#sensory difficulties. like. c'mon man. if i told you i was overstimulated you'd tell me it wasn't that bad and i should just sit still and | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

skrunksthatwunk · 2 years ago

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"hey HEY what do you have in your mouth!!! sit SIT. SPIT IT OUT GIVE IT—" but instead of talking to a dog it's me about my parents using the word overstimulated as nothing but another way to make fun of our anxious traumatized dog for doing things they find inconvenient or unreasonable or illogical (and, by extension, everyone who uses the term for legitimate reasons). (WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM!!!!!!!!!! AND ALSO WHERE THE FUCK DID THEY HEAR IT BECAUSE I DON'T USE IT AROUND THEM On Purpose BECAUSE I KNOW THEY'D BE ANNOYING ABOUT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)

#cannot stress enough that they are ill informed. they do not know what they're talking about and would not accept it if i told them #they're not accomodating to sensory needs and do not fucking know the context of capital o Overstimulation in regards to like. ppl with #sensory difficulties. like. c'mon man. if i told you i was overstimulated you'd tell me it wasn't that bad and i should just sit still and #shut up. but suddenly it's fine when you're making jokes about??? completely unrelated things??? i mean. dogs can probably be #overstimulated. i think everyone can in kind of a general sense. but they act like her getting up from the couch or smth is some frantic #strange action. they're super fucking weird about her actually they'll like. tease(?) her about how needy and pathetic and unloved she is #and how 'traumatized' she is and how that makes her act in ways that bother them in kind of an eye roll-y way which like.#SHE *IS* TRAUMATIZED. WE'VE ESTABLISHED THAT SHE HAS REASON TO ACT LIKE THIS #like 'haha she's soooo afraid we'll abandon her she's so ridiculous' what like how she was ditched as a puppy and lived on the streets for #like a year? you don't think that could've affected her at all #fucking psych major bullshit ass. 'formative experiences actually don't affect you lol' go fuck yourself #im not saying you can't tease your pets but they're treating her like her anxiety and even basic affection seeking is some huge burden #when it's absolutely not. they just want to be mean to her because they don't want her to act that way and don't care about how she feels #because they think they know better and she has no immediate reason to feel that way. god i wonder if THAT has any relevance to how they #raised their children. christ on a cracker man what the fuck #how to create an environment where your children feel safe expressing their problems (a goal they supposedly have):#1) not whatever this shit is. what the fuck is wrong with you #look maybe it doesn't sound that bad but it's been going on for years and it's been pissing me off for years. they're so cruel and for what #it's such a double standard. our other (male) dog seeks affection about as often and they don't ever make fun of him for it #and they've gotten more and more entitled about her showing affection. like it's commanded now. it's gross to me okay i don't like it #she's a sweet and kind and loving girl and i don't get why they feel the need to act like her wanting their love is so horrible when they #literally want that from her and scold her when she doesn't do it #this general attitude that ppl are over exaggerating their trauma or their feelings or their needs/wants/boundaries is so pervasive w them #that complete disregard for/invalidation of how others feel if you can't personally relate to or understand it. the mockery and cruelty #they wouldn't do it if she could understand them. i think they just like having that power over smth small that loves them #so *i* have to be like 'ohhh i love u ur so good!! im so happy ur here' to her to balance it and then thats also seen as ridiculous. wtf #skrunks' parents be considerate and introspective to ppl without risk of rejection if unkind & also don't be ableist challenge (impossible)#they will call low/no empathy ppl frightening monsters and then do this shit. empathy is not necessary for kindness and frankly if that's #your only reason to care about the wellbeing of others i think that's worse. bitch IM low empathy. at least i give a shit #im so glad my mom didnt puruse psychology after her bachelor's she woulda hurt so many people. or maybe she'd be better idk. fucks sake

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