#since it's usually women's blogs I find :3c

[mosaic-marquise]

Thankful everyday for folks who share recipes on the internet for stuff you can cook by just throwing a bunch of chopped veggies, herbs, spices and whatever into a big pot with broth and let to sit to cook. What a gift UwU

[demonbutch]

u have to do 1-100 now u know that right >:3c (or 4, 14, 20, 25, 34, 58, 84 & 94 if u dont have time)

sfdjkshf this took literal hours

1- Spotify, SoundCloud, or Pandora?

i don’t actually use any of these, but ig i would be more likely to make a spotify account than the others!!

2- is your room messy or clean?

very messy rip

3- what color are your eyes?

blue!!

4- do you like your name? why?

i mean it’s better than my birth name, but i also want to try different names i guess?? one day i’ll find the right one

5- what is your relationship status?

single lmao

6- describe your personality in 3 words or less

anxious gay mess

7- what color hair do you have?

pink/red!!

8- what kind of car do you drive? color?

i don’t drive!! D’:

9- where do you shop?

i do most of the shopping at lidl, and occasionally food deliveries from tesco or sainsbury’s

10- how would you describe your style?

dad clothes but better

11- favorite social media account

i’m honestly not too sure?? i tend to just consume social media as one whole thing rather than noticing specific blogs or accounts etc.

12- what size bed do you have?

double bed!!

13- any siblings?

nope!! i’m an only child!

14- if you can live anywhere in the world where would it be? why?

i always wanted to live somewhere quiet and remote but lately i’ve been really wanting to spend more time in cities?? i wanna make more friends and see more places, york is probably my favourite city

15- favorite snapchat filter?

the demon filter!! also the one w the cute glasses and leaves!!

16- favorite makeup brand(s)

rimmel on the basis that it’s the only one i can use without allergic reactions lmao

17- how many times a week do you shower?

at least once a day, sometimes more bc it’s the only warm place in the house lmao

18- favorite tv show?

pokemon, especially sun and moon!!

19- shoe size?

6-7 depending on the make!!

20- how tall are you?

5ft7″

21- sandals or sneakers?

sneakers!!

22- do you go to the gym?

nope, but i would like to one day!! either that or get a treadmill or something so i can run without fear of people or cars

23- describe your dream date

probably somewhere like botanical gardens/nature reserves/museums and just looking at all the plants and stuff or honestly just staying home and napping

nap dates good

24- how much money do you have in your wallet at the moment?

like £12 or so i’m too lazy to count the change

25- what color socks are you wearing?

navy and purple!!

26- how many pillows do you sleep with?

pillow!! fort!! pillow!! fort!! at least four, more if i can find them

27- do you have a job? what do you do?

i volunteer at a small florist in town, but i’m hoping to find an actual paid job that i could do soon bc i am,, broke and feel bad about not working

28- how many friends do you have?

i always worry that i’m gonna miss someone when i answer questions like this sjfjsfkd, there’s seven people that i speak to regularly

29- whats the worst thing you have ever done?

if we’re talking about the things we regret most, probably dating my ex, it was a really unhealthy relationship and is still having a pretty bad effect on my mental health years later rip

30- whats your favorite candle scent?

unscented candles lmao, i find all of the sceneted ones too strong and i get headaches really quickly rip

31- 3 favorite boy names

ryan, kai, liam

32- 3 favorite girl names

i’m honestly not too sure about this one rip

33- favorite actor?

do the mcelroys count as actors?? all four mcelroys

34- favorite actress?

elise bauman

35- who is your celebrity crush?

i don’t really have one tbh but it used to be katie mcgrath

36- favorite movie?

the carmilla movie

37- do you read a lot? whats your favorite book?

i used to read a lot but my concentration and focus has become shit since i finished school, some of my favourite books were “the sight” by david clement davies, “when women were warriors” by catherine m wilson and “the long way to a small angry plant” by becky chambers

38- money or brains?

what is this in relation to?? i do not know

39- do you have a nickname? what is it?

not really, my name’s pretty hard to shorten lmao

40- how many times have you been to the hospital?

numerous times for migraines and allergies, but nothing significant to actually keep count of

41- top 10 favorite songs

forests - tom rosenthal

movement - hozier

hugging you - tom rosenthal

nina cried power - hozier

shrike - hozier

nfwmb - hozier

common tongue - hozier

take me to church - hozier

pyramid - jason webley

big houses - squalloscope

i love,, hozier,,

42- do you take any medications daily?

nope

43- what is your skin type? (oily, dry, etc)

dry i guess

44- what is your biggest fear?

anything medical, especially needles

45- how many kids do you want?

none, i don’t think i’d make a very good parent

46- whats your go to hair style?

scruffy and windswept lmao

47- what type of house do you live in? (big, small, etc)

i guess it’d be considered like a medium house?? idk

48- who is your role model?

when i was younger it’d have been some of my teachers but now i really don’t know

49- what was the last compliment you received?

mum complimented my eyebrows earlier

50- what was the last text you sent?

some boring work stuff

51- how old were you when you found out santa wasn’t real?

six or seven??

52- what is your dream car?

something cheap that won’t explode when i turn the engine on lmao

53- opinion on smoking?

you do you, just be mindful of others near you

54- do you go to college?

i finished college earlier this year!!

55- what is your dream job?

anything not related to retail and customer service, ideal if it also involves plants

56- would you rather live in rural areas or the suburbs?

i’d have always answered this w rural before, but honestly probably suburbs now

57- do you take shampoo and conditioner bottles from hotels?

no

58- do you have freckles?

a few, but they’re very faint!! they were a lot more noticable when i was younger

59- do you smile for pictures?

no i’m an edgy bastard, i hate my smile sgdjskkf

60- how many pictures do you have on your phone?

over 3000, i should delete some but i’m attached to these blurry photos of my dogs

61- have you ever peed in the woods?

i mean,, who hasn’t??

62- do you still watch cartoons?

yeah!!!

63- do you prefer chicken nuggets from wendy’s or mcdonalds?

we don’t have wendy’s here so mcdonalds it is

64- favorite dipping sauce?

ketchup and bbq sauce are the only acceptable dips

65- what do you wear to bed?

usually a shirt and boxers

66- have you ever won a spelling bee?

never entered one!

67- what are your hobbies?

drawing, playing video games, listening to podcasts, bingewatching entire series on netflix

68- can you draw?

sometimes, sometimes

69- do you play an instrument?

only the recorder which i’ve not really done since i was 8, i’d love to learn guitar though

70- what was the last concert you saw?

i saw welcome to night vale live in 2015, and jason webley also played music there!

71- tea or coffee?

they both suck, but tea is more tolerable

72- starbucks or dunkin donuts?

starbucks, never had dunkin donuts

73- do you want to get married?

WIFE,, yes

74- what is your crush’s first and last initial?

75- are you going to change your last name when you get married?

i would like to, yes!!

76- what color looks best on you?

i’d say probably reds and browns idk

77- do you miss anyone right now?

yeah D:

78- do you sleep with your door open or closed?

closed, i really hate doors being open they make me anxious

79- do you believe in ghosts?

yeah

80- what is your biggest pet peeve?

hypocrisy and people being unnecessarily rude or harsh rip

81- last person you called?

my mum, she’s the only person i’ll ever call lol

82- favorite ice cream flavor?

honeycomb or butterscotch

83- regular oreos or golden oreos?

regular oreos are better

84- chocolate or rainbow sprinkles?

rainbow sprinkles, do i legally have any other choice,,

85- what shirt are you wearing?

a binder

86- what is your phone background?

some art of one of my characters!

87- are you outgoing or shy?

very shy

88- do you like it when people play with your hair?

sometimes, but i’ve really gotta be in the right mood for it and i can only stand it for a short period of time rip

89- do you like your neighbors?

i’ve never spoken to them, but i mostly just hear them arguing with each other so i’ve not got the best impression lmao

90- do you wash your face? at night? in the morning?

both

91- have you ever been high?

92- have you ever been drunk?

i’ve never been drunk or high, i won’t drink for various reasons

93- last thing you ate?

one of those little frosted fancy cake things

94- favorite lyrics right now

I want trees instead of gravestones, nothing to confessI got a soft spot for your ancient books full of horror storiesI got a music in my head from long, long, ago and far, far awayAnd I still hum its tune, but how could I believe every word it says to me?

95- summer or winter?

winter!

96- day or night?

night!

97- dark, milk, or white chocolate?

milk chocolate

98- favorite month?

october bc of autumn and halloween

99- what is your zodiac sign

pisces!

100- who was the last person you cried in front of?

the nurse at one of my appointments the other day rip

[i-am-very-very-tired]

Dee Keeve says:JULY 31, 2016 AT 5:56 AM

Amen. Finally finding ones who love relaxed hair

Bri says:JULY 11, 2016 AT 1:42 PM

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Lauren!!!! I ran into your website through google images, and you have officially persuaded me back into the relaxer life. I’ve been trying to go natural for almost a year and I absolutely hate it. Every single thing you said is what has been happening to me daily. I work as a receptionist and I feel like it makes me look completely unprofessional when my hair gets all poofy and sticks up. I haaate it! I’m going to do go buy Dr. Miracles tonight!!!!!

My hair was far more heat protected and healthier when I was relaxing it. Even so I only relaxed maybe 3 times a year so I had a good thing going. I don’t know what I was thinking. I honestly just wanted my hair to be fuller and just have a wave when I got it wet. I wasn’t even going natural for the right reasons, I had no dedication whatsoever.

The good thing is I DID get a lot of growth during this 10 month period, about 4 ½ inches. So I’m just excited to relax it out lol. THANK YOU LAUREN!

Teni says:AUGUST 23, 2016 AT 4:45 PMREPLY

Thank you for this comment <3 I am 9 months into transitioning and I hate it. I will just go on a healthy relaxed hair journey.

Keitra says:JUNE 21, 2016 AT 1:27 PM

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Adore this post so much. I thought i was the only one who had those issues. The really bad breakouts, detangling and my nape area was a nightmare. I just choose a week ago after a 4 month strech to do what i do best and rock my relaxed hair. Idk why its so shamed up on to get relaxer like its an abomination or something. Nothing about getting relaxer or no relaxer is going to make your body health any healther try dieting or eating better lets debate on that, lets jump down ppl thoart on a healthier eating habit vs freaking hair. This world smh.

adrienne says:JUNE 14, 2016 AT 9:14 PM

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i agree with you my intent was not quite to go natural but to do long stretches like either only relax once or twice a year… sigh,,, I just brought a relaxer today to use later,,, last time i relaxed was december 2015… but by april it’s been..sigh.. horrible the dryness from the new growth and i’ve spent more money the past 6 mos. i ever have than when I was relaxed… when i was relaxed all i used was a lil oil sheen and maybe occasional dab of oil moisturizer lotion,, didn’t need nothing else. ,, but since trying to make my stretch last a full year,,, i see i can’t go natural.. and my texture is 3b/some 3c and it was still a living hell!

deja says:JUNE 12, 2016 AT 10:58 AM

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i cant believe what im reading “natural isnt for everyone” how does that work out? how does ur natural hair..that grows naturally..out of ur hair not work for u? how does someone else’s hair work better for u than the hair that comes out of ur head..smh black ppl are brainwashed Bad

I won’t argue with you – a simple google search can tell you all you need to know about both sides of the coin. Have a great day!

Oh my goodness! You don’t know how much this blessed and inspired me in my hair life! Out of all of my friends, and family, I’m pretty much the only one who gets relaxers!! No one else gets them anymore and I’m talking about dozens of people that I know! The only time a relaxer did me damage was when the Rio perm was advertised backing the mid 1990’s and Debbie Allen and other celebrities were testing the product out by eating it, testing it out on their own heads, etc!! I was 6 years old with beautiful relaxed hair and the Rio perm was put on by my mom and she regretted placing it on my head to this day! That was 21 years ago, I am now 27 and within minutes my hair and scalp was burning from the bad Rio product. Anywho there was a class action lawsuit and most people that filed with pictures only received $97 for the poor relaxed product. Why did my mom try it? Because the celebrities were acting as it was safe! Until then my mom always put PCJ on my hair and she always got compliments on my hair. Before she used PCJ, she tried placing the hot comb method on my hair but it would kink up and be back to the coarse nappy look in a few days after straightened (and this is way before a relaxer even touched my head) so as ppl always say everyone has a good curl pattern when they were younger, nope that was never the case for me it’s always been coarse and thick due to the grate of hair that my parents have. But after the Rio incident, my mom restored my hair by putting protective styles and treating it with the right products. I also have used various beauticians to treat my hair with appropriate relaxers and styles. During my college years it was hard to afford the beauty shop so I had a olive oil relaxer or kiddie relaxer on my hair which it still grew! I have no problems with relaxers, I usually go 8 weeks or 10 weeks to get another relaxer. So many black women are against chemicals and they fail to realize that they spend so much money on weaves and blowouts to get their hair straight like a relaxer until the price they pay for this stuff ends up being that standard $65 relaxer and style cost that professional beauticians charge!!!

Charlene dorsey says:DECEMBER 3, 2016 AT 11:08 PM

It’s a style preference thing…. It should be a choice… Here’s a wuick question for you….Do you wear makeup? If so; why??? You weren’t born with makeup on…… most people wear it because they feel it enhances their beauty…same thing for hair preferences…

I agree Lauren. To each their own. Some hair that grows naturally out of some heads is very thick, coily, and very hard to manage. And might I add, TIME CONSUMING. You can spend lots of $$ on products trying to keep the hair conditioned, softened and tameable and it adds up. But some people like to wear their hair dry so they costs for products may not be a big deal. Again, I like what you say and I’m with you. I’ve only been natural 3 months, and I’m not quite liking it. I want my curl and waves but not bone straight so texlaxing is the best thing for me. I refuse to allow anyone to make me feel bad and or guilty about my choices. It’s all about how I feel about me and healthy hair at the end of the day. Thanks for sharing this.

Hey, do u rub makeup on ur face.. or better still. When trying to get curl definition don’t u spent tons of cash buying curl defining creams and custards, then spend hours trying to do a twist out so you cud have more defined curls…. to me I feel that’s exactly the same thing. U are not satisfied with he way ur hair curls naturally and you feel the need to enhance its curl. If u wanna be truly natural stop twist outs and braid outs and all that is, because lets face facts your hair isn’t naturally like that.. just stick to a fro.. then u can come preach to me abt embracing the natural pattern with which hair comes out of he head.

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Amor Amankwah says:OCTOBER 8, 2016 AT 4:47 PMREPLY

Touche! Well said! You hit the nail on the head.

Preach it beee!! Amen and A. men!!

If your natural you know that those styles help reduce tangles i personally dont wear them no reason i havent masterd them as of yet and and doesnt take nothing nut humidity and a wash to get you back to its natural state. Hey check out this video by angel ikyg called black women natural hair its not a bashing video he gives good reasoning to go natural if u feel the same way after watching the video then keep getting relaxers by all means because its your hair have a good day

Dude I always felt the same way. You manipulating your hair to get your curls a certain way says a lot.

Seriously why be so negative? Some people don’t like curly hair or braids but prefer straight hair. Quite frankly some women don’t look good with either hair style. Yeah one can argue that a black woman can achieve straight hair with natural hair but do you know how much more damage will occur than by doing relaxers. If you actually read this woman’s blog you would see her hair is healthy and relaxed. So stop hair shaming and accept the fact that people can have different hair styles and still have healthy hair.