#shitisay

[lastmanstandin]

The Choral Highlights You Don't Want To Miss #shorts #choralmusic #classic

[artivanchew]

What is SG culture? (A pretentious poem)

What is SG culture?

It's a lot of Ks and Cs: It's kia-si, kia-su, kia-sai, Formed by the years of chasing the Cs: cash, cars, careers, condos

Resulting in citizens Who are kam-gong, kiam-pah; Top notch Complain Kings and Queens Class-conscious cockanathans Who kao-peh about CPF over their kopi-C, Constrained in concrete confines, Lamenting:

Why cannot chew gum Why CTE still got congestion Why got casino Why need caning Why everything so costly?

But

Even as there are loud cowards, There are the quietly courageous;

Those who, in spite of challenges like covid-19 Remain considerate and compassionate

The kind who will keep Their cool and offer comfort; Our compatriots In calm or crisis.

- Chew, I.

[alternate-dimensions]

Me, not a coffee addict: hey dad can you make me a cup of coffee?

My dad, who happens to know me: you don't drink coffee

Me, tired as shit @ 5:07: I do when it's five in the morning

[unicornanus-blog1]

"SOMEONE PUT A BROCCOLI IN MY ASS!"

[icecreambarss]

Today is Buzzfeed Unsolved Friday I can’t wait to see my boys

[melissaeats]

I’m not living for anything anymore, not even myself. What’s the point..

[glitchcryptid]

I came here to eat, not to be judged.

Me 2k17

[wordsinmyheadandtheywontcomeout]

You know what, if a hurricane is what it takes to beat the heat in Texas, so be it

Drew

[kadilemma]

kyungsoo in a royal suit is my aesthetic

[allwork-nopay]

Excited to finally spend my own money on stuff

gonna buy Doom 2016 booyyyyy

and probably ESO

[artivanchew]

4As - Know what others expect; then moderate what we expect of ourselves

"Work anxiety has not helped."

That line from a friend prompted this little essay. These are hardly original thoughts, btw. Mainly bits and pieces inspired by other readings.

***

Our capacity to invent stress is infinite because it's the same capacity that let us imagine the future and possibilities.

If it's not work stress at our workplace, it's stress at home. If work goes well, I could be stressed about something at home. If all is well with my spouse and I, there's my elderly parents to consider. If life is really comfortable, I may wonder if something bad will happen soon.

You get the idea.

Work stress is inevitably because work forms such a substantial part of our lives. I figured it arises from:

- Our expectations of what we think others expect of us;

- What we expect of ourselves

You could say it boils down to just one thing: how we reconcile those expectations.

The hard part is being able to temper our expectations by exercising humility, patience, and courage while still giving our best.

You could say it's 4 As: Awareness, Acceptance, Action, (conscious about) Avoidance.

Which is a sexy of saying, "Know what others expect of us; and then moderate what we expect of ourselves".

Saying "It doesn't matter what others think" by itself isn't the solution, as it may be self-delusion. What others think will always matter to most of us because we live in a society. Few of us can keep sane living as hermits.

Our expectations are the obstacle. If we say, "It's ok that I work as a [occupation with lower pay/status]", do we truly feel it's ok?

If it was OK most of us would've just quit our jobs and go for that alternative one that we think will be less stressful.

We don't because society expects people of certain education, experience, age, backgrounds to take up certain jobs. Or certain jobs have a ready-made social classification attached to it.

We may not mind but can we also say the same of our spouses/kids/parents? Our job choices matter to them as well. It's still down to expectations.

Is there no way out?

The answer to me, at this stage, is really to "Just do our best" knowing that others have expectations, just as we do for ourselves.

If that's our best and we aren't happy with it, beat ourselves up mentally. It's only human and in some ways a necessity. It means we want to improve and we know we can do better.

So beat ourselves up a little but move on with humility.

This doesn't mean telling our boss/clients/staff, "This is my best. I'm sorry I can't do anything about it."

When I say humility, I mean accepting that as we acknowledge that may not have met expectations at that point, we still take action as needed (whether it's to admit our shortcoming, or just keep quiet and move on). To do that requires us to be aware of what our expectations are saying to us, knowing what we may be avoiding just to cope, and the consequences of our choices.

It's complex of course.

Perhaps the 4As won't make you, my friend, sleep any better. In really bad situations, I can't either. But I think it helped me understand why I cannot sleep, and awareness/understanding of what troubles us does lend some comfort when we face uncertainties.

The line between self-delusion and (for want of a better word) enlightenment is Awareness. Then Acceptance is a way to allow us to take Action, rather than Avoidance.

Some people find peace by avoidance, but that's temporary. Peace is more permanent through acceptance of our faults and having the humility to correct our faults.

True acceptance requires courage.

[alternate-dimensions]

My mom:

Me: hey mom I need $1000 it's for a field trip

[piscatate]

Wisdom I pass on and don't think anyone is listening. My good friend used these words I spoke on a fishing trip many eons ago. He used them for a meeting in a freaking war zone.... #ithoughtnoonewaslistening #shitisay #thatsdeepthinkingrightthere #gladicanhelp #warzoneponderings #plantatree #coveryourjunk

[icecreambarss]

hi I’m working on a Rouxls Kaard shitpost should I continue

[melissaeats]

I cry myself to sleep thinking of what could have been, and what still can be.

[glitchcryptid]

when you really wanna see art and animatics of stuff but that stuffs in your head so no one can make it but you and you don't wanna do the stuff