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discountalien-pancake · 1 year

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Somewhere in me there is a rant about how people bemoaning the use of social cues as “refusing to communicate” are just. Petulant. You complain about people relying on social cues not “using their words” but have you ever in fact informed them explicitly that you cannot pick up on social cues? Or asked them to clarify a cue?

People who use social cues had to learn how to use them and fun fact! Loads of them are neurodivergent just like you! They are communicating but in a nonverbal language and it is not them being an asshole. They do not and cannot know you don’t understand them if you don’t fucking tell them that.

Communication is a two-way street.

#screeeeeech #sorry luci ilu but i will die on this damn hill #i just. am soooo annoyed whenever i see this shit #i’m sorry you don’t understand social cues but that isn’t the FAULT of the person who giving the cues #but ignoring someone who is trying to communicate with you in their language just bc you don’t want to tell them you don’t get it #doesn’t actually do anything for either party and just makes them think you are being deliberately obtuse #just ASK people what they mean!!#why don’t YOU use your people words??#generally speaking people aren’t trying to make things difficult for you but if you refuse to meet them halfway #obviously they’re going to stop trying??? or get mad??#they genuinely believe they are speaking to you in a language you should understand and if you don’t tell them otherwise #they will legit just believe you’re being a dick for no reason #god i bet im gonna get whaled on for this

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