#so basically my theory is my trauma around dating is fading a bit and i'm developing a better relationship to it
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I think I am not as horrified by the prospect of going on a date as I used to be. I think that is good.
#mine#so my theory is that romance repulsion is a response to the trauma of being aromantic in an allonormative world#repulsion here meaning like repulsion as in visceral dislike/horror/discomfort/etc#if something's not your thing it's just not your thing but most of the time (without trauma) you'd not have much of a reaction#beyond a ''well that's not for me'' or something#so if you don't like dates then without romance repulsion the reaction is more i don't like that thanks than eww no make it stop#which was how i reacted#now it's more something i just don't want (neutral reaction) and could theoretically be persuaded to do without hating it tooo much#probably i'd still hate it a bit but i don't think as much as i used to#so basically my theory is my trauma around dating is fading a bit and i'm developing a better relationship to it#in that i am mostly ambivalent rather than repulsed#idk if people have different theories about how/what romance repulsion is please share! i'd be really interested to hear more!#personal
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