#therapy time with michaelah❤️‍🩹

[snowseasonmademe]

hi everyone! im michaelah, i’m 20, i’m black, im a capricorn ♑️, and i’m american🇺🇸. let’s talk about music, fine men, astrology, girly topics, therapy sessions or anything you want to say or ask, this is a safe space. i have my masterlist of fics ive written, music i listen to and an important message about mental health. i hope you have fun here ;)

Mental Health Message

Masterlist

I’m down to chat if anyone has questions or anything you wanna talk about

xx🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

[snowseasonmademe]

https://www.tumblr.com/snowseasonmademe/775580815059976192/okay-so-i-have-a-feeling-my-boyfriend-is-cheating

No we don’t but we do have a dog

okay so you take the dog. he clearly doesn’t need another bitch to take care of. what i would do is gather as much evidence as you possibly can, get all of your things out of his place and you take his things out of yours, take all your stuff home, lock your doors (because men are fucking crazy unfortunately), send him all the evidence, wait until you know he saw it and then block him on everything.

[snowseasonmademe]

https://www.tumblr.com/snowseasonmademe/775571735612391424/so-how-did-things-go-with-your-old-bestie-like

what did she do?

okay so to sum it all up the final nail in the coffin was this:

she forgot my birthday (had been been best friends for 4 years at that point) and then lied to me and told me that she was sick and hungover from partying the day before. i knew she was lying because i saw her location leave her dorm 5 times that day so she couldn’t have been that sick. she didn’t say anything to me the whole day. we had a tradition of sending a happy birthday text at 12:00am and she didn’t. i saw her being active on insta and i was reposting my family’s bday post of me that whole morning. then when she finally did call and text me she called me in a group facetime with one of our mutuals at like 10:30pm. and then she sent me a half assed text. i wouldn’t have gotten as upset if she didn’t lie about it. the lying is what really did it for me. i always, always encourage open communication so her lying was it.

there were other things before this that were wrong but i didn’t make it a big deal because i always bright it up to her and fixed it (or thought i fixed it), but that was it for me.

[snowseasonmademe]

https://www.tumblr.com/snowseasonmademe/775568532609073152/hi-michaelah-how-are-you

Aww☹️ Do you have someone to talk to?

yes but there are some thing i won’t burden people with!

[snowseasonmademe]

so how did things go with your old bestie? like how did you feel when it happened vs how you feel now?

when it first happened, like the second i realized what was going on i was like “okay, i know what i have to do now”. very matter of fact. the day after i was hysterical the minute i woke up. i cried that whole morning. the only reason i stopped crying is because my mom and sisters took me to a buffet for a post birthday meal. it was really ugly the day before (my birthday) so we went the day after. when i got back home i was a lot less emotional and just coming to terms with it. every day for about a week and a half after she would keep sending me memes, and texting me about stuff but i didn’t say a word. always left her on delivered. she was just acting like everything was normal, no apology or acknowledgment that she did anything wrong. then about two weeks after, she texted me venting about something that was hurting her but i didn’t answer. i really wanted to but i didn’t. that might sound harsh but i felt like that’s what i had to do. after that day she blocked me and stopped hearing her location.

now i feel like it was good that we stopped being friends. i see now from the outside looking in that i was a better friend to her than she was to me. there were things throughout our friendship and shady thing towards the end that she did that were just wrong. things i would never do to her. we did have a strong bond tho. we spent almost every single day together in high school and we were super close. we were actually supposed to go to college together. we both got accepted but i ended not going to that school in the end. i take my friendships extremely seriously so her treating my like i didn’t mean a lot to her crossed the final line. she still hasn’t apologized to this day but she unblocked my spam account on insta lol. we don’t follow each other but yeah i thought that was funny.

i was never angry about it but more hurt. i really do hope that she learned to appreciate her good friends more because i don’t think at the time of the drama that she had someone like me. i hope she’s doing well and happy.

side note: i heard ariana grande’s unreleased song ‘outgrown’ about 6 months after this whole thing happened and i got really sad. but i love the song now :)

[snowseasonmademe]

https://www.tumblr.com/snowseasonmademe/775569255327465472/hello-ive-been-reading-the-conversations-youve

Same anon here. What if she never apologizes?

my ex bsf didn’t answer i just had to thug it out. i definitely did deserve an apology but it wouldn’t have mattered if she did because i wouldn’t have forgiven her. i’m guessing you want to forgive her but if she doesn’t apologize then i would recommend just leaving it alone. you shouldn’t be friends with someone who doesn’t appreciate you and wouldn’t defend you or believe in a situation like this.

[snowseasonmademe]

https://www.tumblr.com/snowseasonmademe/775569255327465472/hello-ive-been-reading-the-conversations-youve

over a man?? girl get a new friend. not with it.

i agree, but its easier said than done. it’s hard when you have/had such a strong bond with someone. it’s not easy to build that kind of bond with someone new. i feel like friendship breakups are worse than romantic ones imo.