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androphagy · 1 month ago

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if you lean into or join in with misogynist jokes and threats as a trans man or transmasc because you pass as cisgender or are "man enough" to the person/people who are talking that way you are a traitor to the trans demographic as a whole. if you're scared of being outed and assaulted due to standing up for those affected by misogyny, sex or gender based, then don't say anything. keep your mouth shut. make it clear you're uncomfortable or glare at them or roll your eyes but if you can call it out, do it. do anything besides giving into misogynistic behavior under a misguided attempt at acceptance. if those men making the jokes and threats knew you were AFAB and/or you had any stereotypically "physically feminine" traits (long hair, breasts, makeup, etc) they would target you the same as they would anyone else they deemed acceptable.

there's nuance here, obviously, but the cis men making cruel and misogynistic threats and "jokes" will not see you as a man if you're outed. you are not allying yourself with people who will protect you. you are allying yourself with people who would hurt you if you were alone and they/he was fairly sure they/he could get away with it, and even then sometimes you don't need to be alone and it'll happen anyway. people will look the other way. the legal system protects rapists. law enforcement protects rapists. the other cis men will protect rapists. ask me how i know.

don't become someone who protects that behavior. believe that you're better than them, because you are, and put that treatment beneath you. is what they have to offer really worth whatever acceptance you may see in their eyes? why do you want their acceptance and approval at all?

#long post #long tags #obviously this isn't say ''all men'' jfc but if you actually have life experience cis men especially white #or cishet are extremely entitled and should be assumed to be a danger. don't be naive. it is not your fault but you must take steps to #protect yourself from men who are misogynistic and you must learn to recognize the signs #because they're not always overt. trust your gut #the ''cishet white man'' thing became a massive meme and joked about constantly but it comes from a genuine terror.#you don't want to be like them. no brief ''gender euphoria'' or feeling of masculinity is worth #furthering such an extremely pervasive and dangerous ideology. terfs aid and abet this and they're not all women.#to ''be a man'' in presentation is to stand up for yourself and others and use the privilege/authority/whatever you want to call it #you have for good and not to prop up would be rapists at best and real rapists and murderers at worst.#i know that sounds overwhelmingly doom and gloom but please read how many articles there are on #the rape murder impregnation and brutalization that misogyny affected people experience #trans women are abused and stats on their abuse are skewed because the legal system doesn't care about them.#i could go on for so much longer but these tags are already so long #transmisogyny cw #lgbt issues #transphobia #lgbt #assault cw #sa tw #ask to tag

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