#skating by on a cultivated tough-guy persona

[teaboot]

Was in the car with a few of my brothers when I (oldest, riding shotgun) told one (upper middle, driving) that our mutual brother (youngest, back seat) had Damian Wayne vibes.

This started an excellent conversation about the virtues of various Robins that abruptly ended when I admitted Jason Todd was my favourite, upon which my brother (the one driving) groaned loud enough to alarm truckers in the other lane

[tryingmyves]

Girl All the Bad Guys Want

okay i won’t lie, i remembered this song exists and i could not get the idea of a badboy!iida out of my head

this is a bit self indulgent because i was definitely that girl in hs lmaoooo

anyhow hopefully y���all like it too

PAIRING: Iida x Y/N

cw: badboy!iida

✨ tagging the iida army: @coleluuviida + @saturnity + @peachiileaf ✨

You have a reputation at UA, mostly with the male students. It isn’t something you put effort into maintaining or even something you cultivated on purpose, but you’ve gained some notoriety amongst your peers. At first glance, you don’t seem too different from your female classmates. You certainly don’t feel superior or disparate from them, but you’ve also never quite felt like you belonged with them. You don’t excel at being soft and demure, and you refuse to shrink yourself down in order to make others more comfortable in your presence. You spit in the face of all the things typically expected of a lady. And frankly, you’re more than a bit awkward when you hangout with the girls from your class. They always invite you to their sleepovers and shopping trips, and try to engage you in their conversations, but you’re always worried about saying the wrong thing or accidentally offending them. You’re never really able to add anything of value when they talk about the boys in your class - a recurring subject. Mina knows everything about everyone in class; she loves to gossip. It’s like her horns serve as antennae and pick up on all the juiciest secrets. She is always interrogating the other girls about their crushes but you just never really felt that way about anyone. Honestly, you find the conversations about who likes who to be a bit boring. You typically end up hanging out with Bakugo, Kirishima, and the rest of that squad. Boys are just easier to be around. They don’t get offended at your crass comments and your sometimes gruff disposition looks outright friendly next to Bakugo. 

Your undeniably attractive appearance, unquestionable skill with your quirk, and nonchalant attitude have landed you in the sights of several of your fellow UA students. You are the embodiment of do no harm, but take no shit and something about you is intoxicating. Mina frequently jokes with you about how the entirety of the Bakusquad is duking it out to see who gets to ask you out first. You roll your eyes at her, convinced she’s imagining things. But in reality you’re just clueless. As cliché as it is, you really are the girl all the bad guys want. Too bad you didn’t want them back. 

What you didn’t expect with your tough exterior, competitive nature, and tendency to slack off on class work is that class rep, Tenya Iida, would want you too. God, not even he expected it but he had fallen hard. You frustrate him. You’re just as smart as Yaomomo or Todoroki, but you skate by in class. You don’t outwardly disrespect authority, but you won’t blindly accept orders just because someone says so. He thinks the rap metal music you listen to while training is abrasive and doesn’t understand why all your favorite artists sound like they’re mad at their fathers. He finally gave up on lecturing you on the fact that the fishnets you wear with your uniform are not regulation and he was still wrestling with how he felt about learning you were one of the students caught at a dorm party with alcohol a few weeks ago.  More than anything he hates that you’ve so effortlessly got him pining for you and you haven’t even noticed. Iida loves the rules! Order, structure, regulation - these are the things that Iida covets, so why was he craving the taste of your lips on his?

He is tired of silently lusting after you, and decides he’s going to try actively pursuing you instead. Tenya thinks that you like “bad boys” so as foreign as the concept is to him, he concludes he’s going to have to take on that persona. He starts off simply, making a playlist of songs he’s heard you blaring from your dorm. He eases himself into your music, starting with Linkin Park and Korn, before adding Incubus, Machine Head, and even some ICP to the mix. He’s hesitant at first… the music just sounds so hostile and aggressive to him. But soon he finds himself relishing the fierce energy the songs give him. Tenya gets why you train to this sort of music, his workouts becoming more intense than ever. They end in his chest heaving and his hair plastered to his forehead with sweat. His muscular calves throb vigorously after every run and he feels powerful. It gives him a new found confidence that he strategically channels into his interactions with you. For class today, Aizawa simply instructs you all to pair off and spar. You’re about to ask Sero to partner with you when he approaches. 

“Y/N. You’re with me.” Tenya doesn’t ask, he’s telling you you’re his partner. 

A small sound of surprise leaves your throat at his unexpected forcefulness, but you don’t question it. You just nod, giving a small shrug to Sero before following the class rep to a vacant spot of the training gym. 

You look over your challenger, rolling your head on your shoulders a few times to loosen up. “Don’t expect me to go easy on you. You asked for this,” you smirk, bringing your fists up in a defensive stance. 

Before you can even blink, Tenya has closed the 10 foot gap between you, sweeping a long leg beneath yours in a circular motion, knocking you off your feet. You land with a thud on your back and the air in your lungs is forced out with a nmph. 

“Just try to keep up, Y/N.”

Oh, it’s on. Previously you found Iida’s flustered demeanor around you endearing. But this new, assertive, almost cocky disposition is irresistible. His momentum propels him in a circle while he stays anchored in place on his massive left thigh. As he finishes turning through the motion he reaches forward hoping to pin your arms to the ground, but you’re just getting started. You plant the palms of your hands on either side of your face and kick up from the ground with a boost from your quirk. The added flow of air thrusts your legs up and over your head so you are now standing once more. You are sure that the soles of your shoes connect with Iida’s face during your arch through the air. 

“It’s not going to be that easy, specs,” you taunt. Now it’s your turn. 

You launch yourself at Tenya, closing the small gap between the pair of you in an instant. He extends a locked arm to block your approach but you simply dip your head, gliding underneath and down the length of his limb until you are just one step behind him. You pivot on your right foot as you swing your left arm across your body. Your open palm lands just between Tenya’s shoulder blades, your natural momentum accompanied by a gale force wind. The impact knocks him off his feet and sends him toppling forward. Tenya’s speed is unmatched and his large frame is covered in tone muscle, but with the addition of the very air around you, your strikes are ferocious. Your air quirk aids in your mobility, but you’ve used it to master hand to hand combat. You dominate in tight quarters, so you just need to keep Tenya close. He’s already returned to his feet, calculating his next move. The moment ‘s hesitation creating an opening for your right shin to collide with his side. Tenya growls through gritted teeth in response to the blow and the feral vibrations send shivers down your spine. Instead of recoiling from your attack Tenya’s hands clamp onto your shoulders like vices. His brows are furrowed in smug determination, and he practically sneers “Recipro Burst!”

You are propelled backwards rapidly, the gym surrounding you flashing by in a blur, the only thing you're able to see clearly is the dark glint in Tenya’s eyes and the zealous grin on his lips. You try to activate your quirk to counter his momentum, but it’s futile, he is pushing you backwards so quickly you can’t manipulate any of the air whizzing past you. Your back is suddenly pinned to the back wall of the gym, Tenya’s large hands holding your slender wrists to the concrete wall. He places a muscular thigh between your legs so his left knee is pressed to the wall as well - he has you completely immobilized. Both of your chests are heaving, your faces no more than three inches from one another. You don’t know what possesses you but you smash your lips to his, desperate to close the miniscule gap between you.

Tenya’s body stiffens in shock for a moment before he opens his mouth, snaking his tongue past your lips. You wrench your hands from his grip, placing one on the back of his neck and tangling the other in the mess of his navy hair. You didn’t expect the class rep to be such an amazing kisser, but when he catches your bottom lip between his teeth you can’t contain the soft moan that escapes you. Tenya swallows your noises and begins to pull away. Your lips hungrily follow after him, but you’re stopped when one of his calloused hands rests on your neck with just enough force to hold you in place. 

“Such public displays of desire are unbecoming of future heroes, Y/N. Come to my room this evening and we can finish this privately.” And with that, Tenya separates himself from you completely, already settling into a stance that signals he is ready to continue sparring.    

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The Place of work Problems of an Abuse Survivor

náklady na pohřeb Shortly right after a new employee started off at a nearby insurance corporation, the veteran employees members agreed that he was "really pleasant" and "would go out of his way for you." They realized absolutely nothing about what determined these behaviors in his place of work nor the fact that he subconsciously viewed it as his household-of-origin. The floor flooring serves as the foundation on which all other folks in a making rest. So, way too, does a person's upbringing-other than that it will become the basis on which his daily life rests. If it has entailed abuse, dysfunction, or even alcoholism, it is weak and can effortlessly crumble, often requiring a person to compensate for it with inflated and sometimes almost scripted behavioral features others are unsuccessful to understand. He sees the globe the way no other people do. This basis usually calls for a human being to camouflage his deficiencies by portraying an picture opposite to that which he feels or believes about himself. He may possibly, for example, be perceived as staying outwardly welcoming and effortlessly acquiring alongside with other individuals, but inwardly he churns with anxiety and insecurity, engaging in silent conflicts with other individuals as he chews on the points they do that retrigger his own untolerated kinds. Insecurity, dread of faults, an lack of ability to conduct the functions for which he believes he is incapable, and inside worker conflicts may spark regular and spontaneous work resignations.

Conversely, this continual want to mask these insecure facets can change a particular person into the super-worker, as he acts out his childhood need to obey and comply with every rule and that's why establish his capability and self-worthy of by volunteering for projects other folks keep away from, overworking and -attaining, men and women- and manager-satisfying, doing work overtime with or without having added compensation, assuming greater tasks, and even getting function residence, in the procedure turning into the quintessential "firm guy" without other individuals ever comprehending his motivations. Ironically, this effectiveness and loyalty might lead to at any time-larger positions for which he is not emotionally geared up, resulting in him to compensate for and protect up the significantly terrified thoughts with even larger dedication and exertion. In their severe, these endeavors can change his nonexistent temperament till it turns into his persona, as he is reworked from a human currently being to a human executing. Most of his misbeliefs about his inadequacies outcome from his constantly replayed important parent voices, which echo the true, but rarely happy reception of his achievements during his upbringing. Like a computer system, his brain can only return what has been downloaded into it. Lengthy striped of boundaries at house, he is easily utilized and exploited by coworkers and supervisors alike. As a victim cultivated by his upbringing, he can be taken benefit of and is aware of no other suggests of survival. If his actions and responses could be voiced, they would probably say, "I'm less than you, not worthy, and flawed. So do what at any time you wish and use me even so you see in shape. I'll never ever protest or complain. This is what I'm utilised to." But, until he has begun restoration or remedy, he is ironically not likely to be in contact with this voice or even comprehend why he submits himself to such working with problems. Apart from the truth that he has been so cultivated, he subconsciously views these men and women as current-time reps of earlier-time mothers and fathers who ended up never content with what he did. The more, in actuality, that he submits to such conduct, the a lot less worthy he feels, only supporting his misbelief. Similar place of work incidents unknowingly regress him to his childhood when he was powerless and his moms and dads ended up perceived as flawless and incapable of error, developing the basic misbelief that any mistreatment of him was because of to his possess shortcomings and not their possess. To compensate for this dysfunctional and most very likely abusive upbringing, he adopted just about scripted roles, which he may well subconsciously carry on to act out in his work venue, as the only believed techniques of survival. The 1st of these is "hero," whose origin and function are perhaps the most difficult to decipher, because he gets to be the "best man or woman," performing according to the manual-recommended polices. In truth, he may well depict the regular by which other people can only aspire. He is unbiased, requirements no just one, is typically the just one others consult concerning methods, overachieves, and is flawlessly trustworthy and responsible, consequently masking the inferior and insecure inner thoughts that inspire him. Because the current to his emotions is minor more than a trickle, he turns on the juice to the productive side of him as if it ended up a gushing hearth hose, unsuccessfully making an attempt to substitute just one with the other. Skating on skinny ice, he attempts to do every thing in a best fashion right up until his pursuits turn into the equivalent of his self-worth. But any mistake may well shatter this fleeting feeling. This get the job done immersion, additionally, may well be the totality of his daily life. Whilst other people could execute inside firm specified parameters to receive their paychecks, for instance, they most very likely also have households and other pursuits to whom and to which they return in the night. The hero could not. Riddled with childhood-originating resentment, the "scapegoat"-the next purpose-was designed by the man or woman who was frequently compelled to acknowledge the blame and stress his dad and mom or even other siblings would not, therefore persuading him to just take accountability for the errors or infractions of other folks now. So acclimated is he to carrying the body weight of them, in fact, that he may subconsciously make the circumstantial catalysts which impose the burdens on him, enabling him to act out his countless similar childhood episodes and then lament about their unfairness and injustice. Although the scapegoat passively plots his childhood reenactments, the "missing baby"-the third role-silently slinks from them, as he experienced through his developmental years, now hardly existing. Perceived as an unnamed, temperament-devoid silhouette--whose type, at moments, may seem little additional than the shadow it demonstrates on the wall and just as dimensionless--his identity may be lowered to little much more than, "What is his identify?" Regrettably, he is recognized by his deficiency or recognition. His nonexistent existence frequently reflects how he feels about himself inside. "Chortle, clown, chuckle" can be utilized to explain the fourth role, the "comic" or "clown," but, in both situations, that laughter is most most likely the veil that camouflages the person's inner sadness. Tapping into his spontaneous skill to find humor in most predicaments and entertain his coworkers, the child-turned-grownup comedian turns lemons into lemonade for others, reworking particular inside unhappiness into exterior joy for them, enabling him, in the procedure, to attain a perceived amount of security by weaving a world wide web of acceptance all around him. These four roles, all adopted as defense mechanisms against childhood threat, evolve into a life time of survival features aimed at self-security, considering that the particular person as soon as again subconsciously views the entire world as an extension of the one particular founded in his house-or-origin, forcing him to pave a route with the techniques that proved risk-free for him. Therein lies the motives powering an abuse survivor's behavior in adulthood and the concerns he delivers to the place of work-his practically programmed, but unchallenged perception that the grownup world is a transplant of his childhood 1, leaving him fearful and hypervigilant of mum or dad-resembling and -retriggering authority figures. Irrespective of his ostensibly bonding traits and routines, such as his perception of humor, socializing at lunch, and keeping the identical or comparable-degree titles as his coworkers, he continually feels as if he is not component of them, as if he ended up on the outside the house wanting in, mainly because physical existence does not always ameliorate or replace emotional absence and isolation. A man or woman can, in reality, be in a place with a dozen or more other folks and even now come to feel alone, since his distrust of them renders it tough to hook up with them on a social and for this reason soul degree. Indeed, sensing a person's length and psychological disconnection, others may well exclude him from right after-function or weekend social engagements, as if he silently conveys his absence of wish to join them, but this can ironically go away him damage and even further solidify his misbelief that he is not deserving of their friendship. Accrued, but unresolved childhood infractions, abuses, and traumas can retrigger and rekindle at employment venues, as folks and incidents replay in the person's mind, progressively "getting rid of" him from the present and immersing him in his earlier, his mirror neuron-saved tapes making an attempt to persuade him that the atmosphere and people in it are not secure and in some way harmful to him. So powerful can these negative thoughts and fears develop into, in fact, that they may finally control him until eventually he possibly releases them by means of spontaneous anger outbursts or resigns. This, in essence, is an expression of the basic grownup-little one dichotomy, as the previous wants to be part of the earth, functioning as a mature individual, operating, and earning money, when the latter, mired in the internally fleeing interior kid, seeks security with out issue for the monetary means to help him. Both are inspired by the want to survive, but on diverse amounts and from age divergent views. Simply because of constantly replaying traumas in an abusive survivor's head, he can neither request for aid nor protect his steps, and is generally subconsciously lowered to the powerless and overcome baby that spawned his initial debilitation. Absolutely nothing is a lot more terrorizing than a individual confrontation with an additional, because it transports him again to the many-and, most likely, dangerous-types he already endured. Throughout that powerlessness, moreover, he was in no way perceived as obtaining been on the correct or triumphing side. Paradoxically, when such a human being is appointed to positions of regulate and superiority as an adult, it supplies a degree of security for him, given that it elevates him to the outstanding or profitable part when represented by his abuser. As a substitute of staying belittled and overpowered as a child, he now feels that he can exert these outcomes on others, and hence feels more robust and safer. In simple fact, this kind of man or woman, to larger or lesser degree, can be classified as the generally-labeled "management freak," simply because he grew up in a chaotic setting exactly where deficiency of regulate led to his detriment and he now strives to get back it with these a purpose at his occupation. In essence, he employs the very same misdirected strategy his abusive moms and dads did at his area of employment. Conversely, when he does not think such a position, and is therefore psychologically regressed to the internal youngster stance, he is decreased to using what ever comes his way, regardless of whether it be further functions, obligations, or obligations that are not necessarily paired with greater payment, mainly because he feels far too unworthy to refuse them. Ironically, they may well signify an intangible "advantage," which most most likely only exists for him-specifically, proportionately assuming much more of a workload transforms him into someone who is preferred, who is viewed as an ally, increasing his diploma of protection. This summary is more rational than it might first look to be, because abused little ones believe that that they are observed additional as enemies than "friends" to their parents-that is, people who somehow get in the way, are burdensome, and not automatically desired. Propelled by these kinds of unaccepting major caregivers down a route towards perfection in his tasks-all in an attempt to compensate for his "imperfections" and elusively gain that seldom supplied appreciate--he could translate this dynamic to the workplace, finishing positions, functions, and stories in a precise and comprehensive method, and then anticipating, but failing to observe, very similar efficiency in his coworkers. Eventually adopting the similar intolerance for their shortcomings as his mother and father did for his, he only re-sparks the cycle in his possess lifetime, if he has not presently accomplished so with his very own little ones at property. This condition might evolve until eventually it results in the workaholic, or the human being who replaces his self-worth with achievement- and monetary-well worth. As an abyss devoid of positive thoughts, he finds it hard to extract pleasure from friendships and interactions, and his immersion into function allows him to keep away from analyzing his unexpressed hurts. His operate natural environment may be a lot more of an extension of his home atmosphere than imagined, as the job hopper, frequently searching for new work venues for the ostensible motive of landing "that best task," could subconsciously be in search of "that best home"-or the just one he under no circumstances experienced, supplied that he can have faith in the "household member" staff residing in it.