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i-mybrunettelady · 11 months ago

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weirdly specific dating related rant below the cut

One thing I need to let go of in 2024 is the instinct to go to the scarcity mindset. I have a solid group of friends, people like having me around, I'm not worried about that. But every time I fail a talking stage, I can fall into the temptation of feeling like I've wasted my one (1) chance to find someone, which,, no! I am simply a little weird around guys I may be considering in a romantic sense and that's it! Nothing you can't grow and learn from! Or maybe they weren't meant to be and that's also okay!

Like, this year, I really wanna condition my brain to not fall into the trap of this kind of thinking. And yeah, there are worse things than this, but like, it's something I need to work on in regards to my personal life. And it feels nice to say it somewhere

To anyone who's stayed and read this you're a champ

#nero's random thoughts #weird around guys as in: i get spooked every time someone shows interest in me #it happens infrequently enough for me to do that #i was never the girl guys approached growing up (even in my teens) and now its hard for me to fully accept that im not as unattractive #as i previously thought. not that i thought of myself as *ugly* but i was never desirable #so cue my surprise when someone on tinder matched with me for a hookup. when people turned to look at me when im wearing a miniskirt and #a croptop. when people actual pay me romantic attention.#idk what it is but it feels very odd sometimes #and then i accept it but then i fail a talking stage bc i dont know how to behave in romantic situations and i just... am back at square 1 #again nothing self-work can't solve but goddamn nero get it together

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