#tbh youre wrong if you believe anti anxiety and antidepressants dont work but at least youre maybe talking from experience

[giritina]

Is it a hot take to say hard line anti-psychiatry is definitely reactionary and anti-science and bad

[vampirerings]

oh my gosh, yes! i’ve been taking antidepressants for the past few months, and let me tell you, it takes over an hour for me to even get off once. its so frustrating because i’ll be going at it for a while, begging for something to just happen. there’s been times when i’ve had to give up because it was upsetting me too much. went from being able to have multiple orgasms in the span of 10 minutes, to now having maybe one not so good orgasm in the span of an hour. it was also frustrating for my fwb i had a few months ago. i could tell that they weren’t the happiest when it took me so long to even get turned on, so i tried my best to focus on them. i didn’t want them to have to work so much, to me, it wasn’t fair to them. i explained it to them multiple times about the fact that i’m on meds, and i can’t just get off like that anymore, and they didn’t believe me. guess they thought they would be able to get me to have an orgasm easily. tried different things, nothing worked. after a while i got performance anxiety. anytime we started to make out , i would lock up and just try to make them feel good. after a while they just stopped trying. we aren’t together anymore. i think i’m going to fly solo for a while. that really took a lot out of me. the disappointment on their face? fucking broke my heart. but hey, it’s what we gotta do for good mental health, right? i just wish it wasn’t so hard for me to feel normal again 🥲

aw hey im really sorry that happened to you that isnt any way to be treated. ive been on anti depressants for 10 years now so there hasnt been a time in my life where i was sexually active and not on them, and yeah it can be frustrating. your fwb doesnt sound like they were very good to you and thats not your fault at all, its on ur partner that they wanted you to be some specific way that you just arent. theres nothing wrong with either of us, it can also take me hours to get off and its something you can comfortably get used to if you want to. for me at least i kinda treat it like edging, if i really want to get off i can just set aside the time and achieve the same result. theres pleenty of people like me who love to spend hours and hours going down on people and fucking them for as long as they want. tbh i personally almost prefer people who dont come easily cause that means i get to play with them for longer. your fwb just sounds like they were insecure abt their abilities and impatient with low endurance lol. it also might be helpful to remember that orgasming doesnt have to be the end goal of masturbating or sex it can just feel good and be over. ive had multiple partners who just werent able to orgasm at all but still enjoyed sex. point is you are not broken, take some time to get to reknow your slightly changed body and be patient with yourself <3