying.” – 22 year old bisexual trans man.

“Was walking down the street when I heard loudly behind me, ‘ya fuckin’ tranny queer’. Ignored it and walked on, held my head high. ‘Tranny queer!’ This continued for a good bit before eventually, ‘watch your back next time I see you’. ” – 18 year old bisexual trans woman.

Problems Faced by Transgender People in Public:

Verbal Abuse

Physical/Sexual Abuse

Threats of violence, among other serious and terrifying crimes

Questioning of gender and/or genitalia by strangers

Fear of public restrooms (this has been explained in detail in my post on Being Trans in School)

Accidental and/or purposeful misgendering, resulting in heightened dysphoria/anxiety.

This list goes on.

There are, of course, measures that many transgender people tend to take that significantly boosts their chances of staying, for the most part, physically unharmed.

What You Can Do To Stay Safe:

Knowing/Having at least one method of self-defence. No matter WHO you are, this is ALWAYS a good idea, and could save your life on more than one occasion.

Attending regular counselling/therapy sessions. Mental health in the transgender community is a MASSIVE issue (I discuss this more in my Being Trans in School post). Whether or not something has already happened, or you're afraid something will, I would recommend regular counselling sessions to each and every one of you, if you are in a position where you have access to them. Having someone to talk to, about anything and everything, could just save your life.

PRACTICING SELF CONTROL!!!  As much as I hate to say it, not reacting to people's comments (despite how much these people may deserve a smack) could save your life as well. This takes a lot of self control - more for some than for others.

TRANSGENDER FRIENDLY HELPLINES:

Ireland:

LGBT Dublin/Galway/Kilkenny: 1890 929 539

Aware (Depression & Bipolar Disorder): 1800 804 848

Pieta House (Suicide & Self Harm): 1800 247 247

UK:

National Trans 24h Helpline: 0844 358 3204 / 0752 752 4034

SANEline (Mental Health): 0300 304 7000 (4.30pm–10.30pm every day)

National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0800 999 5428

USA:

The Trevor Project (Mental Health & Suicide): 1-866-488-7386

Trans Lifeline: 1-877-565-8860

GLBT National Helpline: General - 1-888-843-4564                                                                           Youth - 1-800-246-7743

Sources:

https://www.iccl.ie/news/ireland-high-hate-crime-no-laws-to-address/

http://gallery.mailchimp.com/20394040945a32c736eefb556/files/072a1ce2-3087-42b1-87f8-d42e5631b0b0.pdf

https://eu.usatoday.com/story/news/2018/09/26/2018-deadliest-year-transgender-deaths-violence/1378001002/

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Being Trans in School

Being transgender in school is almost always difficult. Daily, you are faced with at least one, if not MANY people who do not understand what it means to be transgender. This lack of education leads to many problems, from staff, students, and even parents of other students. Unfortunately, even with supportive friends, parents and school staff, being young and transgender can be painfully lonely.

Common Problems Transgender youth face in schools:

- Bathrooms and Changing Rooms:

There has been a lot of talk on US news stations about bathroom usage fo ALL transgender people, not just youth. There are arguments thrown around about chances of sexual assault or the dangers for other kids. HOWEVER, it is actually more dangerous for the transgender people who are using public restrooms.

According to a collection of studies spanning from around 2004 to 2015, summarized by Fenway Health in the States:

About third of LGBT students report feeling unsafe at school because of their gender identity or expression.

A study done in Washington, DC found that 70% of transgender and gender nonconforming people reported being harassed, assaulted, or denied access to public restrooms.

Bullying

According to a study released in 2017 by LGBT charity Stonewall, about 64% of trans pupils are bullied for being transgender. This is the majority of trans youth. And when trans youth are bullied/harassed at school, or receive inadequate support from teaching staff, it has a direct impact on their mental health.

Discrimination/Lack of Respect from School Staff

It's not uncommon  for a lack of respect to be shown by staff in schools - commonly in strict or religious schools. This can span from a refusal to use a students preferred name or pronouns, or repeated "forgetting" to do so.

Uniforms or Dress Codes

Many students report being refused to wear their preferred uniform without parental permission or appeal to the school board - especially in single sex schools.

In schools without uniforms, students face a higher chance of encountering discrimination from other students or even staff for wearing/presenting as their gender identity, rather than their assigned gender.

How this can affect transgender youth and their mental health:

A study done in the US in 2018 suggests that:

Around 50% of teenage transgender boys have attempted suicide at least once.

42% of non-binary teens have at least one prior suicide attempt.

About 30% percent of teenage trans girls have attempted suicide at least once.

28% of adolescents who are questioning their gender identity have also attempted suicide at least once

In contrast to all of these groups of transgender teens, just 18 percent of cisgendered (non-transgender) female teens and 10 percent of cisgendered male teens have attempted suicide.

According to a study done by TENI (Ireland) in 2012:

44% of trans respondents said they self-harmed. 38% reported self-harming in the past and 6% currently self-harm.

78% of trans respondents said they had thought about ending their life. 63% of respondents said they thought about attempting suicide in the last year.

Know Your Rights in School:

You have the right to be treated according to your gender identity. That’s true even if you haven’t done things like changing your ID or getting medical treatment, and your school cannot require you to show proof of these things in order to have your gender respected.

You have the right to be called by the name and pronouns that match your gender identity. Sometimes people make an honest mistake, but teachers and school staff aren’t allowed to call you by the wrong name or pronouns on purpose even after you tell them how you want to be called.

You have the right not to be bullied or harassed because you are transgender or gender non-conforming. If school administrators know that you’re being bullied or harassed, they have to take action to end it.

You have the right to use restrooms and locker rooms that match your gender identity, and you can’t be forced to use separate facilities. If you feel safer or more comfortable using a private space, or if you’d like to use a separate space for a short period of time, you can request that—but your school can’t force you or pressure you into using a separate restroom or locker room if you don’t want to.

You have the right to dress and present yourself according to your gender identity. This includes how you dress at school every day as well as for dances, graduation, and other school events. You need to follow general dress code rules that apply to all students, but your school has to let you follow those rules in a way that matches your gender identity.

You have the right to protect your privacy and choose who you tell or don’t tell about being transgender. If you want to keep that information private, your school must make sure that things like your transgender status, your former name, or your medical history are kept as confidential as possible.

Laws That Protect You in School:

(U.S.A.) Title IX is a federal law banning sex discrimination in schools. This includes discrimination against someone because they are transgender or don’t meet gender stereotypes or expectations. Title IX applies to all schools (including both K–12 schools and colleges) that get federal money, including nearly all public schools.

Laws/school district policies in many places worldwide also protect transgender students from discrimination. Generally these policies or laws will be listed online or in school journals. In Ireland, discrimination based on gender identity or sexual orientation is illegal.

(U.S.A.) The Equal Access Act requires all student organizations, such as a Gay-Straight Alliance or Pride Alliance, to be treated equally. This means that schools cannot ban certain types of groups or single them out for worse treatment.

(U.S.A.) The Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) protects personal information about students in school records, and in most cases it makes it illegal for schools to share that information with others without permission from a student or (if the student is a minor) their parents. This includes information about their transgender status or medical history.

The First Amendment of the U.S. Constitution protects students’ freedom speech and freedom of expression. That includes the right to dress according to your gender identity, talk about being transgender openly, and express your gender in other ways.

(Ireland) The Equal Status Acts 2000-2015 prohibit discrimination in the provision of goods and services, accommodation and education - this covers the grounds of gender, including transgender people.

(UK) Transgender people are one of the protected groups under the Equality Act 2010, which specifies both ‘gender reassignment’ and ‘sex’ as protected characteristics.

Sources:

- https://www.reuters.com/article/us-health-transgender-teen-suicide/trans-teens-much-more-likely-to-attempt-suicide-idUSKCN1LS39K - http://www.teni.ie/page.aspx?contentid=673 - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/jun/27/trans-teen-lgbt-bullying-schools-report - https://fenwayhealth.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/12/COM-2485-Transgender-Bathroom-Bill-Brief_v8-pages.pdf - https://www.transgendertrend.com/uk-transgender-rights-legislation/ - https://www.ihrec.ie/guides-and-tools/human-rights-and-equality-in-the-provision-of-good-and-services/what-does-the-law-say/equal-status-acts/

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Being Trans Online

While the internet, unlike the outdoors, provides little to no opportunity for direct physical harm to us, it is still just as dangerous. There are fewer consequences for what is said online, and this can is potentially very damaging for minorities such as transgender people - ESPECIALLY trans youth. Just as for all youth, the internet has brought as many opportunities for harm as it has for growth.

The dangers that transgender people face online:

Misinformation - There are a lot of people out there spreading information, both intentionally and unintentionally. This can be severely damaging to the transgender community.

Cyberbullying - The abuse, sadly, does not stop in the streets. People can say some really nasty things online, and being bullied is hard for EVERYONE, no matter your identity.

Manipulation - There are many people, in and out of the trans community, that try to use your/their identity/situation as a mask or a means to get people to do what they want. For trans youth especially, this could lead to compromising situations that could traumatize them in ways others can only begin to understand.

Exposure to sensitive/inappropriate topics in the case of trans youth - The internet is far from a sensitive platform of information or communication. The last thing we want is for youth as young as 10 being exposed to information about self-harm, or to stories or visuals of other disturbing content. This information and those visuals are out there, and in ABUNDANCE.

Exposure to dangerous individuals - Whether it is to a pedophile, a murderer, a manipulator, a kidnapper, or any other dangerous individuals, we don't truly know anyone online. This puts all people, not just transgender people, at risk.

Things we can do to minimize the risks for ourselves and for others:

Always research before spreading something - Make sure the information you're spreading has something to back it - whether it's a different source or making sure the original source is not outdated. In the case of information surrounding the transgender community, sometimes the cause of an argument is simply an opinionated person who has got the facts wrong. It can just be as simple as providing the correct information.

Be careful 'where' you are online - There are some platforms online that are full of hate - Tumblr itself has its fair share of unpleasant individuals. It is a case of avoiding these threads, or even the worst of these platforms, completely, and warning others about them! Reading harmful threads, or worse, replying to them can put you under a lot of fire that you don't need or deserve to deal with. Being trans is hard enough without reading hundreds of thousands of threads about what people say they "would to you" if they ever met you, simply because you're trans.

Be careful who you speak to online - There's nothing wrong with making friends online - it's one of the joys of the internet. But it's important to know who to put your trust into, and to know where you're drawing the line with them. If you're getting dodgy vibes, don't ignore them! You don't "owe" anyone online anything, and if you're putting your all into "friendships" online with very little back, don't be afraid to drop out of this, or even seek help. There are some horrible people online, so please, keep your guard up. This goes for anyone.

Know your triggers - If there are topics, threads, people or content that endangers you by being in contact it, try your best to filter it out! Many platforms have filters you can put in place to keep certain content away from you - don't be afraid to use them. Don't hesitate to block people who scare you, and DO NOT hesitate to know when you have to report things to the police if they get out of hand!

NEVER READ THE COMMENTS ON HATEFUL/'CONTROVERSIAL' POSTS, ESPECIALLY IF THEY PERSONALLY  AFFECT YOU - Just don't. It's not worth it, and it will probably upset you more than you expect.

I know this topic isn't exactly "trans exclusive". However, it is very important. There are too many threads of transphobia across more platforms than one can count online. Transgender people already face higher mental health risks than the average person, and something as simple as blocking certain tags, or knowing when to stop interacting. might just save a life - and that life might just be yours.

What to do when:

You're being harassed online:

https://www.googleadservices.com/pagead/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwjZ2-uxoc7iAhVvte0KHfxoChgYABAAGgJkZw&ohost=www.google.com&cid=CAESEeD2C74aVHB0VR9uBSo-VeH_&sig=AOD64_28gaw4636PLLsnwf2KbJFtXpdzYA&q=&ved=2ahUKEwi8reOxoc7iAhXBTRUIHfOGCgEQ0Qx6BAgLEAE&adurl=

https://www.seventeen.com/life/a14724/dealing-with-cyberbullying/

http://endcyberbullying.net/what-to-do-if-youre-a-victim/

Many of these recommend talking to an adult, as they are aimed towards a younger audience. In the case of older people seeking help, it could be just as helpful to talk to a counselor or a therapist if you have one, or even to START counseling or therapy if needed!

You're being threatened online:

https://www.lifewire.com/what-to-do-if-youve-been-threatened-online-2487763

http://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/Find-legal-information/Personal-rights-and-safety/Safety/Threats-abuse-and-harassment

You're being stalked online:

https://www.googleadservices.com/pagead/aclk?sa=L&ai=DChcSEwilodnEo87iAhUKsO0KHR7WCPEYABAAGgJkZw&ohost=www.google.com&cid=CAESEeD2901YONTQTVFcff3vns71&sig=AOD64_105u_rUzAiz0s357k7KcQ9dpvMSg&q=&ved=2ahUKEwjb_dHEo87iAhVxs3EKHeMhCrkQ0Qx6BAgKEAE&adurl=

https://www.stalkingriskprofile.com/victim-support/cyberstalking

You want to avoid certain content:

https://famisafe.wondershare.com/internet-filter/internet-filter-reviews.html

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Legal Transition in Ireland

Note: I will be doing two further legal transition posts - one for the UK, and one for the USA. If there are requests to do more of them for other countries, I will do so!

There are two major legal steps that almost every transgender person takes in their lifetime, regardless of whether or not they physically transition:

- Legal name change

- Changing their gender marker on their legal documents.

In Ireland, both of these things are possible from 16 with parental support, and from 18 without it.

Legal name change

The cheapest way to go about changing your name legally in Ireland is by deed poll, and to do it yourself. This costs about €50 in total. You will need:

Your birth Certificate

Your PPS number

A form of official ID - like your passport or age card

Official Deed Poll paper

Transgender Equality Network Ireland (TENI) provide a step by step guide for doing this, which you can find here:

http://belongto.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/233_deed_poll_how_to.pdf

They also offer support for transgender people and their families, as well as peer groups to help you every step of the way!

Changing Your Gender Marker on Legal Documents:

This, unlike changing your name, does not cost any money.

You will need:

Your PPS number

A completed GRC1 form ( http://www.welfare.ie/en/pdf/GRC1.pdf )

Your birth certificate

If you've changed your name by Deed Poll, you will need the document proving so.

If you wish to have a name other than the one on your birth certificate shown on on your Gender Recognition Certificate, but you have not changed your name by Deed Poll, you will need evidence of "use and repute" over two years (documentary evidence from two different sources such as your passport, driver's licence, college identification card, pay slip, utility bills, bank statements or official correspondence from a public or private sector organisation which show at least two year's usage of that name).

How to apply:

Complete the GRC1 application form  (Link listed above).

Sign the declaration at part 2 of the form and have it witnessed by one of the following: Peace Commissioner, Notary Public, Commissioner for Oaths or Solicitor.

Attach the required documents listed above.

Post the form and documents to the address below:

Client Identity Services Department of Social Protection Shannon Lodge Carrick-on-Shannon Co. Leitrim N41 KD81

Sources:

- http://www.teni.ie/page.aspx?contentid=1417

- http://belongto.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/233_deed_poll_how_to.pdf

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Transitioning

Transition (Noun/verb): The process through which Trans people achieve the appearance, gender expression and self-image they feel is right for them.

There are two main ways for transgender people to transition:

Social Transition:

This changes how people see you socially, and generally involves:

- Cutting or growing your hair - Binding and packing/tucking and padding - Coming out to friends/family (only if it is safe to do so) - Legally changing your name and legal documents (I will provide more details on this in a later post) - Changing your gender expression through your clothes or makeup (if desired)

Physical transition: (I will provide more details on this in a later post)

This changes your body, rather than just the appearance of it. It involves:

- "Gender therapy" is generally required for a diagnosis of gender dysphoria. In many places, this is required before one man physically transition. - Hormone treatment - depending on how you wish to present, this will be periodical doses of Testosterone or Estrogen - Gender Confirmation surgeries - often referred to as "top surgery" - for the construction or deconstruction of breasts - and "bottom surgery", for the construction or deconstruction of a penis

The aim of transitioning is to feel comfortable in yourself - what you look like, and how you appear in society. Some transgender people do not feel the need to physically transition, or only wish to go on hormone treatment. Others may want transition "fully". Your transition means YOUR decision, and you have your whole life to do it!

Sources:

- http://www.belongto.org/youngpeople/advice/transgender-info/transitioning/ - http://belongto.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/12/FTM-A-2-Minute-Guide-to-Transition.pdf

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Padding

Padding (verb): The use of undergarments to create the appearance of larger breasts, hips or buttocks.

Generally, padding is seen as a much cheaper and safer alternative to cosmetic modifications and silicon injections.

Common products that help with padding are:

- Padded underwear - Breast forms - Bras with pockets - Padded bras

Generally, these products will come with their own cleaning instructions. However, it it worthwhile to  note that sweat can cause breast forms to break down, so it is recommended to wash them with soap and warm water after use.

If you have any extra questions about packing and/or tucking, or corrections to this post, feel free to send me a message or an ask! I will answer as soon as I can, and may add the answer into the post!

Sources:

- http://www.phsa.ca/transcarebc/care-support/transitioning/bind-pack-tuck-pad

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Tucking

Unlike binding and packing, tucking is more prominent in feminine presenting transgender people (and, of course, drag).

Tucking (verb): The act of hiding the penis and testes so that they are not visible through clothing.

There are a couple of ways to tuck, and people tend to use the most comfortable method for themselves.

If you prefer to simply tuck your penis and testes between your legs, and this can be maintained using tight, firm underwear. 

You may prefer to tuck the testes inside of themselves - the goal here is to gently push the testes into the inguinal canals. 

Using two or three fingers, one gently lifts each testicle into the scrotum and through the corresponding inguinal ring.

 Note: Much like binding, you need to listen to your body during this process - tucking should not hurt, and if you are experiencing nausea or pain, you should consider stopping, and trying again at another time. 

Once the testes are tucked, some people tuck the scrotum, while others wrap the scrotum around the penis and secure it there with tape.

Note: If you plan to use tape, you might want to use medical tape – it is safer than duct tape because it breathes better and is easier to remove. Removing ANY tape will be more comfortable if you shave your pubic hair before taping. Again, this is maintained with tight, firm underwear.

There is very little research done on the potential risks of tucking, but there are a few experiences that have reoccurred throughout the trans community:

There is a chance of pulling or tearing sensitive genital tissue, which can be very uncomfortable. This is less likely to happen when you know your limits, and listen to your body.

There can sometimes be a buildup of tape in your genital area - this can be solved easily with medical remover (available in most medical supply stores).

If you have any concerns, and are in the position to do so, I would suggest you ask a trusted medical professional!

Sources:

- http://www.phsa.ca/transcarebc/care-support/transitioning/bind-pack-tuck-pad