#so it’s hard to compare to smth you’re not accustomed to

[alaskan-wallflower]

sometimes i forget that people on here don’t know i’m visually impaired/legally blind, or that that’s even a thing with people with albinism (i’m actually like…blind. not in the “oh haha i’m like a bat, i can’t see the board!”, it’s the “i’m never going to be able to get a drivers license unless it’s extremely, extremely limited to daytime and two lane highways only, needs an iep, can’t read less than size 24 font without squinting, reads braille because my eyes get tired, can’t see snow/rainfall, can’t see 3d, can barely see my keyboard” kind of way) so when i try to make a blind joke it doesn’t hit as hard as it does if you know me irl. sigh.

[sugar-petals]

Yooo I really want to deepthroat my boo,, but I have really bad gag reflex 😩 I want to give him smth i know he'd like tho, but my throat. Can't. Handle. Shit. Do you have any tips boo?

First step: Do. Not. Guess. What he appreciates about oral. Ask. You will be surprised. Customize what I personally find immensely useful even if it seems ridiculous at first: an actual partner sheet that documents everything you’re into, fantasize about, and don’t want. It also has a diagram that gives intersections of interest, both about pleasing and being pleased, and how you wanna be called. It’s very well-designed and thoughtful, I can’t rec this enough for everybody. Print it out twice and you’re ready to go. BDSM contracts are one thing, being systematic & mutually informed about preferred manners of sex another. 👍

Second step: If he indeed likes that. But it discomforts you so much despite all ‘training’ methods to accustom… dildos and whatnot, but what’s the point? A cute smaller jelly one won’t prepare you for the real deal. Use a larger one, you hurt even more. Use one modeled like his dick, that makes even less sense: might as well practice on him, but that already makes you puke and hate it? Hard limit deepthroat. Gag reflex stays gag reflex, it’s there for a very good reason. Some love that, but here it’s different since you want to get rid of it. Add that to the standard dangers: Your airways and esophagus can bruise hard which heightens infection risk. I pray you both had STI checkups, too. It would be more successful not going far down since the pleasure spot is just below the underside of the head. Just tongue suffices already, apply plenty of lube if you do use mouth. It’s not just for vaginal or anal penetration. Mind the ingredients. My tip: Handjobs are the superior option because! Better access to the perineum. That’s where the pudenal nerve is. Which triggers the main dorsal nerve of the penis. Which carries the most sensation. If you wanna blow him up either obliterate his prostate (I can hear my followers scream “PEGGING!!” in the distance 😄) or tease said perineum to your liking. Guess why so many men have polarizing opinions about being touched in both spots, it’s vulnerable and super intense. If he declines, so be it. You yourself: Don’t be afraid to say no to sucking dick, he has to know the hazards and not make you feel guilt or fear. Take me. Occasional prime sadist degrader domme. Just because I’d love to sit on Yoongi’s face to have him take it in the eye and cry it out doesn’t mean I’d ask him to. This is the riskiest shit. Even if he wanted me to go ahead I would decline no matter how bad I desire it, or how much he assures things’d be okay. Eye chemistry can’t cope with jizz, that’s too much jeopardy. Neck anatomy can’t handle dicks by default, it’s built to eat. Repurposing your throat comes with a peril that most underestimate. Take care. Hands are the true multipurpose tools, especially since they can reach all the important areas. The advanced version would be toes. Check if he mentions it on the sheet, you never know 😈

TL;DR: a) Try that questionnaire & see how it compares, b) men have 3 spots that make them go loco — frenulum, perineum, prostate — that you don’t need to risk throwing up to please, c) both parties declining something is necessary and okay since you want enthusiastic consent and not fear, worries about your natural reflexes included d) I’d rather just look at Yoongi’s beautiful eyes and cherish how they sparkle than getting whatever into them since human physique has limits that need respect and caution which has to be a given. 

💜

[nctsukashii-archive-blog]

hc + food & music bc I'm unoriginal™

Let me ramble about my son.

Nothing is too unoriginal! There can be something amazing even from the most simplistic of words! It only becomes unoriginal when you have a lot of the same things. Hence where such a statement comes from! But aside from that tangent I hope you like reading essays because I can never learn to shut the fuck up lol.

- FOODHoshi and food are an interesting combo. This mostly stems from his background in tennis, because surprise surprise, tennis still plays heavy in his life. So Hoshi can eat a shit ton of food like it’s practically nothing- it’s a skill developed over years, and how that skill came about is simple; tennis. If you don’t know, it’s VERY common for many athletes before practice or training to consume a lot of calories all at once to then burn it off all at once. It’s like, giving a campfire a shit ton of wood and then letting it all quickly burn away. It improves physique because you’re still working out, but also getting all the necessary energy to do that kinda stuff. So Hoshi ate a lot of food while growing up. A mix between fast food and regular made meals, with a lot of trips to restaurants while over in other countries.

Remember that he was international by middle school. Famous athletes can eat as much as 5,500+ calories a day, which doesn’t sound like a lot until you remember that the average man should be eating around 2000-3000 calories a day. Of course Hoshi isn’t average by any means, but that just means that he can have more infrequent eating habits. A normal 3 meals a day probably didn’t jive well with the average workout schedule for normal sized people, because it’s accustomed to our size and calorie output. Which means he had more time to stop and relax and eat more, for more rigorous workout / training regimes. I’ll get more into that later, because that can be it’s own separate post, but as a result Hoshi prolly had quite a bit of fast food in his life. Not because he and his team couldn’t afford to go to good restaurants or take time to make a good meal, but because of being an infrequent eater he probably had more-so around 4-5 meals a day just to fit with his practice and workout schedules. 

As a result, there were times where he had to make something fast, and that just so happened to maybe be buying a bucket of chicken and eating it before waiting a bit and going back out to the courts. It’s a guilty pleasure kind of thing, he’ll eat a lot of fast food and probably try to work it off just as fast, which isn’t hard given his body size and his usual performances on the court. In scenarios where he can’t work out as much physically, whether it be from depression or a different profession out of prison, there are moments where he’ll experience massive weight gain just by accidentally falling back into routine. Of course he’ll try his best to lose said weight in doing things like push-ups, crunches, jogging, etc. but it can be really hard sometimes. Overall, it’s a fall to habit more than anything, although he’s usually excellent at controlling himself to eat like a normal person nowadays.

That being said, prison destroyed a lot of his eating patterns when he first arrived, having now grown back to 3 meals a day, he also had to deal with being lethargic and unable to move while barely eating anything. It’s like imagining that same fare with barely any logs, and occasionally having a little gas dumped on it so it’ll keep burning. Very different from the glory days. He still keeps his big stomach though, that never went away, but he has grown to be more inactive if he plans not to eat much some days, whether that be from prison, mental illness, whatever. He can still eat a lot though, but will try to pace himself and not gain a lot of weight if he knows he won’t be able to lose it all quickly. 

(More under the cut because I will flood the dash if I don’t)

Although his favorite kind of food is honestly just anything homemade. After having prison food, ya know the good ol mystery meats, the fish that’s always too salty, the undercooked rice, the soup that tastes like water, all that fun stuff; it’s good to just get some food that doesn’t blow? Like a lot? Something cooked fresh from home is always a favorite. It gives him a healthy and wonderful nostalgia from times his mom cooked for him when he came home from tennis practice or after travelling international for weeks at a time. Nothing can compare to a good meal made by loved ones. 

Hoshi holds a preference for stronger flavors, just because his tongue was a bit destroyed by salted foods in prison. He likes things with stronger tastes, while not really hating but not preferring things that aren’t very taste-heavy. Of course he also knows not to hurt himself with things like spicy foods, but some seasonings or spices are well preferred in his meals.

But he also has quite a bit of a sweet tooth as well, able to eat candy often and sweets baked by his girlfriend. He can control himself decently when it comes to it, but it slips into his beverage preferences at times as well. Doesn’t really like the cool professional taste of coffee unless it’s filled with sugar, and he loves grape soda. Not that he hates water or anything like that, but sometimes he likes having some sweetness in his life.

- MUSICMusic is weird because he doesn’t ever really listen to music. Hoshi just never really felt a desire to listen to that kinda stuff when he was playing tennis, and when he wasn’t playing tennis he was either eating, sleeping, or relaxing with his cat on the couch or smth, so he just never really had a real reason to play a tune here or there. He’s not against music or anything, but silence can be comforting sometimes, especially after a long day of work. While silence can also be associated with the emptiness of prison, he does like the light sounds of ringing in the air or cats paws on the floor. Sounds, rather than music. 

He can enjoy light pieces though. Hoshi practically has the taste of a geezer because he loves slow and light music. Stuff that plays in the background as filler rather than anything meant to keep his attention. Just a preference when he performs daily activity. He likes being active despite what some could think, it’s just that prison has kinda forced a lethargic lifestyle onto him. Even then, he still likes to stand or walk around, so something he doesn’t have to really think about does wonders. Songs without lyrics are a plus, because it gives him something to not focus on- instead letting him just listen to the whole song and it’s melodies. He’s a simple guy at heart, but hey, it’s just who he is.

A lot of music preference is dictated by what he thinks is cool. Cool music would be stuff like piano solos, or pieces that really feel like people are putting energy into instruments. He has a load of respect for people that can play an instrument or instruments super well for multiple songs, because it’s a dedication of effort which he reflects back onto himself and tennis. He also is quite a fan of songs which fit his aesthetics. Deep guttural music that isn’t loud per say, but powerful. He’s not a fan of rock or screamo, but he does love a song with deep bass that shows strength in its tone and treble. It fits his bad boy image very well.

Although he does have a preference for romantic songs as well as anime intros. The romantic songs are obvious; he can relate to them well, but he’s a weeb as well considering he loves watching anime movies and reading manga. A good anime OP can get him pumped right in the mood depending on the genre (but mainly he watches sports stuff- he took a lot of moves and put them into his own after all!) and ready to enjoy a good show.

He’s not a fan of making music, but can appreciate the effort that goes into it; just like many things in life. It’s cool that someone can make something that manages to reach out to so many people. He’ll bob his head to a good tune, but he won’t dance, and sometimes even whistles things from time to time. Although he has no idea what a bpm even is he supports good wholesome music that’s great for sitting on the couch and chilling with his cat to.