#supporting our detrans siblings

[variousqueerthings]

"there's something that i say quite often now. i started saying it when i detransitioned, because i was pondering what it meant to me: and i say there is joy in reinvention - and what i mean by that is that i experience detrans joy. i have experienced a happiness that i never thought was possible before, through the rediscoverng of my own identity. and what i want to impress on people is that gender joy can thrive at any stage, whether that's trans joy or detrans joy." - lucy kartikasari

[redheadbigshoes]

i mean this super kindly (i hope im misunderstanding im autistic and meaning can be lost on me through text so i apologise if that is the case) but talking about being detrans itself alone isnt a red flag (i am detransitioned, gnc lesbian (i kinda still consider myself somewhat not quite cis but not exactly trans personally its complicated), i know other detrans people who are normal and supportive of trans people (this is the quiet majority, there is a louder minority), and them and i talk about it publicly at times, i also have two trans siblings and am a vocal supporter of both them and other trans people) all this to say that like, it really sucks to be lumped in as a bad person because we made a mistake in our identity? and what helped myself and others with the transition (ha) in this time of my life esp was people talking abt being detrans without a violently transphobic lens, so i think its important that people talk about it in a neutral way without being immediately marked off transphobic just because detrans (not talking about this person because people have come to the conclusion that they are actually phobic), because it helps catch the vulnerable detrans people who might detransition and fall into terf spaces because they dont have another space to read or talk about their/others transition to detransition experiences when compartmentalizing, is all

No, talking about detransitioning is not a red flag itself, what’s a red flag is the combination of other things (besides posting about detrans). It’s calling women females, it’s not addressing people of the trans community and talking about detrans as a movement, not as a personal experience.

So yeah, this is a case of you misunderstanding what I said, simply talking about detransitioning isn’t bad or anything you’re implying I did.

[detrans-starter-pack]

OUR GOALS

- to provide support for our community

- to give new detransitioners hope for a future after transition that includes joy and satisfaction

- to promote solidarity between the trans and detrans communities in order to share resources and so that detransitioning is no longer treated as “betraying” our trans siblings

RESOURCES NEEDED / HOW TO HELP

we currently need information on the following

- which insurances cover detrans healthcare (ex. top surgery for detrans men) and where they are

- which name (and legal gender) change resources also serve detrans people

- discounts for laser hair removal

- detrans friendly support groups around transitioning to another gender

- hotlines/helplines

- posts/articles that give tips for passing as your gender