#so lucky to wfh

[nametakensff]

I'm so upset. I woke up with my sinuses all scratchy and have been trying to ignore it again thinking surely I can't have another fucking virus only a month after that evil one but my sister just called me from work and said she's been feeling the same way

I'm so fucking sick of this. It's the fifth time I've gotten ill this year. Never in my life have I gotten ill so consistently, especially not with the illnesses being so intense, even when I had a terrible lifestyle and didn't look after myself. I genuinely think c*vid fucked me up last summer and my immune system hasn't been the same since 😣

[mellotronmkll]

I'm so upset because this week was going to be the week I finally went back to open mic after months of not going due to my issues with self hatred that I'm trying to work through and I was really excited to see everyone again AHHHGG

[eccentriccryptid]

The thing about working is every time I’m doing it I could be doing something better

[buttdumplin]

AAAAHHHHH THIS WAS SO CUTE AND IT'S SO NICE TO HAVE OPTIONS FOR FAT BODIES!!!!! This really made my night, thanks Kiko 💕💕💕

I don't have tags tonight, but anyone who is interested should tag along!!!

dress up maker

I came across a fun maker and wanted to tag people~

link to maker (x) link to maker 2 (x)

Probably one of the most accurate ones I've made <3

Tagging (no pressure): @actuallysaiyan @lady-of-endless @karusenka @firstdivisiongirl @imjustabeanie @help-i-lost-my-sock @indydonuts @escenariosinfumables @bby-deerling @cinnbar-bun @rosydolly and anyone else who wants to join xoxo

[doughboy2-0-0-1]

Man so lucky you get to sit at home all day, stuffing your face and getting fatter. You’re gonna absolutely balloon lol

I assume you’re gonna look for a job that’s WFH? Or at least a desk job?

Yeahh I'm enjoying myself a lot ATM. Working for the last three years, especially at such a shit company, has been exhausting; I'm happy to have no stress ATM.

And the affect it's gonna have on my body... Urghhh. Imma get so fucking fat.

Nah I'd hate to work from home. I'm an introvert but I still want to talk to people, make friends at work, and overall just get out of the house haha. Desk job for sure. I'm hoping some sort of administration job.

Looking back at all my high school stuff, I think I completed a lot of classes that will help me with that. Two certs in digital technology. A bit of time at uni studying business management before covid hit and I dropped out. Plus I have a bit of experience from my last job. I worked in the supermarket office occasionally, so I built up some admin experience.

I'm hoping I can find a job nice and quick, but in the end I'm also really enjoying the time off. For now haha

[quinloki]

I hope your winters continue to be mild 🫡

I would definitely not hate it as much if I was WFH, but for now it’s just troublesome but expected. I’m in the Midwest so we’ve been lucky so far….

For another question, who are your top 3 characters with yandere vibes? >>

Ooooh....

Crocodile Shanks Doflamingo

Crocodile hides it well, but not completely. Most of the people closest to him would not be surprised to have him go full toxic yandere on someone he becomes enamored with. He doesn't mask his desires though, and always gives someone the chance to leave. There's no three wishes with this guy though, you better make that break the first chance you get and never look back.

Doflamingo is not only not surprising to the people who know him, but I feel like he's super self-aware about it. Croccy may be in a bit of a denial (he's just concerned for your safety, especially after you've become associated with someone notorious like him), but Doffy knows you're his, and you're going to know it too. The less you try to argue with him, the easier it'll be. And he doesn't have to worry about breaking you, he has control of you and his strings and maybe your mind won't survive, but he'll accept you regardless.

Shanks. No one sees it coming, and honestly, no one believes you either. He's sweet and gentle, and he's going to wear you down, and you'll come to know that he knows exactly what he's doing. This isn't madness, this is purely devoted love and he'll help you understand how pure and perfect it is until you're able to accept every last drop of it. Your life will be safe, and perfect, and everything you could ever want, so long as everything that you want includes him.

Sleep over Saturday

[impala-dreamer]

Excuse me...

Have I acquired your attention? Good. Ok -

So, I don't know how many of you remember my Tell Me About drabbles, or who would care anymore, but...

Let's bring them back!

Now, you may say, "but, Beka- you never answered my original one... did you keep them all?" Yes. Yes I did. And.... Some of them got full fics that are on my Patreon and will someday appear here lol So, yeah, I may answer one from 2 years ago, but new ones are so much more fun, aren't they? Also, there's new characters to choose from! "Like who? and what? and how? and huh?" Well, keep on reading and all will be revealed!

So, you may know I've been working like 5608308 hours a week now that I have a new WFH job, which is great, but I'm burning out fast and I need some writing back in my life.

Send me an ASK that starts with "Tell Me About... " and then fill in the rest with whatever prompt you'd like. It can be angst, smut, fluff, crack, hardcore porn, a mix of all. You can also choose a character from the list below and I shall do an ___ x Reader. or a ship, if you'd prefer. or a mix. it's all good! Keep the prompt short and open. Ie: do not write me a fic and ask me to write you a fic of the fic. so.. more like..

"Tell Me About... Jensen and me in a submarine with cheese wiz and a porn mag"

But not that, bc why. I may just do that one on my own bc Why. Anyway- Send it in. And if it sparks a drabble, I shall give it to you. (please do not send gifs with it. they clog things up) You may also get a full fic if you're lucky ;)

Characters and Ships I will write with:

Jensen Ackles / Dean Winchester, Soldier Boy, Tom Hanniger

Misha Collins / Castiel

Jeffrey Dean Morgan / John Winchester, Negan

TWD- Rick Grimes, Daryl

Chris Evans / Steve Rogers

Sebastian Stan / Bucky, Sebastian Stan, Sebastian Stan

Joe Goldberg - YOU (tv)

The Magicians- Quentin, Eliot, Penny, The whole gang. All of them.

Criminal Minds - Spencer Reid, Aaron Hotchner

SHIPS: Cockles/Destiel, StuckyxReader (who am I?), Queliot

I can't remember who I write for omg. just ask... you know what I'm into.

If you're unsure of a character or just wanna ask - send me a DM. I'm always around :)

LET'S DO THIS!

[doulayogimama]

long, kinda-braggy-feeling-but-I'm-just-excited-post <3

I was so excited last night I could barely sleep. I can't believe we got this apartment. And after an entire week of thinking we would need a co-signer and then being told that we could do this ourselves!!! The happiness and relief is real. I needed one good thing this week and I'm very grateful that it was this.

We are WFH entrepreneurs -- Kevin has a lot of meetings, he runs daily IG Live meditations, he also has a gnarly case of ADHD, so he needs to be able to focus. I can't tell you how hard that has been since 2020. This building that we're moving into is a co-working building, set up with multiple types of offices for use by residents, it also has private pods for meetings that look like mini recording booths. The gym is INSANE, there is a terrace off the gym (17th floor) that they keep cycling bikes and there's plenty of space to do yoga outside while looking at the view. The pool is beautiful.

We are paying more in rent than we ever thought we would, but the fact that we can legally Airbnb this property (only building in our area that offers this, plus the building literally acts as property manager for you) is insane. We could go to NY for 2 months next summer and not only have free rent, we will make money.

For Xmas, my Mimi wants me to stay here with her, so we will Airbnb for Xmas + NYE and make a loooot. Next time we plan to rent out is after baby is born, for Ultra in April. Residents we met in the elevator told us they make baaaank that weekend. Like... $8k for the week.

You are allowed to Airbnb for 200/365 days, the most units you're allowed to lease and rent out are 4. This is literally a business for people and Kevin just happened upon it. So yes, we are paying a lot more per month but we now have in-house offices of all kinds, a 2b/2b unit, a gym, and a pool. And we will make back the difference and then some because we're allowed to rent it out while we travel or for whenever we want to make extra money.

We are so fucking lucky (we also work very hard and we had nothing when we got together 12+ years ago and I'm really proud of how far we've come).

Thank you Universe, G-d, Spirit, and ancestors for these blessings. They are not lost on me.

[galina]

how do you find a group of people/friends/chosen family you can truly be yourself with? i had that in uni and then covid happened and now we're spread all over the world and never see each other again. i'm at home feeling lonely every day and like a misfit in my own (parents') house.. this is kind of a downer lol sorry about that! i just see you go for dinner at your friends' and you go on holidays together etc, and at 25 that feels like lightyears away, if not out of reach, from me :/

don't be sorry, always happy to be a safe place to vent.

I don't think I have the answer about making friends, I know I'm lucky to live near people I can hang with regularly. one thing I think helps is we all introduce each other to our "other" friends, so you get to know more and more friendly faces in your community. I'm always surprised by how often I run into people I know considering the size of the city.

it's funny you mentioned the holiday as well – there were ten of us, and I only knew one person when I arrived, over a week we all fell in collective love and it was so beautiful. maybe the answer is just being open hearted to the idea that anyone you meet could be someone you'll love?

you mentioned you have friends across the world – do you call regularly? could you organise to all meet up on a holiday or something? or could you make a schedule to visit each person?

I think the main thing I took from your message is you're living with your parents – totally get it, you have your reasons – but maybe the main contributing factor is you don't have independence and freedom to come and go or get out and about? maybe you're living somewhere rural? or maybe you're wfh too? workspaces, classes, activities and clubs are some of the main places you can meet people, maybe you're not getting enough of that where you're at. could you join up to something community focused based on your interests?

sending good thoughts :)

[olderthannetfic]

Online fandom communities always have the potential to be a disaster, but can also be wonderful, as I think many of us who've been in fandom for any length of time know! I was fairly active on LJ and several other sites, and now run a server that did blow up, and has, thus far, been pretty good!

My biggest issue in modding discord servers, both in the one I run and in others where I've seen 'shit go down', is that people don't seem to remember that people who mod servers are 1. actual people, 2. need to sleep (this one has come up a disturbing amount), 3. make mistakes, 4. have lives outside of fandom, and 5. sometimes just won't be people you like. I recently saw some drama in another server where something erupted overnight, and by the time the mod logged on, people were furious at them..... for having been sleeping and not around. Often yes, issues happen because mods are slow to react, or don't react "right", but there's likewise no "right" way in fandom, and even a mod trying their best won't make everyone happy, and it seems rather insane to expect it. Some mods ARE terrible, ofc, but by and large, they're just people trying to enjoy fandom

Not saying all mods are good of course, a lot shouldn't be running any sort of larger community, but so many issues seem to be rooted in the fact that users seem not to realize that mods are actually people. I mentioned I was going back to in office rather than WFH and a shocking amount of people had been under the impression that I was some impartial person hired to run a fandom discord and enforce the rules, not just a fan who wanted to have a community!

I may be lucky, as I am older and knew what rules mayyyyyy be smart to have, and try to be open with working and my life, as well as being quick to mod, but I'm well aware that some people despise me and are waiting for me to make a mistake so they can jump on me. I can handle it, but kids staring a server are in for a rude awakening, and often aren't ready to even be in a large fandom community, let alone run one. And I've seen that happen (or something similar) to other mods in other fandom and other servers

Not saying I'm a perfect mod, or even a good one especially to some people, but if people 1. remembered mods are people themselves, 2. mods realized modding is work and you have to actually mod, and 3. everyone remembered that not everyone will be happy with every aspect of fandom/a server, discord (like LJ. tumblr, etc etc) could be a better platform to be on for everyone involved

--

Modding realtime chat is such a pain in the ass. People can post to a mailing list quickly and at any hour, but the pace is just so much slower.

[borgevino]

so, since last june i've been having about as stressful a time as it's possible to have in an office job. luckily this era is over (i'm still in the same job but now working 10h/wk) and i'm starting to recover.

it's hard to identify burnout / extreme stress while you're going through it (although maybe i'm speaking for myself here). here are some things i've noticed.

major stress symptom i've observed in myself and others: the narrowing of appetite until you're essentially only eating 3 or 4 "safe" things while everything else, even if you have enjoyed it in the past, sounds nauseating. for months, i could only eat taco bell and pizza. this has dramatically improved since i reduced my hours

various life skills i've developed simply vanished. i could not put together a grocery list at all -- i couldn't think ahead to what i would do with ingredients i bought. i also could not handle cooking -- I could barely make rice in the rice cooker. it was like i'd forgotten how. (this is back i'm happy to say! i did have to go "well let me shop like i'm 23 again" to get it but i made two home cooked meals this week)

i also lost a lot of coping mechanisms. all of my bad old protestant thought patterns came back with a vengeance. for example, i was taught growing up that complaining was A Sin -- i've unlearned this but found myself putting "cw complaining" on various tweets (this also is better now)

it became much harder to connect with my friends or my partner. luckily my wife (he/him) and i have done a bunch of work on communication already, but it became harder for me to spend time with him, simply because so much of my energy was spent on work (also improving!)

while i was in the high stress state i tried various remedies:

being comfortable physically and grounded somatically was essential. taking baths with lavender in them, petting the cats (and being sat on by them), taking deep breaths: small things, but incredibly helpful.

weed seriously helped. it affects everyone differently: for me it quiets all the anxiety alarm bells and gives me a 30,000 foot view of the situation. putting things in perspective was often humbling and reassuring at the same time. (i did not try alcohol because of the hangover factor)

there were a couple times when i took a week or two off to try and get some rest. these actually did NOT help; mostly they made things worse. i'd relax a little and then five things would go wrong in my body at once (presumably because i wasn't producing as much cortisol)

notes on recovering:

i'm taking a college class and that little bit of structure on my week is very helpful. also it gets me out of the house -- i've been WFH since the start of the pandemic, and i've gotten out of the habit. days i leave the apartment and do something besides just go for a walk or shop tend to be good ones

i've been sleeping a ton -- 12-14 hours a day, long naps. i'm lucky i can just let it happen -- i'm letting my body's instincts take the lead. if we need to sleep until 1pm occasionally, sure.

in the same vein, i'm not pushing myself. could i have made cornbread or corn waffles with tonight's chili? sure! a year ago i would have. but that sounded tiring, so i didn't. etc etc. i haven't started on the monumental task of getting the apartment to its pre-stress uncluttered state yet, because that would be too big a push for right now. "i will be compassionate with myself" is something i've been telling myself over & over.

it's surprising and encouraging how much things have changed for the better in the course of the past three weeks.

[perikrone]

Oh yeah, I'm a later transitioning trans woman in a red state, and I feel pretty safe

(In the queerer parts of the biggest city here)

I haven't had many experiences more negative than casual misgendering

(I don't really leave my house much, and mostly stick to places that are openly friendly to queer folks)

I feel pretty lucky about it

(I'm white and have a mostly-stable, wfh tech job)

I still wish things were better

(Changing the gender marker on my license required weeks of research, and getting really lucky at the right dmv)

Especially for friends who aren't as lucky or privileged

(I'm afraid to have service workers in my home, so I do most things myself, or delegate that primarily to my roommate)

The trans folks who came before me paved the way in such a big way, and I feel a sense of duty to make the world a little better for kids like me

(Every time I leave the house, I plan around avoiding public bathrooms)

Ultimately, I hope my visibility makes it just a little bit easier for others

(I've spent thousands of dollars on voice lessons to conditionally pass on the phone only)

And I intend to stay here and fight for as long as I can

(But I intend to stay here and fight for as long as I can)

[notheroic]

I’m not saying it’s related (I am) but I’m always more tired on office days.

I’m lucky cause I only really go in one day a week and sometimes I patch it all together and no one says anything cause my team/work in general are very good about it.

But on those days I do go in the tiredness is unreal. Obviously I have to get up earlier than I would wfh and 9 times out of 10 my office days are when social things are on after so I get home late so I’m just so done by the time I get home.

[radgritty]

pharm tech anon again and LITERALLY ITS ALWAYS / PRETTY MUCH ONLY THE MOIDS !! i’m so lucky i work in an all female pharmacy but when we get male floaters girllll!!!!!!! sitting on their ass eating a bag of baked lays while i’m drowning w the drive through and front just die!!! i feel u so much and i’m sorry abt ur pharmacy manager sending love and i hope he gets fired 💜💜💜 also side note i make 16.50 an hr and u said u’ve been working pharmacy for yrs so pls give me ur advice am i working for peanuts should i find another pharmacy lmaoao

I am looking into wfh pharmacy jobs I can't take the abuse anymore. It IS always men that are the problems. I used to be a background investigator and the company was all women and I loved it so much. Sigh...so you need to have your ptcb* and get certified. Then you get a dollar raise. Then when you become a senior tech you get another dollar raise and an extra dollar if you're an immunizer. I used Walgreens to get all that for free. I make $19.84 per hour. I would definitely look into that if you haven't. If I see any good jobs I will post here.

[lizpaige]

hi 👋 i’m going to overshare about my dog under the cut so if pets and/or vets, anesthesia, etc make you uncomfy pls scroll by

THE LOML my pup is turning four at the end of next month and tomorrow she has to go under anesthesia for a CT scan to check out a severe middle ear infection that has been going on for months. We thought it was fixed last year but she is still showing symptoms that something is wrong. i am going to be an absolute wreck if something happens to her. i got her during the pandemic in 2020 and living alone during lockdown was hell on earth idk how i would have survived without her.

can yall please keep her in your thoughts? I am not a religious person but if you wanna pray bout it, i would love that, pls and thank u. 🙏 i know a lil anesthesia might not sound like a big deal to some of yall but she has been though a hell of a lot health wise in her short four years so everything is stressful to me.

some cute things about her: she LOVES people, has no sense of danger and blindly trusts everyone she meets. she is 25 pounds but when a noise happens in the hallway or she thinks me or my friends are in danger she puffs up her chest and has the power stance of a dog 10x her size. she is an aries 🔥🔥🔥 and loves to cause trouble but she tries very hard to be good. she’s also not a morning dog and will snooze on the couch until 12 when i’m wfh but she wakes me at 7am even on weekends for her breakfast because priorities. 😅 she also loves watching tv (esp if there are animals present)

(also disclaimer i am sooooo lucky and privileged to be able to afford this procedure and that i have pet insurance that covers some of the burden there. highly recommend finding pet insurance if you’re able but understand its not possible for everybody.)

[koboldjelly]

i only got a little shy of three weeks off of work instead of the requested six, but there's like .. no full work weeks left in december once i get back to it so i think i will survive that as well. lucky to have a wfh desk job in this circumstance altho it is still lonely and isolating