#the 60s were actually a monumental period of time for queer rights

[ghostface-knight]

hey guys just found out that people on tiktok are getting mad at anybody who headcannons any of the characters from the outsiders as gay because "it was the 60s"????

i hate it here

[finallymothman]

Girlfriend ask tag

@icelandicandamess <-- My lovely girlfriend

1.   Describe how you met each other.

OK so she runs a Nightcrawler ask/role play blog and someone I was following was following her. And (oh my GOD!) she is such a good writer and a great artist and does such a good job portraying Nightcrawler. I was extremely intimidated by her. I kinda stalked her blog for about a week before actually following her. And then followed her for about three weeks or a month before talking to her.

2.   What did you first notice about each other?

She’s an amazing writer and I think that’s what intimidated me the most about her, because I’d always prided myself on being a good writer and she was so far out of my league talent-wise (and with everything else, let’s be real.) that I was extremely intimidated.

3.   Who first asked the other out?

She asked me, but we’ve been romantically interested in each other for a while. And I think she might have initiated that too? I don’t remember honestly

4.   Where was your first date?

(We haven’t had it yet but when we see each other I’m taking her out to an Italian restaurant and we’re going to hang out on the steps of a local monument by the river. I have it all planned out.)

5.   Who was first to verbally say “I love you”?

Me

6.   How did your first kiss happen? Who initiated it?

It hasn’t happened yet…

7.   When is your anniversary?

September 3rd

8.   How long have you been together?

We’ve been friends for over a year, been interested for seven months and she only asked me out for real this month.

9.   What made you realize you were in love with her?

I loved Anna before I was in love with her. She was my friend first, so affection was already established there. But I think… My day didn’t feel right without talking to her. That was when I realized I’d fallen for her.

10.                 Were you friends before you became lovers?

Yes. And she’s still my best friend.

11.                 Were either of you out before getting with your girlfriend?

I was. Kinda. My parents and I kind of had a rough relationship about that kind of thing. I wasn’t about to pretend to be something I wasn’t- that’s just not in my nature. I also wasn’t in a dangerous home situation, it was just uncomfortable with me being queer. Anna’s still not really out yet. She’s talked to her parents about it in theory, but there hasn’t been a bit thing about it yet.

12.                 Have either of you dated a girl before getting with your girlfriend or is she your first?

I had three girlfriends before dating Anna. I’m Anna’s first.

13.                 How does your girlfriend define her sexuality?

She’s asexual and biromantic (I believe…)

14.                 When is your girlfriend’s birthday? Who is older?

Anna’s older than me. Her birthday is January 13th, mine is in August.

15.                 Do you live together?

We will one day

16.                 Have you met your girlfriend’s parents? If so, what was that like?

I haven’t but from what I’ve heard they’re great! (I’ve talked to her mom on snapchat once and she seemed really friendly)

17.                 How many people are in your girlfriend’s family?

She has two sisters and a brother and they live with their parents.

18.                 Whose family do you hang out with more?

We live in different countries for right now.

19.                 What nationality is your girlfriend?

She’s Icelandic!

20 What is a typical date night like for you and your girlfriend?

Watching Young Justice or a movie on Rabb.it

20.                 How do you usually spend your time together?

Aforementioned date night, writing together, sending each other memes.

21.                 Have you ever been mistaken for sisters?

I have her as my background on my laptop and one person thought her picture was an old one of my mom… I don’t even know.

22.                 Have you ever experienced any discrimination or prejudice because you are a same sex couple?

No, not together anyway. But I went to a conservative Catholic school, so…

23.                 Does anyone you know disapprove of your relationship?

I, um… haven’t told my parents we’re dating. They had a hard time grasping the concept of me having a friend in Iceland. And I think telling them will be easier because I’m in college now.

25, How much PDA do you do?

We’re both snuggling FIENDS but being over 3000 miles away kind of impedes that.

26. Have you ever been on your periods together?

Yes, yes we have. But not while we were dating. It was actually like a month into knowing each other.

27. What is your girlfriend’s middle name?

Halldóra

28. Who usually pays when you go out to eat?

I get the feeling that will be a point of contention once we’re around each other more.

29. What is your girlfriend’s number labeled as in your cell phone?

Baby Girl

30. Do you have any pet names for each other?

I call her baby girl, angel, angelface, Anna bobana (which is also my tumblr tag for her), sunshine and cutie pie. She calls me Princess and Princésa. She also calls me Cas a lot and most people just call me Casper?

31. Does your girlfriend have any pets?

No, I’m the one with the cute pet

32. Have you ever worn your girlfriend’s clothes?

I cant wait to see her in my leather jacket cuz it’s roomy on me and she’s going to swim in it

33. Who is more likely to cook a meal?

Me, probably? I’m always snapchatting her “HEY BABE LOOK WHAT I MADE”

34. What is your girlfriend’s favorite food? Least favorite food?

I recently found out she likes tomatoes. (And I had to ask her what her least favorite food is, it’s Icelandic bratwurst called bjùga)

35. Who is more likely to cry for no reason?

Me. Absolutely me.

36. Can your girlfriend play any musical instruments?

Nope and neither can I

37. Who is your girlfriend’s favorite musical artist?

Andy Grammar holds a special place in both of our hearts

38. What is your girlfriend’s current favorite song?

“Build Me a Girl” by Andy Grammar

39. Do you have a couple song?

“Crazy Beautiful” by Andy Grammar

40. Do you have a couple name?

Those Gay Nerds

41. What is your girlfriend’s best physical feature?

I LVOE HER FRECKLES SO MUUUUUCH

42. Who is more likely to forget where they put things?

……….that’d be me

43. Which side of the bed do you each sleep on?

I sleep by the wall

44. Who hogs the blankets/sheets more when sleeping together?

We’ve never slept together but I know I’m a blanket hog

45. What do you argue/fight about the most?

We actually don’t fight? We didn’t even when we were friends.

46. How do you usually get over a argument/fight?

N/A

47. Does your girlfriend have a “look” (i.e. an angry/mad/annoyed stare)?

Yes. It’s usually not aimed at me, but she pouts a little and she has this adorable little rosebud mouth and it’s so freaking cute.

48. Who is more likely to refuse sex?

Anna, but she’s asexual, so I wouldn’t even offer.

49. Does your girlfriend play any sports?

No

50. Does your girlfriend root for any sports teams?

Not really. Neither of us are that into sports

51. Does your girlfriend have any quirky habits?

She chews on stuff when she’s stressed so she got herself a chewable necklace off of a stim site.

52. Who takes longer getting ready to go somewhere?

raises hand

53. Who is more likely to remember an important day (i.e. birthday, anniversary, etc.)?

Anna

54. What is your girlfriend’s eye color?

Brown

55. What is your girlfriend’s shoe size?

I’m not sure how it translates to Icelandic sizes but I think she’s an 8

56. What is your girlfriend’s dress size?

I… don’t know. I think she’s a 12 or a 14. Again, sizes work a little differently in America vs. Europe.

57. What is your girlfriend’s favorite TV show?

She likes Young Justice and Voltron

58. What is your girlfriend’s favorite movie?

Moulin Rouge, I think. She had me watch it awhile ago with a friend of hers.

59. Who is your girlfriend’s #1 celebrity crush?

As far as I’m aware, she doesn’t have one. I don’t really, either.

60. What is one item on your girlfriend’s bucket list?

We both have seeing each other at the top of the list

61. Who is more likely to utter a curse word?

MEEEE

62. Does your girlfriend prefer coffee or tea?

Coffee

63. Is your girlfriend a morning or a night person?

We’re both night people

64. Is your girlfriend more likely to save or spend money?

I mean, compared to me, save ^_^

65. Who squashes the bugs?

I try not to kill bugs unless they pose a threat (like they’re a venomous spider or something), and I’m not big on people doing it around me.

66. Who’s better at telling when the other is lying?

I don’t lie to Anna

67. What is your girlfriend’s favorite color?

Blue (daboodidaboodie). She also likes red

68. Does your girlfriend collect anything?

Not really, actually.

69. Who is more likely to randomly burst out into a song?

That’s a solid “both”

70. Who is more likely to randomly start dancing?

I mean I guess Anna because I don’t really dance.

71. Have you ever taken a vacation together? If so, where to?

No…. pout

72. How tall is your girlfriend?

5’4’’

73. Is your girlfriend religious at all?

Not particularly. She’s spiritual and was raised Christian, but she doesn’t take it too seriously.

74. Who is more likely to spontaneously be romantic?

We’re bot total saps

75. Who’s laugh is cuter?

Anna’s

76. Who is the better driver?

(I have no idea)

77. Who is the better singer?

…me, I think? But I started smoking so that kinda went to shit

78. Who is the better dancer?

Anna. Anyone is better at dancing than me

79. Who is better at math?

Neither of us are particularly good at it, but Anna’s better than me

80. Whose handwriting is better?

Anna’s

81. Who has a better sense of humor?

Anna and I have pretty much the same sense of humor (i.e. BAD puns)

82. Who is more likely to sign a card or a note from the both of you?

Honestly probably me because I’ve done that for my sister for awhile

83. Does your girlfriend smoke?

Nope, I’m the cancer stick sucker

84. Does your girlfriend drink alcohol at all? If so, what is her drink of choice?

We both drink and she had this licorice liquor hidden in her room for a while (but she’s also Icelandic so… vodka’s up there too)

85. Have you ever discussed marriage?

We did a few times and then it just became a given. It was a “when” and not “if”.

86. Have you ever discussed having children?

We both LIKE kids, but we don’t want any. And if we do end up adopting, it’ll just be one and we’ll solidly middle aged.

87. What is one thing your girlfriend does that you don’t like?

I don’t like that she puts herself down a lot

88. Is there anything about your girlfriend you think most people don’t know?

She’s extremely sensitive. And I don’t mean overly emotional. I mean she picks up on how I feel without even needing to see my face and she knows exactly what I need to hear to be helped when I’m upset.

89. Choose one word to describe your girlfriend. Why that word?

Stable- I can be pretty wild and she’s my rock. If I’m upset, she calms me down in a way no one else can.

90. Pass on one piece of relationship advice.

Communication is key. Never leave anything unsaid. If they upset you, tell them. If you know that the other person is upset, reach out. Keeping your mouth shut so you don’t stir the pot can actually do you more harm than bringing attention to something you’re upset about.