#the strangest most amazing dynamic fr

[tortoisebore]

I am big sister with younger brother (almost 2 years apart). We are very different: he was the easy child and now seems like a well adjusted adult, has a gf, works a real adult job, lives in the same city with our parents and visits them..... and I am the queer problem child who moved far away at 16, unstable and unemployed. So.... we are very different and have really not much in common :D I was sad about it at one point but nowdays it is ok. We see rarely but get along if we do.

this is so reallllll omg i think allll the time about how my siblings and i (especially my oldest-younger sister) grew up almost identically with all the same levels of discipline and care for most of our childhoods and ended up with such wildly different experiences, especially with our parents.

oldest child is a very difficult role to play, too—i still find myself having to work through the side effects of growing up as an oldest daughter. therapy did wonderssss for that lmao but it’s something that will always be with us, i think

i’m glad you’ve reached a level of peace with your brother. i hope one day you can reconnect and find solace in each other again <333