#straight to demisexual to biromantic to demiromantic to cupioromantic to aroace to me
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demibkdkstan · 3 years ago
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Sometimes I envy those who automatically are able to understand and identify their sexuality, like gay men who have always had crushes on fellow guys from childhood, or lesbians who looked at the pretty girl at the playground and wanted to kiss her, because for me every step of my sexuality has been due to honest curiosity of how something works and research.
Like I started out thinking I was straight and simply did not develop crushes much on people. Then I got into a relationship with a man and I got to have sex, I got to experience romance with this beautiful person who just goddamn listened to me, truly listened unlike most of the other people in my life.
But I got to a point where I didn't understand why we always ended up having sex. I had points where I'd look at this beautiful, wonderful man and I wouldn't find anything physically attractive about him despite wanting to have sex with him. I got to the point where I didn't understand why we couldn't just kiss. I got to the point where I had satisfied my curiosity about what sex was and so didn't have much of an interest in repeating the same experiment over and over and over again.
It wasn't until I read stories that had demisexual characters, stories where I realized that an Ace person isn't just someone who doesn't sleep with people, isn't someone who just never finds someone attractive, isn't an emotionless, non sexual robot, and I got it. This label made sense, this label explained parts of me that were so natural to me.
Then the more and more I read I realized, if I can have sex and a relationship with a man despite not finding anything other than the bond we have sexually attractive, what is the difference between thinking the girl with green hair at the store is pretty and not wanting to kiss her from the guy jogging without a shirt on that sure is nice to look at but also doesn't make me want to kiss him.
I'd never stopped to consider females as a potential interest of mine because despite having dreams about kissing my best girl friend (the space is intentional) I didn't automatically want to sleep with all the girls around me, so those were obviously just dreams and not my sexual attraction.
Some soul searching and more research later I realized I am Biromantic, I've just never allowed or looked for the emotional bond I'd need to develop with other girls before because since I so infrequently got crushes or even cared about dating and no one around me wanted me to consider girls as a dating interest it didn't seem like something that was even possible.
But I couldn't be Aromantic, because I had dated. I did have the desire to eventually get married and I knew what romantic attraction felt like -
Or I thought I did, until I dated my second boyfriend. He'd been a long time friend, he was a great guy, he had so many common interests, he was even a really, really sweet romantic! But I just, I never felt the spark. I could hug him, I could talk to him all day, I could have dates at museums and just have such a great time- but if you asked me if I wanted to kiss him, if you asked me if I wanted to marry this man, if you asked me if I ever felt the need to sleep with this man, the answer was no, it would always be no. Some of these things weren't even things I realized I was even feeling at the beginning of our relationship, but they were what eventually caused us to break up.
Cue my realization that I was somewhere on the Aromantic spectrum. More time spent looking up definitions and labels and reading others experiences and I realized, Demiaros exist too.
So now I have many labels, many sides and ways to express myself. I'm Aroace constantly but especially when I'm comfortable with my own existence. I'm Demisexual but Cupioromantic when I'm looking for a relationship. I'm Demiromantic if I'm just looking to hook up. I'm a Biromantic Ace if I'm looking for that special someone to bond with.
They're all me though, and I honestly love the variety. I love being able to describe myself in so many different ways. I love being able to share the knowledge, and the researching and the soul searching behind knowing this, but sometimes I envy the ability to just say I'm gay, and not need to explain, to yourself, or to anyone else what that means.
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ochqko-kinnie · 3 years ago
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mha LGBT+ headcannons bc HAPPY PRIDE MONTH 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈
deku is bicurious
uraraka is bi and a demigirl
bakugo and kirishima are both gay
bakugo is also a demiboy
kaminari is bisexual
jirou is bisexual and grayace
Momo is a lesbian and asexual
todoroki is biromantic and asexual
sero is pan and transmasc
mina is cupioromantic (Canon I think!!) this means she can't feel romantic attraction towards people but wishes she could fall in love, she is also transfem
asui is a loveless aroace, but still has strong platonic feelings for her friends, she just can't feel love towards others
iida is demisexual and demiromantic
tokoyami is bisexual and nonbinary, they use (he/they/it) pronouns
aoyama doesn't like to use labels for his sexuality, he's just aoyama <3
monoma is pansexual
shinso is bisexual
aizawa and present mic are gay and bi and married <3
toga is bisexual (canon!! :D)
magne is trans and uses she/her pronouns (also canon!! :D)
dabi is polyromantic and asexual
hawks is pansexual
shigaraki is aroace
Mirko is a lesbian
anyone not listed is a straight ally (probably) <3
remember that these are my personal headcannons, this is not meant to offend anybody and if you do find something offensive please let me know why so I can be educated and fix the problem
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
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