#stone bottom

[pinkcheerios]

please please please need to be fucked so rough i need to feel ur skin hitting mine need to be screaming into my pillow i neeeeeeeeed to be fucked dumb

[thuesdaynightdykelife]

Stone femmes, I love you.

Sex with you is whole and beautiful. Don't for one second think otherwise. Being with you isn't a sacrifice. It isn't some agreement to be okay with half an experience. It is an entire, beautiful, versatile experience in it's own right. Fulfilling, exciting, and pleasurable for the both of us. You are perfect, you are desirable, and you are anything but selfish.

The idea of stone bottoms not "giving", tsk! I have never heard of a stone bottom who doesn't "give" endlessly. Having boundaries around certain activities during sex doesn't change all of the wonderful, intimate acts of pleasure, love, and effort that stone bottoms can (and do) give, inside and outside of the bedroom.

I love you, stone bottoms! You are safety, you are home.

[feralfawne]

shoutout to the stone tops who’s partners have turned/tried to turn them into sex + kink dispensers

shoutout to the stone bottoms that have had/have partners treat them like sex toys without consent

shoutout to the stone tops that have had their lines crossed just because they wanted to be submissive instead of acting dominant and that was taken as them melting their stone

shoutout to the stone bottoms that draw the line at penetration

shoutout to the stone tops that have “weird” ways of wanting to be touched before, during and after

shoutout to the stone bottoms that always want to be in control, and to the stone bottoms that never want to take control

shoutout to the stone tops that never want to be in control, and to the stone tops that always want to be in control

shoutout to the stones who didn’t realise that a boundary would help them until later down the line

shoutout to the stones who know from the very start what they need from their sexual encounters

shoutout stones that have received unprecedented vitriol for the ways they choose to have sex

Your stones are beautiful and worthy of respect, no matter what. You are beautiful and worthy of respect. Your safety and enjoyment is important, no matter how you identify

To every stone top/stone bottom/pillow princess/service top; you are not wrong, you are not broken, you are no less lesbian, you should not have to break your boundaries to make someone else happy. Your need to be/not be fucked in any moment does not dictate your D/s lean, if you even have one

[that-butch-archivist]

"Femmes, through a reshaped femininity, exhibit an assertive sexuality that does not conflate desire with political practice. This very assertiveness can be politically empowering for femmes who like to play with the idea of power but are not disempowered by this play. For example, femmes with a bottom identification can renegotiate the dynamics of passivity/activity such that their feminine position is one of receiving pleasure rather than of being receptive solely for someone else's pleasure. What seems to be passivity is actually activity: she allows the butch to control her pleasure, but this control and the pleasure are exactly what the femme has demanded. For the bottom femme as for other varieties of femme sexuality--top, s/m, bisexual, or others--her own female sexual agency is paramount. The femme who plays with power provides a model that negotiates rather than ignores power differentials in relationships. [...] In many ways, femmes' chosen pleasures rather than politically prescribed pleasures are radically feminist."

-- "An Introduction to Sustaining Femme Gender," written by Laura Harris & Liz Crocker. (Emphasis in bold mine.)

[highfemmealbertano]

Being high femme or stone butch really makes you realize how little people actually care about consent and boundaries in sex

[porcelain-sexdoll]

starting my weekend ❤️

[maconline]

the current tiktok trend of “i don’t care if you say you’re a stone top, you’re still going to lay down for me” is so gross to me. makes me feel bad for all the stone tops out there but also just makes me remember all the times ive been belittled for being a stone bottom :(

if u don’t respect the sexual boundaries of your partner, you shouldn’t be together !

[kinkystims]

in my feelings about being a stone bottom again

thinking a lot about how being stone is such an important part of my sexuality and how unaccepted being stone (as a top or a bottom) is in wider society. like having rigid boundaries for how you let others engage with your body and how you engage with others is seen as something wrong

i feel a lot of validation and affirmation when talking to other people who are stone, but there is so much negative rhetoric about it that sometimes it feels hard to push past

not everyone is gonna enjoy having sex with a pillow princess/stone bottom and i understand that (and i also don't want to have sex with someone like that), but it's less about people desiring me/people like me and more about people just... being kind about it yk?

so much of it is seen as selfish and there are a lot of negative connotations people have about pillow princesses and i see it being used as an insult a lot and it's very hard for me to feel comfortable in my sexuality with folks who aren't stone and to not feel like people are looking down at me

i have enjoyed sex with people who aren't stone before, but there is a lot of lingering doubt and insecurity about it for me

i feel proud of myself for knowing my boundaries and not putting myself in situations i don't want to be in. i'm very glad i've stopped comptopping for people anymore and focus more on compatibility over forcing myself in to being compatible for people. definitely an ongoing journey of acceptance though especially with outside responses to it

i definitely think it helps to have relationships that affirm your stone sexuality. it can be a really powerful and validating experience to find that safety and acceptance and desire for you and your sexuality

i think that's been a hard part of it for me personally because the external affirmation i get doesn't... necessarily outweigh the external derogatory shit i see? it's not a constant in my life and i think i'd be able to feel more confident in it if it was

it's hard because......... i don't want my self worth to be dependent on a relationship with another person. but i also do want to have that trust and affirmation in the form of other relationships with people. it's hard to figure out what that balance should be between letting yourself be loved and having a need to be loved/a need for affirming relationships vs your self worth being completely contingent on other people's relationships to you

i definitely think affirmation is very important for anyone, i just personally get worried about relying on it too much. but we're human. we should all rely on each other and community care is a big facet of my life, but i think i struggle more with the idea of dependency when it comes to romance and sexuality

anyway. stone bottom musings.

[sugusatodyke]

Stone top stud reassuring their Stone bottom that there is nothing wrong with being a stone bottom. Telling them, "Don't be ashamed. You have no idea just how much I need you. I don't think I could survive without my precious pillow princess." they make sure to kiss down their angel's neck, kissing away any negative thoughts until their mind is replaced by how loved they are

[pinkcheerios]

would really benefit from being pinned down and fingered until i’m begging for more while they’re telling me how good i’m being

[femmelily]

i think if i was in a princess femme x knight butch relationship i would be fixed

[pinkfairyprincessfemme]

SAVE ME BUTCHES IN SUITS🙏🙏🙏

Feel free to reblog if ur a butch in a suit 😋

[nostalgic-hydrochloric-acid]

the urge to put my favorite lipstick on a butch and kiss them until they're delirious, and now we both have lipstick smeared on us

oops 😋

love kissing til all they can think about is pushing me down to make me stop teasing them 💕

~ men and minors DNI ~

[chokecherrylore]

Still not done and this is an incredibly IMPORTANT part of the conversation around stone identities.

I am not going to "melt the stone" or try to force my partners boundaries in the name of reciprocity, my fiance is a stone butch top. I'm not going to press them to let me touch them or fuck them or talk to them in a way they aren't COMFORTABLE WITH OR WANT.

Stone tops aren't damaged or broken or just need coaxing to enjoy something that is outside of their boundaries.

My butch doesn't want to take strap or want to be penetrated, I'm not gonna try to manipulate them into trying because SOMEONE ELSE WHO DOESNT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT US OR DYKE STONE IDENTITIES, thinks my sex life isn't shared and reciprocal.

Stop disregarding stone identities.

And lovingly from my stone butch top fiance, stay out of dyke business ✨️💋

[porcelain-sexdoll]

today was so long 😩

[brattyfemmebaby]

i stg the people who link stone femmes to “not giving pleasure” don’t understand us at all. like i can get my partners off without touching their genitals and you think im not an expert in giving pleasure? touch grass