#the vibe of all the surgeons started going down hill as soon as they got a 3d printer and decided that meant they were
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i was so tired of every fucking surgeon on the show doing groundbreaking (tm) work and i am so glad we are basically back to helpless little clueless interns who are messy and passionate and not overly jaded yet. i missed that era (seasons 1-6, specifically) of greys
#grey's anatomy#ga#i love that meredith isnt there anymore actually and i love these little baby interns#the vibe of all the surgeons started going down hill as soon as they got a 3d printer and decided that meant they were#better at research than anybody else in the world#er never did this to me their doctors were like no im exhausted i work in a county hospital who the fuck you kidding i am not doing extra#work when im already having my soul sucked out of me because ofthis job
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Thank You, Taylor Swift
So, Iām going to put this under a cut, just given the sensitive nature of the post, and the fact itās really long.
The very short, trigger free version, is that itās a love letter to @taylorswift after listening to Lover for what feels like the millionth time and specifically why I relate so much to Soon Youāll Get Better. The part that references cancer, depression, and death is warned about with a clear, visible end. So it wonāt just come up on anyone who reads this.
Iām not a big believer in finding romantic love. Iāve seen very little of it in my life, my parents have been fighting for as long as I can remember and that kind of darkness seems to have plagued my life. But that isnāt say I donāt believe it exists. Iām a writer and I have seen my characters fall in love. I have written love of all kinds, from platonic, to familial, to yes, even romantic love. As easy as it is written, it is infinitely harder to find, in my opinion.
I can say Iāve never been romantically in love. And thatās okay for me, for right now. Iām in a dark place in my life, have been for far longer than I sometimes want to think about, but Iām still moving. Part of why Iām still moving is because of my friends, of my chosen family, of the people who have been in my life to love me and to keep me going. That love means a lot to me. And so does this album.
Itās Nice To Have A Friend, as romantic as it ends, reminds me of the first friend I can truly say I could have loved romantically. He was my best friend from the ages of 11 to 17. He meant the entire world to me. We dated, sort of. It was secret and in the background, but he was there when my world first started falling apart. The song itself is sweet and soft and nice. It reminds me of Maryās Song, which had been one of my favorite songs of the self titled album. Because, above all else, I love hearing about other people in love.Ā
Another song that reminds me of Nick, unfortunately, is Death By A Thousand Cuts. I spent a lot of time wrapped around his memory. Because he disappeared from my life. It was this weird period of my life and it hurt. I ended up losing a lot of people I thought were my friends, so to lose him too was too much. It hurt less because I loved him romantically and more because I he was my world in a lot of ways I didnāt know you could love another person.
I Forgot That You ExistedĀ is a song that now makes me think of him, and a few otherĀ āfriendsā that abandoned me at various points in my life. The people Iāve now forgiven and forgotten about enough to be able to remember the good times, and the bad, without getting hurt. Itās just indifference.
Paper Rings is the first song I definitely had to put on repeat. Itās so upbeat and honestly makes me just really happy. Itās a good dancing song, something to bounce around to and, in a sense, dream to. It reminds me of my sister and her boyfriend, honestly. Theyāre the first kind of proper romantic love Iāve ever really seen in my life. They are so sweet and understanding of each other and they just moved in together as a way to help my sister. Sheās honestly thinking of proposing to him and it makes me really happy for her, and for them. He respects her and he respects me, which is something previous boyfriends of hers didnāt do.Ā
If you want to avoid the talk of cancer, death, and depression please skip down til you find the gif. Everything after that will be positive again, cos I refuse to end on a depressing note.
So, in December of 2018 my mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. I was living with my sister, it was Christmas time, mother didnāt tell us until after Christmas. It was weird for us. Weāve never had a good relationship with our mom, for a number of reasons, so hearing she had cancer came weird. I donāt know if it was shock or something else, but a lot of it wasĀ āitās not the kind of cancer we imagined sheād getā cos sheās a smoker, so we figured, if anything, itād be lung cancer.
Flash forward to late January and Iāve returned home with my parents. Mother is sick and needs someone to watch out for her while my dad works. I donāt like being back in the family home, itās messy and fuels my depression, which fuels my anger. Itās not a good attitude to have when trying to care for someone with cancer, I know this. I just canāt help it sometimes, though I try.
Shortly after my return, mother started chemo and she started going down hill. I stopped sleeping in my own room so I was close to her at night when she was most liable to fall and hurt herself. And she did. A lot. And every time I fought to pick her up. I fought to pick her and up and stop the bleeding. Itās a thankless job, I knew this coming into it, but I had no choice. Sheās my mom. Yeah, I have a really bad relationship with her and this isnāt liable to change, but this is something I have to do.
So, the first however many times I listened to Soon Youāll Get Better I didnāt necessarily react. And then September 4th rolled around. My grandmother, who was the kind of woman who pushed through everything, had been diagnosed with cancer so many times and come back every time, died. I didnāt have a good relationship with her either, barely knew her, she barely knew me but she was the stubborn sort. She died in the early morning hours, before Iād even gone to bed. Iād ask her not to die on my birthday (the 5th) and she didnāt, but it was hard to take either way.
Later that day, on my way to Orlando, to celebrate my birthday, I had my mom stop at Target. I needed a physical copy of Lover in my hands and Iād never gotten a Target Exclusive version of Taylorās albums before so I needed it. Happy birthday to me, right? Well, I decided I wanted to play Soon Youāll Get Better for my mom. I cried. It was the first time Iāve cried in a really long time. And I want to kinda talk about why.
In doctor's office lighting, I didn't tell you I was scared That was the first time we were there Holy orange bottles, each night, I pray to you Desperate people find faith, so now I pray to Jesus too
I went with my mom to a number of her appointments with her, including sitting through chemo with her on more than one occasion. I was raised in the church but as Iāve gotten older lost my faith, lost what it means to believe in a higher power. Because Iāve been hated on in churches, being queer and trans. But in all of this Iāve re-found parts of my faith.Ā
I know delusion when I see it in the mirror You like the nicer nurses, you make the best of a bad deal I just pretend it isn't real
Something Iāve always done, something I got from my mother, is you take the bad things and you shove them under the rug. You forget they exist and I hate to say it, itās what Iāve been doing. To whatever extent I can. Because I donāt know what Iām supposed to do if I donāt, yāknow?
And I hate to make this all about me But who am I supposed to talk to? What am I supposed to do If there's no you?
Itās hard to explain that fear, thinking about what life would be like if she dies. Because as bad as my relationship with my mom is, sheās one of the only pieces of sanity I have close. I mean this in the sense that I talk to my mom a lot, about a lot of stupid stuff, and sometimes about deep stuff. Maybe I do it because I know she wonāt remember all of it, or any of it, cos our conversations often happen late at night, but I do it. I talk to her and I donāt know who Iāll talk to like that if she doesnāt get better.Ā
Part of why Iām writing this is because she might not. My mom has a lot of health risks, things that make operating for the cancer dangerous. Itās another reason why my sister and I were surprised when they said she had pancreatic cancer. We found out today that while the surgeon is willing, sheās high risk. Being high risk, the anesthesiologist might deem her too risky. That, despite all of this, she may not be able to get the surgery to remove the tumor. She hasnāt had chemo since May because sheās been too sick and too weak. Itās possible that if they canāt do the surgery, she wonāt be able to do chemo again either to keep in check.Ā
Thatās hard to take, for all of us and part of me just wants to put Soon Youāll Get Better on repeat because what else can I do? Iāve done what I can but itās just not enough.Ā
So, thatās the long winded explanation of why I love that song and relate to it so much.Ā And, cos I probably made anyone reading this cry:
Now to try and end this on a much more positive note.
A lot of the songs on the album that I donāt necessarily have proper connections to, that I still love deeply.Ā Cruel Summer,Ā You Need To Calm Down and Me! have this vibe that makes me want to dance, flat out. I go way too hard to the bridge in Cruel Summer. Like, itās just one of those things I do and I do so apologetically.
London Boy, Daylight,Ā Ā Cornelia StreetĀ and Lover are dreamer songs. Songs that make me believe that love does exist in a romantic sense. That when things are rough and tumblr, I can listen to and feel better, cos at least for someone out there a love like that exists. One that is bright and brilliant and still so very soft. Theyāre also really good songs to dance to. Like, this album really is full of bops.
So, Taylor, should you take the time to read this long post by a random person on the internet, thank you. Thank you for Lover. Thank you for the truth. Thank you for being you. This album has been such a bright spot in my life right now. I take joy in the little things and I take a lot of joy out of this not-so-little thing. This album makes my heart happy, even in the dark and itās a beautiful thing.Ā
Love,Ā
Charlie (they/he)
#taylor swift#taylorswift#ts7 lover#cancer tw#depression tw#death tw#lover#lover album#not now Charlie
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