#sorry its not concise lol... its hard to explain this stuff simply

[magical-agatha]

ive seen a lot of other ppl saying something similar but im not sure its appropriate in this context to make a comparison between trans women and men based on our genitalia.

its too close to the logic of transphobes who force us to tuck in the first place for my comfort. the reason many trans women are forced to tuck or feel safer tucking (even when it hurts), is because cissociety firmly believes that genitalia = gender, penis = boy, vagina = girl, aka gender essentialism or the myth of biological sex. obviously, thats not true, genitalia has no bearing on gender as gender is a purely social construct.

because of cissociety's undying belief in gender essentialism, many cis ppl feel like trans people are disgusting and deserve to die, and some of those cis ppl decide they have the right to kill us bc we're trans. something that happens disproportionately to trans women. all because of the belief that whats in our pants means something about us and cis ppl think they deserve to know whats down there and do something evil about it.

so while i understand your logic and i dont think you think trans women are men or anything like that, in the context of this post thats a dangerous comparison to make, and i also think it misses the point i was trying to make.

i think a better comparison would be that if cis women dont have to force their genitals up into their body and risk their health in order to pass as women, neither should trans women. this isnt an issue about genitalia, this is about a specific class of women and the oppression they face. this is about mysogyny, specifically transmisogyny.

the point if this post is that trans women shouldnt have to tuck to be seen as women. the point is that we shouldnt be scared for our lives because we're not cis. the point is that our genitals shouldnt matter and no one should be looking at our crotches without permission.

and its also that we shouldnt be sexualised for our default state of being! ever since this post got popular i keep getting followed by violent perverts who want to dehumanise trans women and reduce us to a fetish. tucking is a complicated and difficult thing to do, just like shaving constantly or vocal training or wearing makeup. i dont want to do any of that stuff. i shouldnt have to. its expensive and painful and its my body. anyones genitals should be no ones business but their own, and no one should care whats in my pants but my girlfriend and my doctor.

i should be able to leave the house without being scared im not passing bc i cant tuck and dont want to. i should be able to go to the beach in whatever i want without being scared some bastard is gonna attack me or scream at me or drag me somewhere and kill me or worse. all because society teaches him im a freak and deserve to die and that he has the right to exterminate me. the point of this post is that trans women deserve to live in peace and safety and shouldnt be expected to tuck or feel safer tucking or risk violence for not tucking.

please reblog this version of the post! this addition is rly important. thank u for spreading it as much as you all have i never expected it to get this much traction! all the ppl saying supportive things restored my faith in humanity a little bit, thank u!

trans girls not tucking needs to be seen as a completely normal and nonsexual thing. chasers go die.

trans women’s genitals are not so repulsive that they need to be totally hidden through our clothes at the expense of our health and safety and for the sake of your comfort.

if cis men don’t have to tuck then neither do trans women.