#stone bottom

[pretty-kitten-paw]

Archived arch n ass

[pinkcheerios]

please please please need to be fucked so rough i need to feel ur skin hitting mine need to be screaming into my pillow i neeeeeeeeed to be fucked dumb

[feralfawne]

shoutout to the stone tops who’s partners have turned/tried to turn them into sex + kink dispensers

shoutout to the stone bottoms that have had/have partners treat them like sex toys without consent

shoutout to the stone tops that have had their lines crossed just because they wanted to be submissive instead of acting dominant and that was taken as them melting their stone

shoutout to the stone bottoms that draw the line at penetration

shoutout to the stone tops that have “weird” ways of wanting to be touched before, during and after

shoutout to the stone bottoms that always want to be in control, and to the stone bottoms that never want to take control

shoutout to the stone tops that never want to be in control, and to the stone tops that always want to be in control

shoutout to the stones who didn’t realise that a boundary would help them until later down the line

shoutout to the stones who know from the very start what they need from their sexual encounters

shoutout stones that have received unprecedented vitriol for the ways they choose to have sex

Your stones are beautiful and worthy of respect, no matter what. You are beautiful and worthy of respect. Your safety and enjoyment is important, no matter how you identify

To every stone top/stone bottom/pillow princess/service top; you are not wrong, you are not broken, you are no less lesbian, you should not have to break your boundaries to make someone else happy. Your need to be/not be fucked in any moment does not dictate your D/s lean, if you even have one

[thuesdaynightdykelife]

Stone femmes, I love you.

Sex with you is whole and beautiful. Don't for one second think otherwise. Being with you isn't a sacrifice. It isn't some agreement to be okay with half an experience. It is an entire, beautiful, versatile experience in it's own right. Fulfilling, exciting, and pleasurable for the both of us. You are perfect, you are desirable, and you are anything but selfish.

The idea of stone bottoms not "giving", tsk! I have never heard of a stone bottom who doesn't "give" endlessly. Having boundaries around certain activities during sex doesn't change all of the wonderful, intimate acts of pleasure, love, and effort that stone bottoms can (and do) give, inside and outside of the bedroom.

I love you, stone bottoms! You are safety, you are home.

[that-butch-archivist]

"Femmes, through a reshaped femininity, exhibit an assertive sexuality that does not conflate desire with political practice. This very assertiveness can be politically empowering for femmes who like to play with the idea of power but are not disempowered by this play. For example, femmes with a bottom identification can renegotiate the dynamics of passivity/activity such that their feminine position is one of receiving pleasure rather than of being receptive solely for someone else's pleasure. What seems to be passivity is actually activity: she allows the butch to control her pleasure, but this control and the pleasure are exactly what the femme has demanded. For the bottom femme as for other varieties of femme sexuality--top, s/m, bisexual, or others--her own female sexual agency is paramount. The femme who plays with power provides a model that negotiates rather than ignores power differentials in relationships. [...] In many ways, femmes' chosen pleasures rather than politically prescribed pleasures are radically feminist."

-- "An Introduction to Sustaining Femme Gender," written by Laura Harris & Liz Crocker. (Emphasis in bold mine.)

[highfemmealbertano]

Being high femme or stone butch really makes you realize how little people actually care about consent and boundaries in sex

[porcelain-sexdoll]

starting my weekend ❤️

[butchcharliee]

but like to be fair being a pillow princess is a choice - you’re choosing not to even make an attempt to please your partner & for most people that would make them feel insecure even if they aren’t submissive

Good thing I'm a stone top. Pillow princess = stone bottom, giving pleasure to a stone bottom is LITERALLY them giving me pleasure. For most people being stone is not a choice. A pillow princess does not have to break their own boundaries just because you don't understand their identity and why they're a stone bottom in the first place. For me, knowing there are pillow princesses who wouldn't cross my boundaries as a stone and the fact they are willing to be in a vulnerable position like giving me their body so I could give them pleasure, is an honor to me and I'll be happy to give to them as much/long as they want. That to me is pleasure, that to me is them giving back. Knowing that my hands and mouth can be the reason for their pleasure makes being a stone top so damn worth it. Being a pillow princess ISN'T selfish or lazy or whatever the hell people say about them, it's beautiful and safe and a relief that I have a counterpart that fits perfectly into me. Stone identities are perfect and wonderful and there's nothing wrong with any of us.

This is a safe space for stone bottoms/pillow princesses<3 Seriously why are you following me if you're just gonna hate on pillow princesses? This is not the place for you, I suggest you get the fuck out of here.

[Terfs dni/18+]

[maconline]

the current tiktok trend of “i don’t care if you say you’re a stone top, you’re still going to lay down for me” is so gross to me. makes me feel bad for all the stone tops out there but also just makes me remember all the times ive been belittled for being a stone bottom :(

if u don’t respect the sexual boundaries of your partner, you shouldn’t be together !

[sugusatodyke]

Stone top stud reassuring their Stone bottom that there is nothing wrong with being a stone bottom. Telling them, "Don't be ashamed. You have no idea just how much I need you. I don't think I could survive without my precious pillow princess." they make sure to kiss down their angel's neck, kissing away any negative thoughts until their mind is replaced by how loved they are

[pinkcheerios]

would really benefit from being pinned down and fingered until i’m begging for more while they’re telling me how good i’m being

[pinkfairyprincessfemme]

SAVE ME BUTCHES IN SUITS🙏🙏🙏

Feel free to reblog if ur a butch in a suit 😋

[chokecherrylore]

Still not done and this is an incredibly IMPORTANT part of the conversation around stone identities.

I am not going to "melt the stone" or try to force my partners boundaries in the name of reciprocity, my fiance is a stone butch top. I'm not going to press them to let me touch them or fuck them or talk to them in a way they aren't COMFORTABLE WITH OR WANT.

Stone tops aren't damaged or broken or just need coaxing to enjoy something that is outside of their boundaries.

My butch doesn't want to take strap or want to be penetrated, I'm not gonna try to manipulate them into trying because SOMEONE ELSE WHO DOESNT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT US OR DYKE STONE IDENTITIES, thinks my sex life isn't shared and reciprocal.

Stop disregarding stone identities.

And lovingly from my stone butch top fiance, stay out of dyke business ✨️💋

[femmelily]

i think if i was in a princess femme x knight butch relationship i would be fixed

[brattyfemmebaby]

i stg the people who link stone femmes to “not giving pleasure” don’t understand us at all. like i can get my partners off without touching their genitals and you think im not an expert in giving pleasure? touch grass

[stonebutchstories]

I know I’m not alone, I know that. I know there are dozens of Stone butches out there, and there have been dozens more before, all just like me. Someone has walked where I’m walking now, how else would there be this path to take? How else would I know the word, if someone else hadn’t said it first?

I just wish it weren’t such a lonely word. I have such a spectacular queer family, every stripe on the flag working together to tend, to hold, to mend. All of them are wonderful, and none of them had even heard of Stone before they met me. I wish that weren’t the case.

I struggle to reconcile the Stone community that I know must exist with the isolation that I experience. I struggle to talk about this in any meaningful online Stone spaces I’m a part of. (I’ve drafted this post and its lookalikes at least a dozen times.) I feel an obligation, since there are so few places for us, to be unstoppably proud of my identity. To be a force for fellow Stones, and to only write about Stones being respected, loved, and happy. To prove to myself and others in my stories that a happy life is possible for us.

Someone else has walked the path before me, and everything I write clears the brush a little more for the next traveler. For now, my Stone butch brotherhoods exist only in books. I read about their histories, and I feel like I could know them. They were like I am, a long time ago. Surely, there must be others even now. Surely I’m not the only one.

I wish more existed for me than this placating reassurance that brotherhood exists ‘elsewhere’. I wish my options weren’t to look backwards, or to charge forward alone. I know we must be somewhere. I know I’m not the only one. I keep my head down and try not to be irrational. Calm down, you’re not alone. Be reasonable, you know there are other Stones somewhere. Somewhere. There must be.