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spitblaze · 5 days ago

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This is going to sound mean but I mean this in the most sincere and compassionate way I possibly can:

If you see a comment on the internet that is transphobic towards your group and your first assumption is that the person who wrote it is a different kind of transgender and not cis, especially if that comment is completely removed from all context or anonymous, no avatar or username or anything, take that as a sign to log off for a few days or pick up a new hobby.

#spitblaze says things #im tired and the amount of bait going around presented as sincere is neigh on unbearable #like yes obviously there are trans people who are shitheads about other kinds of trans people but PLEASE think for a moment #about the odds of this actually being an Evil Nonbinary Person Who Wants All Binaries Dead vs some bored chud trying to sow discord #why do you assume it was a transmasc who wrote that cropped comment saying that they don't want to give up using a transfem-specific slur #(and no it's not the B one)#why do u assume a transfem wrote that comment about transmasc being a 'cultural void who only produce twee ukelele songs abt bugs'#why are you assuming that the people who hate you are other trans people? why do you assume the worst of your own community?#please dont let online discourse determine how you view other members of your community.#someone not sharing your gender identity does not automatically preclude them thinking of yours as abusive or predatory #and them not sharing yours does not mean they will be abusive or predatory to you either #someone SHARING your gender identity doesnt mean they wont be abusive or predatory #the odds someone with your identity will 'get you' are a lot better and to that end hell yeah make more friends like yourself #if you're doing it because you think it will 'keep you safe' though. uh.#well if they start telling you that you cant trust ppl who dont share their identity its time to start checking the BITE model #but thats neither here nor there.#stop reading the first three sentences of other ppls posts about their own oppression and then getting mad for not including your group #and putting words in their mouth about it also. thats a problem as old as time but yknow. dont be a tar pit

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