#sentences like “I'm not an expert on X's gender but if anyone is it's probably X?” serve me well
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Met a new neighbor tonight, started talking about work.
Me: So yeah, I'm trying to work my way toward something more stable, especially because I have a queer nibling in Texas who might need a place to land.
Neighbor: NIBLING?
Me: Yes?
Neighbor: Is that one of your millennial words?
Me: (wondering what age I look rn because "millennial" sometimes means "kid" and it's too dark to see the gray in my hair) Not ... really? It's a gender-neutral term for, like, nieces and nephews. Like sibling, you know? If you have a brother and a sister, then you have siblings?
Neighbor: Yeah, but what's a nibling?
Me: In this case, it's one of my brother's kids. He has four of them.
Neighbor: ???
Me: One of them is ... kinda figuring some stuff out, gender-wise, so I'm using gender-neutral language for them until they ask me to use something different. Just giving them space, you know? They're a kid, they need some time. So: my brother has four kids, and I have three nephews and a nibling. (Decides not to mention bff's kids, whom I have also adopted as niblings.)
Neighbor: That's...
Me: (smiles desperately)
Neighbor: That's really kind of you. I've never even thought of that. That's a really good way to let them figure it out for themselves, you know?
Me: Exactly! It's not like I can figure it out for them, right? So I'm just holding space for however it shakes out.
Neighbor: They're lucky to have you.
Me: I'm trying. That's all I can do, right?
Neighbor: Nibling. That's a GOOD word.
Me: Yeah, I like it.
#sometimes it's nice here#niblings#goat nibling#it's amazing how far my cis ass can get with people on trans stuff by sounding mildly confused but very well-meaning#sentences like “I'm not an expert on X's gender but if anyone is it's probably X?” serve me well#also “idk I'm going by what the actual doctors say since they're doctors and stuff”#big “i don't expect you to know everything but i do expect you not to be a dick” energy#i learned this from my midwestern grandma who was also a moderately legendary local journalist#moderately legendary for getting people to tell her EVERYTHING presumably bc they assumed she was dumb#narrator: she was not in fact dumb
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