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lizbethborden · 2 years ago

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Oh man. Thinking so much about one of the people I worked for at the hellhole. She would get wound up and go off at me in a completely vicious way. I am not really a person who yells or gets angry in those situations, my goal is always to deescalate, so I would yes her to death rather than respond meaningfully--and the one time I did try to push back on her on something she was pissed about, she overrode me repeatedly and started accusing me of "defending" the person she was mad at (I wasn't, I agreed with her criticism, I just was a decent human being with empathy for others' situations). What I really should have done was either yelled back or walked away, but I always defaulted to yes'ing her, especially because she would wait until we were in my small, enclosed office to do it and I would have no way of getting away from her. I found out that she HATED that I would always go "Okay" and "I understand," because I would just do it and do it until she stopped, and she said it "makes people feel criticized." If you don't want to feel criticized, don't behave that way...? Between her and the owners, I got yelled at more in like 10 months of working than I did in 3 years at Starbucks.

#honestly she was such a sad and negative human being #so deeply unhappy #i knew that even while i was there and in the thick of it #she hated her husband and kids and wanted a divorce but had sacrificed her career to have the kids #she was so... psychologically obvious that it tripped me out #in that she would make really obvious reversals and accusations #i did sit her down one time and tell her about how she'd treated me and how it made me feel #so one of the last few days i was there she blew up at me #and one by one accused me of all the things i had pointed out her doing #i had told her she talked to me like i was one of her kids--#which i knew because she'd accidentally sent me an angry text she'd meant for her daughter #(she was angry texting us both at the same time!)#so she accused me of thinking she was my mother #i had been unhappy with the way she played messenger between people in the store and spread info around #she accused me of causing all the gossip and bad employee relations and distrust #etc. etc. etc.#she also told me not once in any of her jobs had she ever been told she blew up or behaved badly #and then she started to cry saying 'i'm not a mean person that's not me'#like this is what i mean by psychologically obvious #anyway.#hope she gets well soon #learned my lesson though!

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