#the constant deadnaming from the landlord

[cjoatprehn]

I’m shaky, tired, and stressed as I type this but-

I am going to be homeless in 30-37 days.

Updated with payment links

Um…I have stayed the extent of the time I’ve been able to stay with the folks I’m currently staying with. I had stayed a few months already. Since mid-May 2023. No one expected me to come and stay this long. They were able to house me longer term. Life just had other plans. They did as they were able. They know my situation. They, nor I, can’t control the systems and all. But I do need to go.

I’ve received 30 days notice. They can extend a week, but no further (thus the 37 days). I’ve put in housing applications, to help with housing, and I’ve checked with other friends that I could possibly stay at, in this state at least. But neither are able to take me in. Which I knew already as they explained their situations and I’m not going to add myself to the mix of their daily lives. I’m grateful for the family I’ve been with and their hospitality. I have run out of options in terms of safe places to stay. I saw it coming a few weeks back I just…

Everything I’ve worried about came flaring up again. I can’t go back to my abusive mom. Nor any of my family, as the majority of them are Christians. I don’t want to live in that atmosphere anymore. The only reason I know the folks I’m in is because of an ex-partner, and their network which…I’m no longer dating due to traumatic reasons. I have reached out to others to see what else I can do immediate-wise.

I don’t…I don’t know what else to do; or where else to go atm within state. It’s bad timing too, just on my part, It’s getting cold. I haven’t located my winter coat. The most I have is my winter boots and sweatpants and sweatshirts as winter clothing; along with other things, which may not even all fit in my one suitcase.

I knew it was coming but…It……I’m…really fucking scared. So I come to y’all. I will…turn off my throne wishlist for now. Without an address to send things to, I can’t receive them without complications. 30 days from now is November 12, 2023; 37 days is November 19, 2023.

I’ll pack starting tomorrow. I…need financial support, encouragement, love, or…miraculously a place I can call my own without a landlord involved. Landlords are already shitty in majority. Very little are truly good folk.

I don’t want to be driven to the dark depths of my mind that put me in where I may take my own life as it’s better than this constant up and down whiplash of lash. I’m not in that state of mind. I would like to keep it that way. I have promises to keep. Promises that keep me alive and would affect many if I don’t keep them.

This will be pinned, so check this updating link for details in terms of financially and otherwise. Halloween will not be a very treatful time for me, as it seems.

Thank you for reading.

October 16th, 2023 Update:

Payment/fundraising links Listed Below

Cashapp (US & UK only)

Venmo (won’t be able to transfer to bank instantly but—it seems to work?)

Wise (US and Most International Countries) - lyrica.anya@gmail.com

ZellePay (US only) - lyrica.anya@gmail.com

Give to ABLE Account (US only? I think?) (Ignore Deadname Pls and Thank you)

Wishlist | US and most International I think? | (going to stay open since I’m allowed to continue having my mail sent here.)

Website - Pay It Forward (Context 👈🏽 clickable)

Ko-Fi - CJOAT | PayPal or Stripe only payment methods

Payoneer - psprocketworth@gmail.com

[lonelyshrimp]

How come you’re moving out?

Ive been sitting on this question for a while bc like. Boy howdy, how the Fuck do i answer this. Like. Where to begin?? How much detail???

Basically both the landlord and her husband are extremely triggering to myself and one of my roommates, the landlord keeps acting like everythings fine and nothings wrong, when she does admit that theres something wrong she will either downplay it or try to blame us, shes attempted to bribe me into moving out on 10 days notice bc she thought i had been planning to move out by that date (note: i had been, but she never confirmed that with me. She got that info from my roommate and never confirmed it) and thats just the tip of the iceberg.

Now we get to the house itself. Simply put? Its a deathtrap. Its a rooming house, very common in this region, and theyre great money makers. The rents cheap so its about all low income folk can afford, and usually theyre not well maintained. This is no exception. Currently im down to only a half bath bc the full bath is Not Safe to be in bc of ongoing sewage issues we've been having since?? March??? April???? Theres the rat problem that the landlord just wants to ignore completely (weve seen them inside in broad fucking daylight.) Oh!! How about the fact that the landlord replaced the washer and dryer w sub-par machines (the washer has rust in the drum, the dryer doesnt heat properly and will nearly burn the house down w/o actually drying ur clothes, neither machine was washed before being installed. During a pandemic.) that we Cant Even Use bc a rat died in the walls and now the room reeks of death (and so I cant do laundry bc im broke and disabled and cant get to a laundromat :)) fun)

This is a long post and like. Ive barely scratched the surface. The insecurity of the house. Multiple break and enters. The biohazard in an abandoned room. The number of sharps containers in the house and garage. The mould. The abandoned fridge. The list goes on and on and on and on and luckily we have a good property manager now and hes working on getting us out of here bc its Not Safe. At All.

[spongehole]

Sitting by and doing nothing while your gf is in this situation is even worse than calling the police to help her, even if she is black and trans. Of course you do not just let her do this, that’s ridiculous. This is an extremely serious issue and even the idea that you’d let her go through with this when you know There are things you can do to help is awful. I’m not trying to be harsh but please do something. Contact the owner of the building she lives in, call the police cut doesn’t matter 1/2

"2/2 or her landlord or anything. if you know literally anyone in the nearby area who could help, contact them. Research help hotlines in the area, get her in contact with a hotline. There are other services out there which can help people, look for them online and contact them. Stay in constant contact with her, and if she stops responding, call medical services. This isn’t something to be taken lightly, it is a person’s life."

I have been in contact to make sure she was ok, I stayed up until 3am to make sure she contacted me after she went to work so that I would know she was still ok and to talk with me, and me doing this made her feel better. I frantically looked everywhere for contact info on her family, using her deadname, hoping I could get a family member to check on her. It feels fucking helpless being over a thousand miles away from someone you care for as they decide to potentially end it, or are in emotional distress in general. I felt helpless to help her , and I still do tbh. I encouraged her to see help when she mentioned it, to see a psychiatrist. I plan to fix my paypal acct so I can send her money, she has 30 days to prepare. I know nothing about California or how to help her over there, just because I don't know California eviction policies or who to call in California doesn't mean I'm heartless and uuncaring. I do feel uncaring, and feel like I'm not upset enough by this, I want to help her , I don't want her in pain but I can't do much for her