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uchiha-gaeshi · 2 days ago

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I would never wish growing up in a hyper religious African house on my worst enemy. The cognitive dissonance is insane especially if you grow up in the West yet your family (and other African families around you) insist on clinging on to asinine “traditions” that are really just covers for abuse.

#uchiha-gaeshi overshares #like I want us to fight as equals not with you and your damaged self esteem #why is my mum calling me ‘rebellious’ for having a vibraotr when I’m fully 23???#my mum once went on a rant about me and my sister not upholding ‘traditions’#my naive ass thought she was talking about idk a secret family recipe or dance or whatever #she was talking about us doing everything she says without question #I recall VIVIDLY an almost argument I had with her when I was 14-15 #asking her to lay off on pressuring me academically #because I was getting stressed and it started negatively affecting my mental health #and then she just went apeshit on me #‘ungrateful’ is their go to jerk reaction to their children acting like people #oh and my parents are one of the ‘nice’obes btw #I’ve heard wayyyy to many stories of people’s parents just beating the absolute living crap about them #for the most benign shit like having crushes or something #off topic but is it normal for parents to tell kids to be careful what they say to teachers #so that the teachers don’t call cps on the family #I remember my mum telling me a story of a dad giving his kid a black eye #then when the kid’s teacher asked him where tf he got a black eye from of course the kid told the truth #and the dad had to be tried in court or something #and this whole time my mum is telling me this story it’s like I’m supposed to feel bad for this guy #who cares for his family oh so much but whose life is ruined because of the legal protections we have in place to protect kids 😔#so much discourse abt ‘purity culture’on here but I guess many people forget that in a lot of places in the world especially outside of #the west people are NOT open about sexuality at all #when you add Christianity to the mix real weird shit happens #like why is my mum crying about the fact that I masturbate #at least in her eyes I’m not a virgin….#she literally would rather have me shotgun married to a cis man I could fuck than for me to use a vibrator….#txt #African parents

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