#so if y’all could lmk so I can tag it that would be great /gen

[suna1suna1]

With only 2 hours left on the poll, I think I can safely say that I am now doing N x V x Uzi week!

Do they have a ship name that’s a little easier to say? I don’t see as much of this one in the wild lol

Anyway, I’ll get started on prepping for it after Scrunkly Week is over lol

[wearequeer-andwearehere]

Hi, I hope you're doing well :) I only recently stumbled over your blog and saw the post where you offered advice to people who need it, so I hope it's alright I'm leaving this ask!

I am afab and recently shaved my head for the fun of it, but that sent me into gender dysphoria which I've never experienced before, and I honestly didn't expect that to happen. On some days, I really want to look feminine so I wear heels, skirts/dresses and make-up and I feel great, whereas on other days, the thought of wearing heels repels me and I need to wear something tight to have a flat chest. I don't identify as male though, so I'm questioning if I'm non-binary or genderfluid, but none of it really resonates with me. Maybe I need more time figuring it out? I only know that when my teacher said that there are girls only in my class, I felt insulted, and that instant sent me spiralling lmao. I go by she/they, and have been doing that for a few months now, and I really vibe with it. I don't really have anyone in my life that I would want to burden with this, though 'burden' is kind of a stretch because I am quite calm about the entire thing, I would just like to have it figured out without having to think about it all the time. I hope I didn't bother you with this, and I hope you have a nice day/afternoon/evening/night, wherever you are x

Hi there :D I’m doing okay!! And ofc, it’s totally alright! /gen I’m always happy to answer any questions y’all have about gender and stuff :DDD

Here’s a post on gender dysphoria you might wanna read :DDD It sounds like you are experiencing social dysphoria and maybe physical dysphoria as well. so yeah you’re most likely not cis.

Remember, only way of being trans is being yourself!

Don’t force yourself into labels that don’t fit. You’re not supposed to fit labels, labels are supposed to fit you

There’s nothing wrong with not having a label or using only umbrella labels!

Feel free to experiment with labels! Live your life for one day and say “I am [gender],” try it out for a day or so and see how it feels!

Labels are like sweaters, you can try them on for a bit and see which one is comfiest!

“What makes me happy?” and “what makes me feel truest to myself?” are better questions than “what gender am I?”

The goal of gender questioning isn’t to find a label, it’s to make yourself happy—whether having a ton of microlabels, a few umbrella labels or just going unlabelled!

Happiness is always first priority—happiness first, labels second.

It’s okay to have “contradictory” labels as long as you aren’t hurting anyone

And last of all, take your time. You don’t have to find a label tomorrow or today. It’s okay. Don’t rush, take a deep breath. Maybe you’ll find labels, maybe you won’t! And that’s okay! Live your life and be happy, that’s all that matters

Feel free to look through my #gender questioning tag or send me an ask if you want to!

Honestly my advice is just be happy and everything will fall into place. Try on some labels if you want to, or coin your own! If you can send another ask describing your gender I can see if I can find some labels you might like!

And remember, the entire trans community is here for you, okay? It might seem lonely at times but there is a whole community of people that will love and support you no matter what. 

Maybe try making a tumblr/discord and joining some trans discord servers so you have someone to talk to! Going through questioning on your own can be hard and if you don’t have anyone to talk to irl, online communities are the next best thing!

I hope I could help you out, and I wish you luck with your gender journey :D Lmk if you have any more questions, and have a great day/night :DD