#the body dysmorphia and just the general hatred of my body is killing me and I'm so helpless. i so desperately want my sexy body back bc it
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#this is going to be another rant#I'm just sitting here thinking of how I managed to lose weight last year bc I haven't been able to muster up even 0.1% of that energy so far#it's getting very disheartening tbh and idk what to do. i feel so helpless. i haven't opened my wardrobe in months now bc nothing fits me#the body dysmorphia and just the general hatred of my body is killing me and I'm so helpless. i so desperately want my sexy body back bc it#made me feel happy and confident and good about myself and i just can't...like i just am not able to even walk anymore bc my body and brain#aren't cooperating. if i be completely honest.. atp I'm constantly thinking that killing myself would be easier than losing weight and#getting back into shape. this happens everytime. my first thought or solution to everything is killing myself. it seems easy and something i#can possibly do??? idk. I wish there was a magical way of getting back what I had#i wish i hadn't binged on so much junk food last year#this is getting super difficult for me.#yeah#tw body dysmorphia#tw body image#tw weighloss#tw eating issues#hera#hera core#personal rant#rant time!
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What Bothers Me About Anon Hate
Or really any hate, but it seems to show up with the grey face & sunglasses more often than not.
Personally, I just block. I figure if I donât engage, theyâll get bored - and it seems to work. Iâm also careful about tagging. I donât put anything ship-related into general tags. I try to tag my shit with the appropriate ships and warnings for the purpose of blacklisting. And I donât really get involved in a lot of discourse. Itâs just not for me. I like to stay in my happy bubble.
Still, every now and then, someone comes into my inbox with some toxic crap and I want to talk about why it bothers me.
Sometimes, theyâre telling people to kill themselves. Sometimes theyâre telling me to kill myself. And while that doesnât get to me I know that it can cause actual harm to others. And I think that that sort of ill-wishing harms the sender as well. Letâs really think about this: Because anon disagrees with the fictional characters someone ships, anon wishes death to them. And often all anon knows about the person is the fiction they consume. Anon doesnât know if âkill yourselfâ will roll off like water on a duck or possibly trigger some sort of self-harm. Possibly be the last voice among many that pushes them too far. I would not want that on my soul.
More often, in my experience, anon hate takes the form of insults. Anon calls the person theyâre attacking ugly, calls them old, calls them fat. As if by degrading their physical appearance, anon can devalue their target as a person. As if âoldâ is the worst thing, as if âuglyâ is evil, as if âfatâ is unworthy of decency. And anon is so, so wrong, and it makes me sad for them.
If âoldâ is the worst thing anon can imagine, theyâre going to have a very rough time as they age. The older I get, the more I appreciate the wisdom my elders tried to impart when I was young. The older I get, the more I appreciate what my elders still have to teach. The older I get the more I know myself, and Iâm happier with myself, and I can appreciate and love so much more in humanity then ever before.Â
âUglyâ is... kind of non-sensical. Another thing that has come with age (and yes, Iâm definitely middle-aged) is a realization that... people are beautiful. And true ugliness... that comes from inside. From causing harm and delighting in it. The physical appearance of poor health or uneven features doesnât say anything about a personâs soul. Iâm wracking my brain trying to think of people I consider ugly, and all Iâm coming up with are people like Trump or McConnell, and even that is more about the expressions on their face than the form of their features.
âFatâ is the insult that truly troubles me. Mostly because anon frequently has no way of knowing whether their target is fat, and because fat is so subjective, and because who knows if anonâs target has an eating disorder that could be triggered by that, and also I worry for anon. If âfatâ is so awful to anon... I hope they donât have the sort of body dysmorphia that would lead to an eating disorder.Â
Mostly, the thing that bothers me about anon hate is that in my experience, people who devote their energy to hating others are often projecting their own self hatred outwards. And that makes my heart hurt. There are so few people who are truly worthy of that level of hatred. And anon, even with the harm theyâre sending out into the world, is not one of them. I have to believe that the sort of person who sends out attacks like that is fairly young, and I just...Â
When I get an anonymous hate message, I want to hug them and tell them itâs okay. That life can continue, their world can expand, they can find out how to love themselves and not feel so much anger at the world. And if theyâre not as young as I imagine, if theyâre closer to my age, or even older, my heart breaks to think that they havenât found that yet. But I canât hug them, and I know if I responded and told them this, anon would only try to prove that no, itâs me they hate, so all I can do is block them and hope they reach a point in their life where they look back at these days with regret.Â
And this is me letting anon know: I donât hate you. I forgive you.Â
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mental (st)illness
We preach about weight loss and disease prevention and other aspects of physical health but we rarely talk about taking care of our mental health.
While itâs generally accepted that we all struggle from time to time, very few like to admit they might struggle more often or to a greater degree than what might be considered the norm. But if no one talks about their struggles, how can we even define a norm?
Iâve always tried to be transparent with my struggles with depression, disordered eating, body dysmorphia, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts. Itâs because I want others to know they arenât going through it alone. One of the worst parts of mental illness is how isolating it can be. Iâve often felt that no one could possibly understand my loneliness, fear of people, the compulsion to binge eat, or my deep-seated self-hatred. But Iâm not the only one. So many people deal with it every day. And knowing that doesnât fix the problem but it does take some of the pressure off it. And it makes you feel a little less alone and a little more understood.
And because we donât like to talk about it, you never know whoâs going through something difficult. Money, class, and religious affiliation does not exclude you from depression. Just think of celebrities like Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, and Robin Williams. Â They have access to the best psychiatric care possible and it didn't help them (assuming they sought treatment). And through the years Iâve learned the people from high school who I thought had it all were in actuality suffering greatly. One classmate killed himself about a year ago and another, arguably one of the most popular girls in my grade, is currently in treatment for severe anorexia. Iâve even talked to people who said they thought I had it together but Iâve always felt like a huge mess.
You just never know what someone is going through in secret. So why do we make it so hard to tell each other? Why do we make it so difficult on ourselves to reach out, to give a helping hand or to ask for one?
I got to a point where I knew something had to change in my life or I just wasnât going to have one. So I sought counseling. Iâve been in therapy for about a year now and while none of my problems have been magically erased, I do believe it has helped.
One of the best things about it is just knowing I have a safe zone where I can rant, cry, and ask questions without the fear of being judged or shamed. But really thatâs something anyone with a good friend can do. And let me tell you, therapy ainât cheap. So if you do have a good friend with a willing ear, use it. If youâre in a position to go to therapy, use it. If neither of those are an option, research online resources.
I donât have as many destructive thoughts anymore. I donât automatically tear myself down when I make a mistake. Iâm insecure and I want positive attention and reassurance and companionship. I want to make a difference, feel like my life has meaning. Iâm also scared of being left behind, scared Iâm not good enough for people, scared to stand up for myself. I can be aloof or distant because I donât want to be abandoned again. I let others reach out first because I donât think anyone wants to talk to me and I donât wanna be a burden. I have high standards and low self-esteem. I love giving advice but canât take criticism. Iâm hard on others and extremely hard on myself. But itâs only because I know we can all do better.
And all those good intentions and bad habits make me human. And I realized thereâs a difference between wanting to be better and beating myself up for not being perfect. Iâm never going to get it right every time, whether that comes to people, work, or art. But that doesnât mean Iâm not worthy of the good things life and people have to offer.
One of the things Iâve learned in therapy is to love myself, something Iâm not sure Iâve ever done, something I never even thought I should or could do. But it makes sense. When you donât love yourself, you allow other people to dictate your actions, your mood, and even your self-worth. But the more you love yourself, the less others have control over you and the more you get to have a say in how you live your life.
We make the easiest things in the world so hard for others. And ourselves. We keep affection at a distance because we donât want to feel vulnerable. We attack othersâ choices because it makes us feel superior. Pain begets pain and, well, that's just not cool. But I get it. I want to lash out at people sometimes too. Not because I want them to hurt like I'm hurting but because a lot of the time I don't think people realize how badly I am hurting.
But I guess that's when we need to take a step back from our own pain to recognize other people's paths. If only we could use our experiences to help guide instead of gun down the hard times of others. Pain isn't a pissing contest. We all have it crappy in one way or another. And as long as we can keep our crap and everyone else's crap in some kind of perspective, it might make things easier on all of us.
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 PHOTO: COURTESY ERIK TANNER FOR ROLLING STONE  Rapper, singer, flutist, and actor, Lizzo is finally getting the recognition that she deserves. Sheâs not an overnight sensationâthough it sometimes feels that wayâsheâs been on peopleâs radar since 2013. This year, her third studio album âCuz I love Youâ dropped and every appearance, event, and concert that sheâs been involved inâsheâs slayed. She even managed to kill it at Coachella despite sound problems. I donât think thereâs anything that Lizzo canât do. Lizzo isnât having a moment; sheâs proving herself to be the superstar she was always meant to be. Lucky for us, sheâs taking us along with her on her journey of self-love and acceptance. The bigger the platform she has, the more opportunities she has to use her voice for change. I wish Lizzo had been around when I was growing up. I wish I had heard her messages of loving yourself and your body, self-acceptance, and female empowerment when I was struggling with myself. Feeling that because I wasnât what the media thought of as beautiful, I wasnât worthy. âIf you love me, you can love yourself,â Lizzo said when she performed on NPRâs Tiny Desk show. Loving yourself and your body, feeling empowered, and acceptance are her messages . Sheâs unapologetically sexual which for a larger woman can seem like an act of rebellion and her comfort with her body is inspiring. Lizzoâs messages are universal. We all need to love ourselves, make peace with our bodies and who we are, and feel that weâre strong, worthy, and beautiful. When we practice self-care , do affirmations, and focus more on the positive rather than the negative aspects of who we are, we can gain confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth. Words have power, especially ones that help uplift us, support us, and make us feel better about ourselves. Sometimes just reading a spiritual quote can make you have a lighter feeling or thinking about something that someone you admired said can encourage you to keep on moving forward and growing as a person. Here are 25 Lizzo body-positive, self-love, empowerment, and self-care quotes to lift you up and remind you that youâve only got one life to learn how to love your body and yourself.  I donât think that loving yourself is a choice. I think that itâs a decision that has to be made for survival; it was in my case. Loving myself was the result of answering two things: Do you want to live? Cause this is who youâre gonna be for the rest of your life. Or are you gonna just have a life of emptiness, self-hatred and self-loathing? And I chose to live, so I had to accept myself. Thatâs the first step: Acceptance. And acceptance is hard. Iâm still accepting myself every day; Iâm still working on it. â Lizzo âI donât think that loving yourself is a choice. I think that itâs a decision that has to be made for survival; it was in my case. Loving myself was the result of answering two things: Do you want to live? Cause this is who youâre gonna be for the rest of your life. Or are you gonna just have a life of emptiness, self-hatred and self-loathing? And I chose to live, so I had to accept myself. That's the first step: Acceptance. And acceptance is hard. I'm still accepting myself every day; I'm still working on it.â NBC NEWS  I just want everyone to remember if you can love me. You can love yourself. Every single day. If you can love my big black at this tiny, tiny little desk, you can love yourself. â Lizzo âI just want everyone to remember if you can love me. You can love yourself. Every single day. If you can love my big black at this tiny, tiny little desk, you can love yourself.â NPR  When weâre on stage doing a song about positive body image or another about female empowerment, everyone out there is super into it and right there with us. Itâs been awesome. I feel like we fit right in. â Lizzo âWhen weâre on stage doing a song about positive body image or another about female empowerment, everyone out there is super into it and right there with us. Itâs been awesome. I feel like we fit right in.âChicago Star Tribune  I used to say that about girls that were my friends. Iâd be like, âUgh you canât complain, youâre a size 2 and all the guys like you,â and my friend said, âDonât you know I have problems tooâ and we had a huge argument. Three of my friends, we were all crying and yelling and talking about our problems and what weâve gone through, [like] body dysmorphia. â Lizzo âI used to say that about girls that were my friends. Iâd be like, âUgh you canât complain, youâre a size 2 and all the guys like you,â and my friend said, âDonât you know I have problems tooâ and we had a huge argument. Three of my friends, we were all crying and yelling and talking about our problems and what weâve gone through, [like] body dysmorphia.â Junkee  If you are confident in yourself and however you want yourself to be presented, and youâre doing well and doing it because you want to do it and not because someone is pressuring you, then more power to you. â Lizzo âIf you are confident in yourself and however you want yourself to be presented, and you're doing well and doing it because you want to do it and not because someone is pressuring you, then more power to you.â The Boston Globe  I believe that because of my own experiences I had to learn that women who are bigger experience the same type of mental oppression that smaller women do. I think that women, in general, are really marginalized and programmed to believe that we arenât good enoughâeven the ones that weâre like, âshe has everything. â Lizzo âI believe that because of my own experiences I had to learn that women who are bigger experience the same type of mental oppression that smaller women do. I think that women, in general, are really marginalized and programmed to believe that we arenât good enoughâeven the ones that weâre like, âshe has everything.â Junkee  I think I was, like 21, because that was the worst year of my life thus far: My father passed away, I was homeless, I didnât have any money, my band was doing really badly, and I was by myself. I hadnât been eating because I didnât have money, and I was honestly the smallest physically Iâd ever beenâand still, that was the worst Iâd ever felt about myself. And I remember one day being like, âThis is it.â Twenty-some-odd years of me believing that one day I can wake up and be some other girl. Itâs like, youâre not gonna wake up and be bigger or smaller or lighter or darker; your hairâs not gonna suddenly grow down past your knees. Youâre going to look this way for the rest of your life. And you have to be OK with that. â Lizzo âI think I was, like 21, because that was the worst year of my life thus far: My father passed away, I was homeless, I didnât have any money, my band was doing really badly, and I was by myself. I hadnât been eating because I didnât have money, and I was honestly the smallest physically Iâd ever beenâand still, that was the worst Iâd ever felt about myself. And I remember one day being like, âThis is it.â Twenty-some-odd years of me believing that one day I can wake up and be some other girl. Itâs like, youâre not gonna wake up and be bigger or smaller or lighter or darker; your hairâs not gonna suddenly grow down past your knees. Youâre going to look this way for the rest of your life. And you have to be OK with that.â NPR     Everyone looks to an artist for something more than just the music, and that message of being comfortable in my own skin is number one for me. âEveryone looks to an artist for something more than just the music, and that message of being comfortable in my own skin is number one for me.â BILLBOARD  I work on myself daily to be a better person. When I react in a negative way to somebody, I sit back and think about why I did it, so Iâm always working on myself, and my music is the same. â Lizzo âI work on myself daily to be a better person. When I react in a negative way to somebody, I sit back and think about why I did it, so I'm always working on myself, and my music is the same.â DAZED  But I finally realized that owning up to your vulnerabilities is a form of strength and making the choice to go to therapy is a form of strength. It took years for me to get to that point, but I did it last year for my friends and my family. I didnât really do it for myself at first, but because I realized what my emotional condition was doing to my relationships. And I wanted to be a better sister and a better daughter, a better boss, and a better friend. â Lizzo âBut I finally realized that owning up to your vulnerabilities is a form of strength and making the choice to go to therapy is a form of strength. It took years for me to get to that point, but I did it last year for my friends and my family. I didnât really do it for myself at first, but because I realized what my emotional condition was doing to my relationships. And I wanted to be a better sister and a better daughter, a better boss, and a better friend.â NBC NEWS  The body-positive movement is the body-positive movement, and we high five. Weâre parallel. But my movement is my movement. When all the dust has settled on the groundbreaking-ness, Iâm going to still be doing this. Iâm not going to suddenly change. Iâm going to still be telling my life story through music. And if thatâs body- positive to you, amen. Thatâs feminist to you, amen. If thatâs pro-black to you, amen. Because maâam, Iâm all of those things. â Lizzo âThe body-positive movement is the body-positive movement, and we high five. Weâre parallel. But my movement is my movement. When all the dust has settled on the groundbreaking-ness, Iâm going to still be doing this. Iâm not going to suddenly change. Iâm going to still be telling my life story through music. And if thatâs body- positive to you, amen. Thatâs feminist to you, amen. If thatâs pro-black to you, amen. Because maâam, Iâm all of those things.â Allure  Itâs not a label I wanted to put on myself. Itâs just my existence. All these fucking hashtags to convince people that the way you look is fine. Isnât that fucking crazy? I say I love myself, and theyâre like, âOh my gosh, sheâs so brave. Sheâs so political.â For what? All I said is âI love myself, bitch!â Even when body positivity is over, itâs not like Iâm going to be a thin white woman. Iâm going to be black and fat. Thatâs just hopping on a trend and expecting people to blindly love themselves. Thatâs fake love. Iâm trying to figure out how to actually live it. â Lizzo âItâs not a label I wanted to put on myself. Itâs just my existence. All these fucking hashtags to convince people that the way you look is fine. Isnât that fucking crazy? I say I love myself, and theyâre like, âOh my gosh, sheâs so brave. Sheâs so political.â For what? All I said is âI love myself, bitch!â Even when body positivity is over, itâs not like Iâm going to be a thin white woman. Iâm going to be black and fat. Thatâs just hopping on a trend and expecting people to blindly love themselves. Thatâs fake love. Iâm trying to figure out how to actually live it.â The Cut  Iâm not gonna sell you the commercialized self-love. Iâm not gonna sell you the hashtag self-care.â Iâm not into that. I feel a responsibility as a pioneer in this wave of body positivity to push the narrative further. Iâm not even gonna get into it, but theyâre just saying, like, âself-care is all facials and mimosas,â and there are people using the term âbody positivityâ but still posting, like, really gorgeous glamour shots. And I get it. Thatâs fine. Everyone deserves to speak on it, everyone deserves to have ownership of their body positivity. But Iâm not just gonna settle for that anymore. I think that thereâs something to emotions and vulnerability and expressing those emotions in a more vulnerable way to yourself that I think we havenât tapped into. â Lizzo âI'm not gonna sell you the commercialized self-love. I'm not gonna sell you the hashtag self-care.' I'm not into that. I feel a responsibility as a pioneer in this wave of body positivity to push the narrative further. I'm not even gonna get into it, but they're just saying, like, 'self-care is all facials and mimosas,' and there are people using the term 'body positivity' but still posting, like, really gorgeous glamour shots. And I get it. That's fine. Everyone deserves to speak on it, everyone deserves to have ownership of their body positivity. But I'm not just gonna settle for that anymore. I think that there's something to emotions and vulnerability and expressing those emotions in a more vulnerable way to yourself that I think we haven't tapped into." NPR  FAT DOES NOT=UGLY. Love Yourself. Eat like you love yourself. Drink water like you love yourself. Dance & move your body like you love yourself. Next time someone calls you fat, remember youâve got fat in your body just like them. And having fat is beautiful. â Lizzo âFAT DOES NOT=UGLY. Love Yourself. Eat like you love yourself. Drink water like you love yourself. Dance & move your body like you love yourself. Next time someone calls you fat, remember youâve got fat in your body just like them. And having fat is beautiful.â Allure  So, when it comes to being a role model to women, I think itâs because of the way that I treat myself, I am a woman, I treat myself with respect and I love myself, and I think that if Iâm holding myself to a certain esteem and keeping it real with myself, then thatâs going to translate to people like me. â Lizzo âSo, when it comes to being a role model to women, I think itâs because of the way that I treat myself, I am a woman, I treat myself with respect and I love myself, and I think that if Iâm holding myself to a certain esteem and keeping it real with myself, then thatâs going to translate to people like me.â Interview Magazine  Iâm still not every day as comfortable as the day before. At a certain point, I kind of realized that my body wasnât going to change unless I did something drastic, which I didnât have money [for]. When I started discovering my self-love and trying to be more positive about my body, this was like 10 years ago, and I was broke. I was like, I have no plastic surgery options, thereâs no crazy dieting options; Iâve been big my whole life. âJust deal with it! Just accept your body!â I made a decision that I would eventually be happy about it, and it took a long time. Ten years later, I have a healthy relationship with my body. â Lizzo "I'm still not every day as comfortable as the day before. At a certain point, I kind of realized that my body wasn't going to change unless I did something drastic, which I didn't have money [for]. When I started discovering my self-love and trying to be more positive about my body, this was like 10 years ago, and I was broke. I was like, I have no plastic surgery options, there's no crazy dieting options; I've been big my whole life. 'Just deal with it! Just accept your body!' I made a decision that I would eventually be happy about it, and it took a long time. Ten years later, I have a healthy relationship with my body ." NPR  Iâm doing this for myself. I love creating shapes with my body, and I love normalizing the dimples in my butt or the lumps in my thighs or my back fat or my stretch marks. I love normalizing my black-ass elbows. I think itâs beautiful. â Lizzo âIâm doing this for myself. I love creating shapes with my body, and I love normalizing the dimples in my butt or the lumps in my thighs or my back fat or my stretch marks. I love normalizing my black-ass elbows. I think itâs beautiful.â Essence  Before the term, âBody Positiveâ was this mainstream thing, I was just making music about my body that was positive and people would be like, âHow dare she?â or âIs she serious?â âDoes she really love herself?â And I was like, âWhy are Yâall asking all these damn questions? â Lizzo âBefore the term, âBody Positiveâ was this mainstream thing, I was just making music about my body that was positive and people would be like, âHow dare she?â or âIs she serious?â âDoes she really love herself?â And I was like, âWhy are Yâall asking all these damn questions?â The Daily Show  Self-care is in the little moments â bathing, sweating, washing your hair. itâs in laughing so hard you can barely catch a breath, your lungs expanding on a morning jog⌠now more than ever we need to enjoy the quiet within ourselves. â Lizzo âSelf-care is in the little moments â bathing, sweating, washing your hair. itâs in laughing so hard you can barely catch a breath, your lungs expanding on a morning jog⌠now more than ever we need to enjoy the quiet within ourselves.â  Instagram   My movement is for everybody. My movement celebrates diversity. Itâs all about inclusion. Itâs all about getting our flowers and giving each person their own space to be an individual and speak up for that individuality. â Lizzo âMy movement is for everybody. My movement celebrates diversity. Itâs all about inclusion. Itâs all about getting our flowers and giving each person their own space to be an individual and speak up for that individuality.â Junkee  I didnât have enough women to look up to and they werenât given enough space in the industry to carve out a lane for big girls that are brown and black and want to sing and dance without getting shit talked and body shamed. Iâm out here and I set my mind to it. I want to be a sex symbol and music goddess and Iâm out here trying to make that happen for myself. Iâm here for the fantasy but I want to be a part of that fantasy. Iâm just as fine as those girls. â Lizzo âI didnât have enough women to look up to and they werenât given enough space in the industry to carve out a lane for big girls that are brown and black and want to sing and dance without getting shit talked and body shamed. Iâm out here and I set my mind to it. I want to be a sex symbol and music goddess and Iâm out here trying to make that happen for myself. Iâm here for the fantasy but I want to be a part of that fantasy. Iâm just as fine as those girls.â Vogue  Every time I rap about being a big girl in a small world, itâs doing a couple of things; itâs empowering my self-awareness, my body image, and itâs also making the statement that we are all bigger than this; weâre a part of something bigger than this, and we should live in each moment knowing that. â Lizzo âEvery time I rap about being a big girl in a small world, itâs doing a couple of things; itâs empowering my self-awareness, my body image, and itâs also making the statement that we are all bigger than this; weâre a part of something bigger than this, and we should live in each moment knowing that.â Interview Magazine  I want people to realize that fitness doesnât have a look or an aesthetic or a weight. Fitness is a very personal thing thatâs between you and your doctor. To have a big black girl singing about how sheâs working on the calisthenics â because mind you, I be in the gym every day, but people donât believe that because I got extra fat and rolls and a big butt â I think that itâs empowering for young girls, to see that itâs okay to work out and not have a six-pack. â Lizzo âI want people to realize that fitness doesnât have a look or an aesthetic or a weight. Fitness is a very personal thing thatâs between you and your doctor. To have a big black girl singing about how sheâs working on the calisthenics â because mind you, I be in the gym every day, but people donât believe that because I got extra fat and rolls and a big butt â I think that itâs empowering for young girls, to see that itâs okay to work out and not have a six-pack.â BILLBOARD  So, when it comes to being a role model to women, I think itâs because of the way that I feel about myself, and the way that I treat myself. I am a woman, I treat myself with respect and I love myself, and I think that if Iâm holding myself to a certain esteem and keeping it real with myself, then thatâs going to translate to people like me. â Lizzo âSo, when it comes to being a role model to women, I think itâs because of the way that I feel about myself, and the way that I treat myself. I am a woman, I treat myself with respect and I love myself, and I think that if Iâm holding myself to a certain esteem and keeping it real with myself, then thatâs going to translate to people like me.â Interview Magazine  Self-care is really rooted in self-preservation, just like self-love is rooted in honesty. We have to start being more honest with what we need, and what we deserve, and start serving that to ourselves. It can be a spa day! But for a lot of people, itâs more like, I need a mentor. I need someone to talk to. I need to see someone who looks like me thatâs successful, thatâs doing the things that I want to do, to know that itâs possible. âSelf-care is really rooted in self-preservation, just like self-love is rooted in honesty. We have to start being more honest with what we need, and what we deserve, and start serving that to ourselves. It can be a spa day! But for a lot of people, it's more like, I need a mentor. I need someone to talk to. I need to see someone who looks like me that's successful, that's doing the things that I want to do, to know that it's possible.â NBC NEWS If youâre in a funk , listen to Lizzoâs music, watch her videos, or read her words and youâll feel better immediately. Whether you believe in body positivity or not, loving and treating ourselves well is beneficial to our mental and physical health.
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