#talk ooc with who don't disrespect my boundaries and all that.

[rebelcliche-archived]

i was going to wait til i cleared out my inbox, but i might just go ahead and remake this blog and just transfer the asks and the rest of my drafts over onto the other blog. idk, i'll still give it some thought first.

but also while i'm thinking about it, my revamped blog will be extremely private and i'll be super selective with who i follow / interact with. i've decided that if we can't have some sort of rapport, if we can't have time to chat and plot, i'll be less likely to follow you. i want to spend time building relationships with nancy than to just follow people / have people follow me who never engage (and i'll get better at reaching out to people, myself).

i'm feeling (surprise, surprise) overwhelmed on his blog anyway, so i feel that this will be for the best. but this is something i will be firm on: i won't follow someone who writes with someone on my dni (you don't have to like such lists but it's how i want to run my blog), or will not engage with me via asks, likes, ooc, etc. like i said, from now on, i'd rather keep my blog more plot-based with people who want to build dynamics with me.

sorry if this makes me sound like a hardass, but it's my blog and i just want to enjoy being on it and interacting with people i won't feel like i annoy / people who actually want to engage with me on things.

[squaletta]

☠ What does someone have to do for an instant unfollow from you?

❥ Has someone ever ruined an FC or character for you?

❀ What has made you completely lose your chill?

𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐒𝐀𝐋𝐓𝐘 𝐀𝐅 𝐌𝐔𝐍𝐃𝐀𝐘 𝐌𝐄𝐌𝐄

☠ What does someone have to do for an instant unfollow from you? Disrespect. I don't want you on my friends list if you’re disrespectful and don't accept my boundaries.

I’m the type of person who believes communication is key, so I always try to communicate first.

Also, when I consider unfollowing, it’s when I follow someone, leave a comment, send prompts to their inbox, react to their open starter, and they still ignore me even though they’re online every day with hundred ooc posts. Why did you even add me? If you’re busy, that’s okay, but at least out of courtesy, you could reply and let me know. This has happened to me three times here on Tumblr, and I gave each account about five months to respond to my message, checking if everything was okay. When they didn’t, unfollow. I’m not a follower collector. Sorry.

❥ Has someone ever ruined an FC or character for you?

For me, the whole fandom ruined Tsuna many years ago. From roleplays where he was portrayed as a weak uke, to perverted fanart, and even perverted doujinshi (some of them causing me trauma (O_O)). No, hell no. Tsuna deserves better.

❀ What has made you completely lose your chill?

I always get angry when someone tries to influence others on topics like what is appropriate to roleplay and what is not. We can find sooo many posts about what is right and what is not. Nowadays, roleplayers feel under pressure because of this. What will others think when they come up with something different from what others expect? Where is freedom for creativity? I'm not talking about illegal things like pedophilia and such; that's understandable. No roleplayer is in a position to dictate what is appropriate or not; it's just their subjective opinion, which you may or may not agree with. We are all equal after all. So please, don’t spread hate when you see something you personally don’t like or wouldn’t roleplay. Just ignore it.

[laughing-drawing-aces]

I absolutely hate how in all of Steve's ships, he always gets the short end of the stick, canon, and fanon alike. Like Steve canonically just wants to be loved. It's shown how much he desires it and how much love he has to give towards his partners (like in s2 where he wanted to build his life around Nancy). And yet people take him and put him into borderline abusive situations, where he constantly gets belittled or made fun of. His dreams of having a big family are laughed at and not taken seriously, when his entire character in ST revolves around love and found family. I'm just so sick of it. Nobody in fanon truly has Steve's back when he gets into relationships. Robin acts ooc in favor of her own relationship or sides with Eddie idk why.

Steddie truly is H//rringrove 2.0 it's annoying bc it could have had potential.

Stonathan after s2 doesn't make much sense either. Like from both povs. Jonathan still doesn't like Steve, which fine he doesn’t have to take his apology in s1. He hates what Steve stands for (he's judging him based on popularity) and for being Nancy's ex. Steve feels neutral towards him after s1, but then Jonathan willingly cheated with Nancy. I doubt he wants to date him after that. They are not friends, and the basis of their relationship would be Nancy bc they are both romantically involved with her, which isn't a strong enough foundation imo. I know they are aus where none of that happens, but I can't really look past it. Maybe I lack creativity and imagination.

Anyway, I don't ship Steve with anyone because the fandom doesn't get him and puts him into the worst situations. I only ship him with my very own OC, who would kill anyone with Robin if they would disrespect him in the way the fandom does lmao. But yeah, I usually don't ever read any shipping fics bc they are usually ooc. I only love to read Stobin fics or any fics with the kids and his sibling relationships with them.

ngl steve ships for the fandom are just ‘how much can we shit on steve and show how we have an incredible bias and show how much we hate him’. like that’s the vibes i’m getting all the time. and yeah it’s insane how steve ships are just like you said where steve gets the short end of the stick. honestly people are just allergic to giving steve what he wants because they hate him! lmaooo steve antis want to shit on us saying that ‘wow they over exaggerate the hate steve gets’ I PROMISE YOU WE ARENT BECAUSE WHENEVER I TRY TO SEARCH FOR STEVE CONTENT ITS JUST ABOUT STEVE BEING IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS OR WORSHIPPING THE GROUND HIS PARTNER WALKS ON! i just want steve to be loved and fanon wont even let him be loved by his besties either 😭😭😭😭 him being with his own best friends in canon is just ‘okay how much can we verbally abuse steve and constantly dismiss his own boundaries’. honestly how people react with robin and steve being best friends makes me the most mad because robin in fics/headcanons doesn’t even act like a best friends to steve. it’s to the point where i want to yell at steve to drop her as a friend with how fanon portrays their friendship

legit steddie did have a lot of potential and then that got ruined hardcore

honestly i never understood stonathan even in season 1! especially because so many jonathan stan’s were (and still are) so anti steve! which genuinely makes shit sense like why do you want your favorite character with another character that you absolutely hate? but yes from both sides it makes no sense whatsover for them to be together. legit jonathan at murray’s place brings up steve and then ignores the fact that he himself talked about steve. also ps i’m so sick of people calling that not cheating THEY CHEATED! just own up to it and fuck off. honestly i can’t look it past either in aus where it doesn’t happen. honestly steve and jonathan are so different to me that i can’t see them working past two weeks (same as how i see ronance)

same i don’t ship steve with anyone! unless it’s an oc that i create! but yeah i just can’t see steve with anyone in canon. i do read sometimes oc x steve focs but also half the time they’re just like ‘okay steve constantly has to apologize for how he was in high school’ which liek steve was just minding his own business - do we have to have multiple fics where nancy and jonathan apologize to people 24/7 for being in their own bubble? actually i need that now - if it happens to steve we should also make that happen for every single main character

[whcwashe]

hm

anyway

you ever run into a situation where like .... someone you've been mutuals with for years, LIKE YEARS, who you've always had a good relationship with (or at least you thought you did, idk), just like ....

unfollows you on One of their blogs. Just one. And that's suddenly the only blog they use. And sure, it COULD be a mistake, because every once in awhile when someone reblogs your promo .... they'll reblog it as well?

But similarly .... they should be able to see on the dash that they're not following you. And they're pretty explicit about only interacting with mutuals. And it's defs not a sideblog. And you can't be like 'hey, is this a mistake?' or even be like 'hey, what happened?' because people can cater their experience here, they have the right to do that. and they have the right to unfollow you, and you're all adults here, and this is just for fun, so cornering them for any reason would be wrong, and also rude.

So you just have to settle with the idea that they just .... decided they were tired of you, or didn't like your writing or something and just quietly ..... left. And it feels like a whole friendship you had just kind of dies on the vine, because if you're not on their dash, and you can't interact without disrespecting their boundaries, then that friendship is just .... gone. No closure, no goodbye, it just stops.

idk, it's just sad, in a way, I guess. I mean, people just decide they don't like you and disappear sometimes, and that's fair on their part. That's the way the world works. Sometimes relationships, as vague as they may be, just stop. And I feel like, as an adult, I should be able to brush that off, but it still feels kind of upsetting. Especially because I know it has to be something I did, and I'll never be able to adjust that, or find out what it was. So I just kind of assume it to be me, in general. The whole package is bad, I guess.

I am also stuck in a rut because I know my writing is repetitive, and boring. And Liv isn't fleshed out, and she's not creative, and frankly -- I'm not a great communicator OOC either. I'm distracted, and I'm flighty, and I complain a lot, and I'm regularly just the worst. And I make people feel unwanted (I don't mean to do that, I promise. I love each and every one of you, and I mean that so strongly, I wouldn't follow you if I didn't enjoy your writing. I just love the shit out of everyone, and their creativity).

I should try to be better, probably. And I shouldn't blame my standoffishness on anxiety and ADHD -- I mean, I do have those, but I also need to take responsibility for having a shitty personality, you feel?

I don't know where I was going with this, I'm just in my feelings, and I'm sorry about ... me, as a person, in general. This is not fishing for compliments, I just can't stop talking now, and tbh I have no where else to dump these feelings, lmao. I should have put it on a blog with less followers, maybe. Except -- if you do read it, I do want to express that I love you, and you are all so creative, and you should be so so proud of what you put out into the world. And I should really say that directly to people more often.

Ok, that's all, I guess.

[pvremichigan]

Reason I don't RP is every time I see Mich is with someone new, when she isn't picking trouble she's shutting down conversations. So no matter what I write for you I must prepare to wrap it up right away if my muse isn't someone to pick a fight or call her back, or if they were she would probably find a chance to beat up to prove she's so strong or something. Just gonna look a while more and see.

Short answer: Uh. Yeah.

Long answer... I'm gonna put this bluntly because it's the only way to explain it. It may come off rude but that's not my intent.

It's specifically in my rules: "-All first interactions with Mich usually fail or go poorly. She does not care for newcomers and will treat them as if she’ll never see them again after the first encounter. It’s the interactions afterwards that will cause her to change that. For Mich, multiple interactions are needed for her to know your muse or care to talk to them. She is not a one and done woman, she will forget you if she doesn’t see you again."

So if there's more than one interaction, you have better chances of having a decent thread with her. She doesn't like strangers, she doesn't like meeting new people. You have to WANT to talk to her in order for shit to work, like GENUINELY want it. If your muse is not the type to follow or bother with it again, 100% the thread will end. You have to catch her eye or impress her for her to give you her time. And no, this isn't a demand to cater to her. Mich NEVER caters to people she doesn't care deeply for. Mich HATES if people purposely cater to her. If your muse is not the type to care if they made an impression, then she does not care for interaction. She's very indifferent if you don't want to "impress" her or "cater" to her, she is not here for short lived meaningless connections. She's not here to waste time or put up with bullshit and waste her time on strangers. It's in my rules, it's simple. You don't have to prepare to wrap it up if that's not what your muse would do. If it is, then so be it. No dust off her shoulder.

Secondly, it's beyond incorrect to say she'd just find an excuse to harm your muse. She gets violent when she feels she's being disrespected or she feels her boundaries are being ignored. It's not to prove she's strong unless someone is taunting her, like @hartkhosogh 's Lear. But that was, in fact, discussed a LOT ooc and they were looking FORWARD to it. They wanted that.

She isn't all about fighting, don't assume your muse has to want a fight or conflict to interact with her. Conflict, believe it or not, pisses her off. She doesn't purposely pick trouble, she's just aggressive in nature. Her words and tone aren't held back or sugar coated because she thinks it's bullshit to do such a thing, it makes her less her and more catered to everyone else. She's sick of people being disrespectful and picking fights. It's the whole reason @smokes-and-bullets 's Fran and @yesfxckyxu 's Jack respect her so much. She didn't pick a fight. They respected her and her authority and, in return, are treated like family.

You can keep looking if you'd like, she's not going to change for anyone. These warnings were given many times before and it's somewhat hurtful to come across people who only see her on a "surface" level, which half the time are assumptions. I've put too much work into her for her to be seen on such a surface level. I appreciate you looking into my threads with her, and you should definitely try to look more into her to understand her.

Not to mention she has plenty of other verses that are all unique regarding story and personalities. There are verses where she's human, less abrasive, more loving, more angry, way stronger, more caring and selfless, etc. There's a lot to work with.

Thank you for being honest, and I hope this clears things up. If not, and you're still discouraged to interact, there's no harm in softblocking or even interacting with my other muses. I will give a warning, they are on the backburner so threads with them won't be as quickly done as threads with Mich.

[rpbetter]

But EVERYONE Loves...

No, they really don't.

Mutual Respect is a real thing, and it shouldn't only be applied where it is easy to apply - when you already, or primarily, agree with another mun's preferences and interests. Allow people to dislike things you love. If it's an impediment to interaction, that's perfectly fine! It says nothing bad about either one of you involved and is the mature choice to make. I wouldn't be writing partners with someone who hated my canon character, for example, because that's both very important to me and very important to the interactions we're having. It isn't negotiable for me like hating a favorite band or a more casually enjoyed fandom. None of that is a radical idea, there are plenty of PSA's about that kind of thing, but here's something for you:

Actually leave muns alone about things they dislike that you love just because they asked you to. That is part of what "people are allowed to dislike things" is about! -If a mun has in their rules that they do not engage with a character, fandom/selective fandom material, fanon, or types media leave them alone about it. -If that's going to be a problem for you because you deeply enjoy those things, don't interact with them, you are not compatible and that is alright. -It isn't a requirement for the mun to be triggered by anything to be respected in their desire to avoid it, making it a requirement only means more muns who will use that dishonestly out of desperation. -It's not "petty" to honestly decide it isn't going to work out because of this, or conversely, "trying to be fair to everyone" by interacting regardless of a serious difference you're going to force on them. It is, however, incredibly rude and unacceptable to ignore what a mun has told you in their rules or in an OOC conversation about any boundaries, including this one, just because it's something you enjoy. Something being popular isn't a justification either - no one needs to be on board with, tolerate, or pretend to enjoy something because it's popular. They're not trying to act cool by eschewing popular things, they're not trying to ruin your time by not wanting to participate, and they're not just being contrary and argumentative. Even if they were? Still something you should respect! Especially if it is popular, you will not be the first person to try to "convert" them by insisting on talking about it, or insisting that they "just need to find the right one tho." Do you honestly think that beating someone about the head with the thing they politely asked not to engage with is going to make them love it? All you're doing is being disrespectful, your playfulness is still disrespectful of them, yes. It's actually not cute or funny at all to force someone to become angry with you to make you stop it. And that is what this behavior does! It makes a person feel frustrated, hounded, and disrespected. Breeding grounds for them saying hurtful things to you about what you enjoy so that you'll stop it already, that's what you've done here. Worse, once a person experiences this repeatedly, they don't just absolutely loathe whatever it was now, they're inclined to be hostile about it as openly as everyone else is about loving it in order to insolate themselves. No one wants to see hateful things about their favorite characters, fandoms, fanon takes, and so on! It isn't a one-way street, though. Help other muns keep the peace. Respect what people express dislike of, don't require them to be triggered by it to deserve this respect. You can always simply not interact if not gushing to this particular mun about Your Special Thing is too difficult and unenjoyable for you! I promise you, they'd rather you do that. They don't want to complain about it on the dash any more than they want to see it in their DMs, they've asked for a reason.