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Introduction to Harper

Harper is a dating Rookie on her way to becoming a veteran.

Harper has been online dating since she was about 30.  She’s now 33, that makes around 3 YEARS of her life that she’s been winking, liking, swiping and clicking her way through the single (and possibly not single, who knows if they’re telling the truth?) men of Mumbai.

In that time she’s probably had almost 100 dates (though she lost count) had several short flings, and 2 boyfriends.

She’s tried Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Happn, Ok Cupid. She’s swiped on Tinder, crossed paths on Happn, made the first move on Bumble, been paired with Facebook friends of friends on Hinge.

She’s had fun dates and boring dates, been ghosted, charmed and cheated on, fallen in love and had her heartbroken, and drunk way more alcohol than anyone should.  She’s met nice guys, dull guys, guys who think they’re God’s gift, inept guys, hopeless wastes of time, some who didn’t look at all like their photos and some who were more attractive in real life, some short, some tall, some super lovely and some total fucking arseholes.   And yet in all that time, she has to meet Mr. Right. So she carries on, war-torn and battle-scarred, living to date another day.

Harper was recently asked how she manages to do that, date after date, year after year, rejection after vanishing act after disappointment. And the answer is this: to be able to survive in this online dating war zone you have to be one of three things: (a) completely deranged, (b) a glutton for punishment, or (c) a hopeless optimist who in spite of all evidence to the contrary still believes that one day you might meet someone who is different. Harper is a little bit of all three.

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