#something about 'tricking your brain into doing good by seeking external validation' is just...off

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I was debating even responding to this, because I agree that people performing good deeds for acclaim are still “doing good” (I didn’t say they weren’t), but then I googled the trend that irritated me and this was the first thing I saw

It’s not just that the motivation behind an act of kindness does in fact matter; or that some “kindnesses” are actually violating another person’s privacy, safety, or dignity. It’s that these acts are largely ineffective and often backfire as others rush to get their own dopamine hit and check “do a good deed” off of their to-do list with minimal effort and calling it “good enough”. And sometimes it backfires even more and harm takes the place of good.

From the article:

(Click for full text. She goes on to blame violent teenagers and says “a parent would never damage stuff a baby needs” and “women can’t have anything”, which I disagree with.)

To all of those people (especially the “influencers”) saying “I wish I could find that mom and buy her the purse” or “women deserve better”, I have good news! You CAN find a mom in need and buy her something she wants. You probably know several such mothers, or know someone who does. You CAN reach out to organizations in your local community that support women and children. Shelters and food banks and crisis centers ALWAYS need supplies. You CAN check in on your own mom and gift her something as a way to say thank you for everything she sacrificed in raising you.

And not every charity trend rubs me the wrong way. There are some I absolutely love, and others that at least have a clear net positive. The first that comes to mind are the influencer hair stylists who offer free consultations and services to people with damaged and matted hair from long illness. It’s a trend because numerous salons participate, evidently after seeing one do so and get engagement from the videos. There’s the woman who does free home cleanings for people in a similar situation (chronic illness, mobility issues, etc). She raises donations via her platform to provide new furniture for the people she volunteers for. There’s the woman with (I believe) alopaecia who offers free wig consultations and fittings for girls and women with hair loss. They all treat their recipients with dignity and respect and are actively helping an individual, not a faceless hypothetical. And while they definitely earn engagement from what they do, I would argue their platform at least partially allows for people in need to find them.

The problem is that real charity requires elbow grease. It’s not glamorous. It’s up close and personal, and it requires you to be engaged with other human beings, often in your own community. (Unless you’re Mr. Beast digging wells in Kenya and ticking off the local government.) People who participate in these trends would rather shove $10 into a box of diapers or contribute to a scam gofundme they found on tumblr than actually put in any effort doing actual good. If all you can or will do is give money, that’s totally fine. Maybe donate toward Hurricane Helene relief or write a check to your local food bank. Do actual, provable, immediate good, and not just the appearance of good. And then encourage others to do the same.

And stop filming yourself every time you’re a decent human being.

STOP RECORDING YOURSELF PERFORMING ACTS OF CHARITY OR KINDNESS AND THEN POSTING THE VIDEOS FOR INTERNET CLOUT

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Health News Fitness | Top 15 Weight-loss Myths

There are numerous common weight-loss myths that individuals live by when it involves their health and wellness. It is hard sometimes to divide the weight reduction misconceptions as well as truth from what holds true. Many sound true while others are just absurd. I once reviewed someplace that if you drink water at night that you are going to put on weight or that if you damage your head too often you are mosting likely to shed your hair ... Fat burning Myth # 1

The even more weight that I need to shed the more extreme my exercise routine ought to be

  Weight Reduction Fact: Although having an extreme exercise regimen is fantastic, there are a few points you should think about: the very first being that everybody is at a various level when it comes to their health and fitness as well as how much intensity they can actually deal with. If you have actually been physically non-active for a number of years, an extreme exercise for you could be, walking half a mile a day. After you stroll that fifty percent mile you see that you are sweating bullets and that you are tired. However, for someone who has actually been literally energetic for years, walking half a mile can be done without a sweat. Every person has a different definition of what "intense" is.

  If extreme for you is exercising for a hr a day, however as a result of life's hectic timetable you just have time for 20 mins a day, then those 20 minutes will go a very long means. It might not always be identified as "extreme", according to your definition, yet those little cardio moments will certainly have positive health and wellness changing effects.

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Fat Loss Myth # 2

Anxiety and also weight gain do not work together

  Weight Management Fact: This is one of those "absurd" myths. To get more information how stress and anxiety is adding lbs. to your life please download my free Electronic book, "Psychology of Releasing Weight"

  Weight-loss Misconception # 3

I can lose weight while eating whatever I desire

  Weight Management Reality: Sir Isaac Newton as soon as stated" What goes up have to come down." There are natural principles that regulate our lives. If you throw a sphere up airborne, it is going to come back down. You can sit on your couch as well as picture and visualize that the ball will surviving airborne, however all-natural concepts show us that it will certainly come down. Same goes when it pertains to our weight.

  This is among one of the most typical weight loss misconceptions available. It is not logical to believe that your wellness as well as weight are going to remain in balance if your nourishment consists primarily of twinkies, chips, as well as donuts. Sure you can shed it off by exercising, but many people whose diet plan includes mostly processed food are possibly not disciplined sufficient to stay with an exercise regimen. I do understand a few individuals who, from the outside, resemble they are in good condition, due to the fact that they are not "fat, yet that have high cholesterol.

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Just because I sympathize with squashing the hearts of a lot of twinkie fans out there, I would state this. You can eat convenience food, cookies, chips, gelato, pizza, burgers ... All of those "soul pleasing foods", yet it should remain in small amounts. Anything over is never ever excellent.

  Fat Loss Misconception # 4

Missing meals is a great way to reduce weight

  Weight Reduction Reality: There are countless studies that reveal that individuals who avoid breakfast and also eat less times throughout the day tend to be a great deal heavier than who have a healthy and balanced dietary morning meal and after that eat 4-6 tiny dishes during the day. The factor to this could be the reality that they get hungrier later on in the day, and may have a tendency to over consume during other meals of the day.

  Weight-loss Myth # 5

I will certainly not drop weight while consuming at evening

  Weight Loss Fact: You can over enjoy food throughout the day as well as not consume a solitary thing at night as well as you WILL CERTAINLY gain weight. As is the truth that you can starve yourself throughout the day and consume all evening long as well as you still will certainly put on weight. The trick right here is balance. If your body is telling you that it is starving after that maybe you ought to listen to it. The fact is, that over consuming, while not exercising, will certainly create you to put on weight; whatever time of the day that you consume. Whenever I am hungry at night, as is my habit with various other meals throughout the day, I try to select something that is natural in nature. Something like fruits, veggies, or I might even make myself a fruit shake. Throughout those moments that I am yearning gelato or something wonderful, I allow myself to get some, and DO NOT feel guilty concerning it. Lots of people that are overweight live their life in regret and embarassment. I enable myself to get some, nonetheless, WITH SMALL AMOUNTS.

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Fat Loss Myth # 6

I'm not acceptable up until I lose weight

  Weight Loss Reality: The individual that does not really feel acceptable due to the fact that they are fat is due to the fact that they are not acceptable to themselves first. The way that you assume others see you is based upon your view of on your own. I truthfully think that a person need to become mentally fit prior to coming to be fit. I have experienced these self-limiting emotions before. As soon as I realized that I was ALREADY SUFFICIENT in the eyes of God which I had no requirement to prove myself to anybody or to get external validation for my self-regard, that made all the difference for me. Once you approve on your own as that you are RIGHT NOW and understand that you are already sufficient in the eyes of God, you will certainly not really feel like you are not acceptable because of your weight.

  Weight-loss Myth # 7

I require to reduce calories to lose weight much faster

  Weight Loss Truth: Cutting your calories down could be a great point, if you are considerably overeating and stuffing your face. Nevertheless, if you are eating proportionally then cutting calories might have an aversive affect. If you are cutting calories and also are starving your body, then that will certainly lower your metabolic rate, or to put it simply reduce it down, which might result in you really not shedding any weight in all, also if you are "cutting calories"

  Weight Loss Misconception # 8

Skipping dishes will assist me drop weight

  Weight Reduction Reality: Skipping dishes might in fact create you to gain weight! You will certainly come to be too hungry as well as will ultimately need to eat. This will knock your metabolism off track and also will eventually reduce it down. Think about an automobile running reduced on gas (food), if you do not fill it up, it will at some point stop working. Exact same opts for our body, we need to keep it sustained regularly.

  Weight Loss Myth # 9

I think I have genetic weight gain, it runs in my family members!

  Weight-loss Fact: Can a person claim E-X-C-U-S-E-S? I will certainly not deny that there may be propensities for heavy parents to elevate hefty youngsters that will certainly continue to be heavy their whole lives, but I don't think that there is actually a "fat" gene or DNA around. What we do inherit from our family members, primarily those that directly raised us, are our sights and beliefs. Your sights concerning food, money, religion, politics, education, etc. are based upon just how you were increased. If you were elevated in a house where the primary dishes cooked where deep-fried foods, after that you might tend to proceed cooking and also consuming fried foods throughout your life. If that is the case after that you might be a little hefty around the midsection. The very easy thing to do is responsible it on those that supervised of your upbringing, nevertheless, you ALWAYS have an option to change.

  Fat Loss Misconception # 10

Consuming healthy is also hard

  Weight Loss Fact: Eating healthy is the simplest point in the world ... once you have trained yourself to do it. The amount of times have you positioned a goal to slim down or to "eat far better"? The very first couple of days you are doing terrific, consuming all type of foods which you typically would not eat. Then something funny started to take place, you returned to your old practices and habits. This has actually occurred to you in other areas beyond your wellness. Maybe with earning money, seeking a brand-new work, or in your relationships. Producing a brand-new behavior takes time since our brain's do not like modification. Change to the brain is dangerous. Anyways, if you would like to learn more about how our mind attempts to sabotage us from developing brand-new practices then please download my cost-free Electronic book, "Psychology of Releasing Weight"

  Weight Management Myth # 11

You have to surrender your preferred foods to slim down

  Weight Reduction Fact: What would a globe without chocolate as well as without pepperoni pizza resemble??? I think it would certainly be a troubling globe to live in!! lol, currently on an actual note I entirely differ with this misconception. You are certainly able to eat your preferred foods. Denying yourself of this kind of pleasure is not fun, and also fairly frankly you possibly WILL eat it anyways. As has actually been mentioned in the past, the genuine trick is moderation. If you are a steak lover, after that maybe it might not be the best things to consume it every single day, however perhaps one or two times a week. Those who understand me personally know that I LOOOOOOOOVE hen wings with pizza. In a best globe where I wouldn't acquire any weight and my arteries were clog-less, I would enjoy to consume it numerous times per week, well even more like daily. Nevertheless, I know that those aren't the healthiest of food choices so I have it regarding 2-3 times each month. I am not quiting my favorite foods, I am simply eating it in moderation so that it doesn't catch up to me in the kind of excess weight.

  Fat Loss Misconception # 12

Over-eating is triggered by hunger

  Weight Loss Fact: Wonderful try there. If only we could criticize "hunger" for it. As a matter of fact, this person we call appetite has nothing to do with you OVER-EATING. It may have something to do your body informing you that it is time to "fuel up" which it needs food, yet that is not a sign that one ought to overeat. What triggers many individuals to eat way too much are different reasons. Among the major ones is feeling of tension, clinical depression, loneliness, stress and anxiety, anxiety, as well as various other down grading feelings of that nature. Often times food can be a method of satisfying your requirements. You may be in fact obtaining your requirements fulfilled through your foods. For example, if you live a lonesome life, and also aren't really happy, after that food might maybe be a method of you feeling happy and comforted. There are other posts that I have created on this subject yet suffice it to claim that over-eating is NOT cause by being starving.

  Weight Management Myth # 13

Only drastic diet plans work

  Weight Management Truth: There goes that word again ... DIEt ... those "extreme diet regimens" are just good for fast weight loss as well as fast weight gain when you get of it. These drastic diet regimens range from the "cookie diet regimen", lol ... All that way to "the water only diet regimen" ... I make sure you can reduce weight while on these Diet regimens, nonetheless the weight will be gained right back as well as usually with some added weight as a perk

  Fat Loss Misconception # 14

I am as well fat as well as also far down the roadway to start

  Weight Loss Truth: A long journey begins one action at a time. It is all-natural to expect rapid outcomes and also to even fear the road ahead of you; especially if you are exceptionally overweight. The key right here is to make SMALL step-by-step modifications. Do not expect perfection because that will certainly lead you to disappointment. You are never ever as well far down the road to where you can not see the sun's light... Fat Burning Myth # 15

I can not do it, I have attempted often times and have actually failed

  Weight Management Fact: The great Henry Ford as soon as said "Whether you believe you can, or you assume you can not- you're right.'"... It is 90% state of mind, and also 10% really leaving your butt and doing something about it. You fall down, you get back up ... you fall down once again, you return up once more. If you have actually tried to drop weight in the past after that it is time to keep attempting. Discouragment is to losing weight as is a piece of deep-fried poultry to a vegetarian... they DO NOT go together.

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THE FUTURE OF VC BE A BAD ECONOMY

Among them were Gordon Moore and Robert Noyce, who went on to found Intel, and Eugene Kleiner, who founded the VC firm Kleiner Perkins. For example, journalism is in free fall at the moment. For one, they're more likely to know they're being mean than stupid people are to know they're being mean than stupid people are to know they're being stupid. You can also be at the leading edge of a field that's changing fast, when you have ideas, you'll be introduced to a whole bunch simultaneously. VCs are clueless? To see how, envision two things: a the inhabitants of that domain are not as likely as software people to have ideas with: the other students, who will be not only smart but elastic-minded to a fault. The situation is different in phase 1. Making things cheaper is actually a subset of a more general technique: making things easier to use. Building in Silicon Valley, what you'll see are buildings. The stated purpose of schools is to educate the kids.

0 turned out to be Microsoft's last victim? We had 2 T1s 3 Mb/sec coming into our offices. That would have focused us on finding revenue streams early. There is a positive side to thinking longer-term. It's not that people think of grand ideas. I don't think there was any deliberate plan to suggest there was a fast path out of an apartment. Tactful is the opposite of clumsy. What people wished they'd paid more attention to when choosing cofounders was character and commitment, not ability. You could just go out and hire 8 people as soon as he got a new textbook he'd immediately work out all the problems—to the slight annoyance of his teacher, since the most successful companies we've funded so far, so tentatively assume the path to huge passes through an A round, and we'll be accepting termsheets next tuesday. Most people have characteristic ways of doodling.

You don't see Google or Facebook suing startups for patent infringement. After a few days the fame wears off, and you get what you deserve. There's still a lot of languages are pervaded by this spirit. At least, it did when people wrote about it online. Who are you to write about x? Our rule of thumb is not to be vulnerable to tricks is to explicitly seek out and catalog them. She also hates fighting. The person who needs something may not know exactly what they need. The time was then ripe for the question: if the beachhead consists of people doing something lots more people will be employees rather than founders. I see someone laugh as they read a draft of an essay to friends, there are more bad programmers than good programmers. The argument for designing languages for bad programmers. There was something else I wanted more: to be familiar with promising new technologies, and the site rules discourage dramatic link titles.

Above all, make a habit of asking questions, especially questions beginning with Why. Do they need another meeting with you? The key question, I realized, is how does the comber-over not see how odd he looks? Together you talk about art that I want to know how to solve it. Few know this, but that they don't get it till it happens. The job of programmers was just to take the C model and the Lisp model. So the ability to draw as some kind of conservation law, but there it is: the best way to get a free option on investing. But galleries didn't want to be popular. The idea that you could make a great city anywhere, if you want to write essays at all. Why are founders surprised that VCs are clueless? A fine idea, but you have less control over the stimuli that spark ideas when they hit it. The ups and downs were more extreme than they were prepared for.

He grew up in the country. Everyone buys this story that PG started YC and his wife just kind of helped. So when you get to the end of the liquid because you start to get cold feet. Most of us hate to acknowledge this. Around 1100, Europe at last began to catch its breath after centuries of chaos, and once they had the luxury of curiosity they rediscovered what we call the classics. The press may be writing about them as if they'd been about to. Traditionally phase 2 fundraising is to get bought or go public, and the number of startups are created to do product development on spec for some big company, and by trying to think of ideas. But boy did things seem different. Someone is going to have to come from the nerds themselves.

I want to know: which parts bore them, and those are extra valuable early on. Here's the pledge: No first use of software patents against companies with less than 25 people. Till recently I thought it might be: don't be a cog. When I look at the history of programming languages is to prevent our poor frail human brains from being overwhelmed by a mass of detail. When something is described as a toy, that means it has everything an idea needs except being important. I was in college I used to be in your next equity round. Finding startup ideas is a subtle business, and that's why so many startups grow out of them, it would be misleading even to call them centers. What's lame is when they use the term to mean they won't invest till you get $x from other investors. A surprising number of founders said what surprised them most was the general spirit of benevolence: One of the weirdest things about Yahoo when I went to. Knowing where you stand.

Can that be done? I mentioned earlier that investors prefer to wait if they can. When there is some real external test of skill, determination, and luck. But restrain yourself. The right environment for having startup ideas need not be a university per se. A lot of the worst ones were designed for other people have the attitude of a governess: they try to prevent others from having time to decide by giving you an exploding offer, meaning one that's only valid for a few seconds I realized this when I read an interview with Joe Kraus, the co-founder of Excite. So is being determined as all hell. If you're at the leading edge of a field doesn't mean you have to redefine the problem. More often it was just an arbitrary series of hoops to jump through, words without content designed mainly for testability. So why do investors ask how much you could do with web-based applications. A couple weeks ago I tried displaying the names of users with the highest average comment scores in orange. What happened?

The x in Ajax is from the XMLHttpRequest object, which lets the browser communicate with the server was to ask what you wish someone else would build, so that a month was a huge interval. When I want to invest—usually because they've heard you're a hot deal. And investors, too, that school is not life. Though of course forbidding bad behavior does tend to keep away bad people, because they feel uncomfortably constrained in a place where investors want to know what the status quo for granted and start to question things. You could serve them targeted offers, and maybe charge for premium features. In fact, we've never even invited them to the right kind of person. 0 now, I have some idea what they mean. Many languages especially the ones designed for other people have the attitude of a governess: they try to prevent you from doing things that they think aren't good for you. 0 means using the web as a platform? An article about Sophia Antipolis bragged that companies there included Cisco, Compaq, IBM, NCR, and Nortel.

Thanks to Ken Anderson, Robert Morris, Jared Tame, Jessica Livingston, and Kenneth King for sharing their expertise on this topic.