#tbh if you really like someone and your crush is storng

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hi, sam. it’s me, the anon who we fully agree is liked by that boy but has no idea what to do. i feel like he’s being more careful about my nonnegotiables?? but also, i’m kind of terrified of being in a relationship. i’m taking 4 AP classes and only one of my classes in total is non academic(it’s also my junior year which is bleh). i don’t know how much more i can take. like, the flirting is fine, but i don’t think i’m even emotionally available in terms of romantic relationships. i am in a hard time financially as well, so to throw a relationship on top of that? we both have wacky schedules that line up, so that’s not my concern, but ugh. i tried soul searching and shit, and thinking about what i do for him, but it’s hard to distinguish what i do for him and what i do for everyone bc i always like to be prepared, help out, and all that stuff. and i’m pretty sure he was gonna try and ask me to go “hang out” on sunday, but i told him i would be busy bc my mom is working a little further out and wants me to go with her, which is mostly true. i also kind of think i want a girlfriend more than a boyfriend at this current time, but that’s not gonna stop me bc he is kinda cute and has a good personality. also, this other guy in my first class today said my name was hot when i introduced myself. this is so all over the place, i am so all over the place, and so is my life. and i’m done. i don’t know if i want advice or comments, but give me whatever you’ve got.

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hm so, I've seen many people say this, like they don't have time for relationships. and while it's absolutely true that they need time and care and effort from you, at the same time, I don't completely get it.

a relationship shouldn't be something to put on top of your already full plate. a good romantic relationship is something that wraps you up. it shouldn't be hard. it should be a breath of fresh air. when you're hurting, when it's hard, when you're exhausted, a romantic relationship can come in and help you out, not make it worse. just like any very good friendship. I've never heard of people saying "I don't have time to make new friends because I'm too busy" but I've heard it about romantic relationships. I guess people think they have a certain new responsibility after getting in one. which could be true. you still have to make time for the person etc. but it shouldn't be hard at all. when you like some truly, the thought of meeting them is always exciting. you actually want to meet them and be around them. and when you do, even if for a few minutes, it recharges you and it doesn't drain you. it's powerful.

so if you see someone that doesn't make you feel like that, then maybe that's not the right person.

another thing tho, is that idk how much it takes you to like a person after dating a bit. personally I already know if they're the right one from the beginning, but maybe you need some time, maybe hang out as friends a bit, like just casually "talk" to each other and see. tbh I think this part is the draining part of it you're talking about lol

also, the guy sounds alright but I don't sense much passion from you ahahaha unless that's how you always are then it's fine, or unless you actually need more time to build something for it to be more exciting, but atm I think you're more attracted to love in general, like the thought of being in a relationship, and not the person. if another dude is there and it made you feel a certain way, you don't like the two dudes because they're themselves, you know? could be some other people instead with the same qualities and you'd like them too. idk it I explain myself correctly ahahaha I see you interested in a relationship in general but it doesn't matter with whom