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can-you-stomach-it · 6 months ago

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I am not 100% sure these things affect trans men and transmascs specifically (I will be reading the trans women/ transfem version to be more informed) but here we go. Since this is a bit long, I will put it under a Read More.

I haven't been able to get a pap smear nor any type of gynecological care since my transition. My insurance won't cover it because I am legally a man. Once I went to a general doctor because I had a vaginal infection, explained it to him, and he just assumed I was crazy and diagnosed me with an UTI. I tried to make it clear that I was a trans man, but he just didn't care.

I was a victim of corrective rape. This happens often to a lot of LGBT folks with different identities. But, as a trans man, I felt like there were no resources for me. All support groups were for women. When I opened up about my experience, some people were "supportive" but, in their eyes, me being a rape victim actually proved I was a woman, and treated me as such. So. Yeah. Both during and after the rape, my identity was erased. My victimhood was interpreted by some "allies" as proof of my (non existent) womanhood.

I have read this before in texts written both by trans and cis butches. When you are a woman, your femininity is not your own. It is something you owe and must protect. If you are not feminine, you are ugly. And willingly choosing to be masculine is seen almost as a sacrilege. You are destroying something beautiful. There is a very specific way people in your social circles will treat you as a result. As the freak who mutilated themselves. I've seen it more clearly with the TERFs who are like, "she used to be a stunning lesbian and now look at her". Yikes.

Being cut off from your community. I've had two types of experiences in LGBT spaces since transitioning. The first one is, finding communities that are mostly dominated by (cis) gay/bi men, who would treat me with suspicion when I said I was a trans. They would not treat me as a man, but as a girl who wanted to be a man. Fuck them. The second one is, finding communities that are often composed almost exclusively by people who aren't men (who fled the former spaces because of the misogyny they experienced there), who would deny me my identity because I wasn't like they assumed men were. Example: They would make "ugh, men are the worst" jokes, look at me, and say that I "didn't count" because I was trans. It was obvious to me that those communities weren't for men to participate in. I have given up on finding queer spaces I can be comfortable in irl.

People assume that, as a man, I have nothing valuable to say about issues that directly affect my life. I have seen people say shit like, "if you are a man, you have nothing to say about [abortion/misogyny/harassment]" and I am always like: 🤨 What a way to erase trans men and shut us up.

Back when I was openly non binary: being treated as "woman lite". The whole "women and non binary people only" events infuriates me to no end. I was talking to a friend who is also a trans man the other day, and we came to the conclusion that the real gender binary is Man and Other. And when you are openly non binary, people throw you into Other and therefore deny your identity as a man. I guess this is too specific for trans men who are also non binary, like me.

Chasers. Trans women get them too. But fuck, the way I didn't even know chasers who are looking for transmascs and trans men existed before encountering one—and getting really hurt as a result, he was the one who raped me—absolutely destroyed me. As a trans man, the type of chasers I get are: men who want to believe they are straight and find you an acceptable target to experiment on because they don't respect your identity as a man. You look like one, but you don't count, because you have a pussy and therefore it isn't gay.

❗️❗️ This is asked entirely in good faith. This post is intended to open dialogue and help with solidarity and understanding. ❗️❗️

I would like to hear specifically from trans men and trans mascs how the system of [whatever the fuck you call the intersection of transphobia, misogyny, and specifically your gender- whether transandrophobia, isomisogny, antitransmasculinity, transandromisia, transmisandry, or any that I have missed as there are a lot of words to describe similar concepts] uniquely targets and affects you. Things that you feel other demographics do not experience. Reblogs and replies are very encouraged! If you would prefer, you could dm or send an ask to be added anonymously by me.

This is in the spirit of wanting to understand. I am listening. I encourage all non-trans-mascs to not speak on this topic and let trans mascs and trans men do the talking here. Reblog the post to spread it, but please say nothing.

Any and all people who identify as trans men and/or trans mascs are encouraged to participate.

This is not bait to start a fight. I will block without hesitation anyone who is actively being a shithead on this post. I want to hear and uplift your voices by getting it directly from you.

Click this to access the trans fem and trans women version of this post.

#transandrophobia #tw rape #my ramblings

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