#so. i really shouldnt trust any of those sorts of feelings 😭

[wuntrum]

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[oraclekleo]

Hi so you are wise to me and i like your bluntness so id like to ask your opinion on a matter

I do this combat sports and we are 2/3 women but it happens that im the only one and the rest being all men

Last time we were doing push ups and the guy next to me wasnt doing them proprely and the coach said something along the lines of "what the hell are those push ups shouldnt you try to impress the young girl next to you?" and i know its just a joke to tease the guy but i didnt like it im here to train like them not to be impressed by guys 😭 also i felt bad for the man

(also when the guys dont work hard enough the coach says they should go to the womens class)

i really like this coach as a teacher but its kind of annoying as a woman

do you see what i mean about the comment about impressing me ? maybe i am over reacting i know its not really bad or anything

Hello!

I totally get why the comment made you feel uncomfortable or angry even and it surely felt bad for the guy, too.

I mean this is the whole issue with the toxic masculinity going around. The coach clearly hints that the only motivation for someone to do better is to impress the opposite sex. The guy might not be even interested in women, or maybe, just maybe he also goes there only to do training and not to hit on women because that would be pathetic. The coach clearly has no idea what they are implying with it and you are right to notice that kind of behaviour. Next time don't be shy and tell them that you're not some sort of a carrot hanging in front of a donkey, that you are a person and you go there to do something for yourself and not to be used for anything. The coach in general sounds like a pretty annoying person to me. Using you as if you weren't a person to motivate someone, bullying guys, what's worse by again putting women down... I mean, I know this is a usual thing when it comes to sports but it truly needs to stop and really, if you feel uncomfortable about what your coach says or does, voice it! This is a person you should trust, they oversee your training. If they behave in a way that's disrespectful, they should know about it. You know... People will never change how they act or talk when they are not told that what they do or say is unacceptable.

I'm not saying you should start yelling at your coach but just politely and calmly express how such comments make you feel and how truly outdated and unacceptable they are. I have learned that the calmer and more reasonable and logical you remain in any kind of argument, the better chances for you to win because the moment emotions take over, you lose, no matter how good your arguments are because the other party, especially a man, won't take you seriously. So yeah. Calm and decent approach but don't feel shy and set the boundaries. Most people will understand the point and correct their ways when explained. Only psychos and freaks will continue doing something they were told not to.

Rooting for you and I hope you can feel safe and unbothered during your trainings. 💖💖💖

[hollyhomburg]

Loved this chapter, tho mc is so much more patient than I’ll ever be. Id be quite tired of dealing w the packs anger towards me over something that I couldn’t control 😭 like at some point I’d be telling Jin and Hobi to get over themselves. Like did Hobi miss the memo that yoongi claimed her bc she would have died if he didn’t? That she begged him not to? And he says that SHE’S the one complicating things?

I love Hobi and Mc but my patience is so thin w him rn. “I should hate u” no u shouldnt and if u do, go to hell. Love him tho ❤️

(Besides I’d be spilling dirt on all of them like did u know Jimin kills people for a living. Jin is an FBI agent. Y’all were complicated and murky long before I even met yoongi u emotional asshole).

I do enjoy Hobi and Mc getting closer tho. I hope they can talk fr. I’m glad Jin was able to sort out whatever he was feeling. And Jimin and Tae took the damn cake w how sweet they were my goodness. All I can think of is Jimin anxiously smoking a cigarette while shopping for makeup for his gf while other customers and workers are looking at him like 👀

okay BUT- i was super intentional about the language i used in this chapter, i really thought that people wouldn't like...still be upset with jin?

i'm not saying you're wrong for it- and this is on par with bily because we've seen everyone in the pack make questionable calls thusfar- thats part of the fun in the story, but if i may, i'm gonna bring up a few spesific lines of the last chapter in rebuttal to this ask, just because it left me with a weird taste in my mouth.

i really hoped that people wouldn't still be angry at jin and hobi...but i guess it's out of my hands right now unless i want to edit.

but remember, we see these charecters conflicted about the very things that youre unsure about, we see hobi's internal narration go. "You claimed Yoongi’s soul and future for yourself before you even met them, even if you had too- Hoseok has a right to be angry). But he’s not. He lies his cheek next to yours on the folded blankets, close enough that he can feel the warmth of your skin, and thinks- are you the only one who I can’t offer comfort to? Isn’t that a wretched thing, that we’re in the same pack but we can’t be so close?

we see hobi here being extremely conflicted, he's not exactly musing on his issues but he's letting them go! i get that the m/c still had to like- deal with them. But i think its very clear how tired she is of it. hobi gets and and he's tired too. it's more then dealing with the bullshit of that together as a pair- the first time they've really done something together for the benefit of their relationship thus far. and we see him immediatly offer her comfort right after- trying to limit the damage of his emotions and actions on her.

and then jin! jin's is also more easy to point out we see the m/c ask "Are you still upset at me and Yoongi for the mark thing?” i was very intentional to use the word upset not angry. jin confirms that he's still upset eventually- but he's mostly upset that they had to make those choices, that the situation forced them to do something that could have easily killed them both, because he wants them both alive not because he doesn't care that the m/c almost died.

but they'res also jealousy and insecurity there- because yoongi would have rather them both almost die then reach out for jin's help. both of those feelings are dealt with through sex in part because they need to reaffirm their desire for intimacy with each other and the trust. jin knows he could push the m/c too far, and she trust him not too in the mini scene (thats not really a scene)

i think people in general with bily forget the trauma that the m/c and yoongi put the pack through. remember- yoongi left without telling them one word, came back with another person and then she proceeded to not speak to them for about a month. i don't think any party is wrong in their feelings, and i do think that the mc is frustrated with them too. she just handles her emotions diffrently, she's more prone to self doubt then anger in part because of her abuse.

when others are angry or unrightfully emotional about others- tae for instance- she has no problem speaking up. but it's different when it comes to her because shes still handling the after effects of the abuse she went through. i'd even gander that the pack is well aware of this and is taking steps to make sure she does speak up for herself, remember hobi says "would you stop with the whole 'i hate you thing'"

and emotions don't just go away once you feel them, sometimes they linger, but both jin and hobi try to make sure that the m/c doesn't feel quite so bad about it, they at least try to make sure the emotions don't hurt her.

hobi offers her comfort before anyone else will- "You’re doing a good job, with Tae. In case no one’s told you yet.”“Oh,” you say, words muffled by the blanket, burying your face in it. “Thanks.” He can feel the warmth of your cheek, and after a second you move just a little closer, just enough for your skin to brush a little, atoms to atoms and more a feeling of warmth than skin. 

jin's is here- oh so he doesn’t hate you, you didn’t realize how worried you were of that, that Jin had someone decide he didn’t want you anymore. The hardness poking at your stomach dictates the opposite of that too. Jin’s hand cups the back of your neck possessively, tilting your mouth so that he can kiss you the way that he likes. He gets you gasping when his teeth dig in a little, just a little harder. But Jin knows you like a bit of force behind it, just to make your mind quiet. (jin knows he's stressed the fuck out of the m/c, and now he's gonna make her better!

Tldr: hobi and jin are trying their hardest!

also please definitely picture minnie smoking and anxiously shopping, a cigarette between one finger and another, or one hanging from his lips while he runs his hands through his hair and looks over high heals trying to figure out the guy to girl size conversion chart and being so so so confused why skirts don't always have pockets or what the fuck a beauty blenders used for.