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Sex Life

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I believe that your Sexlife and your sex life are separate. Now I don't mean physically [even though it is] but they are. It sounds silly, but hear me out. I think that a person's sex life is the life force behind their desire to have sex. That desire is alive, it exists and has a heartbeat that can go stagnant without dying.

A lot of people, I've noticed, have this fear that if their sex drive goes down, it'll never come back up. That it will die. But your 'sex life', is alive. It was born with you and will live within you for as long as you breathe. However, that doesn't mean It will always give signs of life for the same things. It just may beat for different things. As you change and grow, so does the life of your sex. Your organs and bodies change with time and in order to develop a personal relationship with yourself and with your partner, you must accept the physical parts of yourself just as much as the emotional.

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On the other side of this concept, your 'Sexlife' [I believe] is the concept of intimacy exploration through another being. Some consider sex to be the easiest form of intimacy. Other's find it to be the hardest. I always wondered about the disconnect between those two opinions and why they are so contrary to each other. I think I've cracked it, or at least part of it.

I believe it's because our 'Sexlife' force that drives our physical desire for contact with another is separate from our 'sex life' which is the life in our sex organs. If you're sitting back wondering if the different capitalization in 'Sexlife' and 'sex life' is significant my answer is 100% yes. I capitalize the S in "Sexlife" to exhibit an emphasize on mind and soul connection. The two words are connected by an elimination of space which is a metaphor for the act of intimacy as a physical relationship vs an emotional one. The crave of intimacy must be accepted by our minds as much as our bodies and vice versa.

However, 'sex life' is lowercase to emphasize the relationship of our human sex organs having a life they want to live. I could consider each of my concepts as a 'mode' of sorts. Some people who fear intimacy avoid sex as to not allow the physical connection affect the brain, they might have a strong relationship with the 'Sexlife' mode. They might see sex as a gateway into their shame box, and have people see all their uglies. Some may have a great relationship with 'Sexlife' mode and see sex as a way to embody their divine humanness and connect with themselves and another at the same time. Those who see sex as the easiest form of intimacy may have a great relationship with the 'sex life' mode and see their organs as performers of pleasure without intimacy.

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I could debate this rhetoric for many hours, but that's not the point . The point is, we are different. And each and every part of us is alive and needs to be treated with emotions of its own.

It sounds convoluted and complicated but it's like meta emotions. Our feelings and senses have feelings and senses of their own that we need to consider and get to know better before accusing ourselves of being not good enough or that there is something wrong with us.

Sex can be a shameful topic and I want to release so many people from that stigma by discussing things that are uncomfortable, but we'll start with this.

for now.