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12. Have you ever come out to a cute person of your preferred gender just to see if they’re LGBT also? 19. Any times that you almost accidentally outed yourself?

Coming Out Asks - accepting 

~♥~ Wynter ~♥~ 12. Have you ever come out to a cute person of your preferred gender just to see if they’re LGBT also?Nah. The town I live in isn’t exactly homo friendly, so the less that know, at least where I live, the better and safer I feel. So most of the time I hide my attraction. I’m just kinda thinking to myself “Oh, she’s cute. Way outta my league too. I’ll just keep my mouth shut.” 19. Any times that you almost accidentally outed yourself?Being at the age I am, family get togethers are friggin hell to try to stay as closeted at home as I am. Because I always get asked, “Why haven’t you settled down yet? You’re 30 already, you sure you don’t wanna get married?” Or “Don’t worry, the right guy will come along soon.” And half the time it makes me wanna scream. I got bombarded with questions like that at Christmas dinner by my Grandma who is highly religious and feels the LGBT+ community are nothing but abominations of God and sinners who need to be converted. Midway through dinner, Gram started on me asking “Why aren’t you married yet? Almost all of your friends are and they have kids. Why haven’t you done anything with your life yet?” As if marriage is the only thing in life that defines success. BULLSHIT! But while she was going on and bashing me, I lost my temper and almost said “Because I’m gay.” Which would have most likely gotten me kicked out and disowned by that side of the family as well, seeing as they’re the more religious side and dad’s half of the family already acts like I don’t even fucking exist. I got lucky though. My cousin, who is one of the only ones in the family that I know I can trust to come out to, had my back. I got out the “Because I’m g-” and he cut me off and finished it saying “Going to wait. She’s been hurt too much already. She just doesn’t want to get married, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Look at me, I didn’t settle down until 2 years ago, what’s that make me?” Gram dropped it then. My cousin pulled me aside later and told me “Please be careful with your tongue. You’re always safe to talk to me in privacy about your girlfriend or bring her over if you need to get away, but remember, even though times have changed, there are still those out there who aren’t as tolerant or accepting and I don’t wanna think of what they might do to you if they knew, or what I would have to do to them if I found out they hurt you.” So while my cousin is accepting and supportive, what he said still kind of hurt, but I do understand his reasoning. Just because of some revolutionary movements that scored more rights for the LGBT+ community, that doesn’t mean everyone out there is accepting and tolerant, so it’s still not 100% safe and probably never will be. So I’m just really thankful that even though my tongue slipped, my cousin had my back. But it really put it into perspective that even though it’s become more normalized than way back before, it’s still not safe for some of us and it may never be. I could end up taking a lot of hate or even being threatened for posting this. But it’s a risk I’m willing to take. I know I crack jokes about it a lot, but honestly if I didn’t get a laugh out of my sexuality I know my name would be among the list of LGBT+ who have committed suicide already. Joking about it is the only way I can cope in a world that’s constantly fueled by stereotypical media that’s shoving straight couples and happy loving supportive families down my throat while the only LGBT characters I see are being sexualized or harassed and bullied, disowned by their families and kicked out of home and exiled or they’re dead already. The part that hurts the most is because it’s the truth. This shit happens every fucking day! A lot of us can’t come out because we’ll be disowned, kicked out and abandoned, beaten, harassed, even sexually assaulted and raped or killed. I was lucky my cousin stood up for me at dinner. And my heart breaks for those who were less fortunate when something like that happened. But it opens my eyes a lot and even if you’re just a straight ally, if something like that ever happens, I hope you have that person’s back. Because you might be the only person who does have their back, the only one in their fucking life who cares enough to support them and gives them a safe space to talk about their life and their lover and that could be the one factor preventing them from becoming just another victim’s name in a hate crime statistics list or LGBT+ suicide statistics list. And please don’t ever forget that!