#romanticized and think u shld do?

[nickyhemmick]

really curious to know what makes some men actually want to be fathers

[ari-the-rockstar]

"notice how not having a sense of awareness isnt on this list? yes, i experience all three of those traits. no im not a fucking shitty person to random strangers thats just weird. theres this thing called SELF CONTROL that i actually have, ever heard of it? lacking empathy is not a bad thing. "the ability to understand and share the feelings of another", according to the definition. i lack the ability to understand the feelings of other people and i lack the ability to share feelings with someone cause im not a damn spiritual empath. thats not saying im an abusive monster. excessive admiration ooh boy. man wtf do u think im gonna do with that lmao yeah i really need excessive admiration to not want to fucking kill myself but that doesnt mean im gonna go GGRGGGGGG ABRK AKR VBAKRKKK BARKJ and act like a rabid dog if i dont have it. YES i have a sense of entitlement but again wtf am i gonna do with that BARK AT SOMEONE if they dont agree lmao??"

"cause i'm not a damn spiritual empath" nobody is??? low empathy is fine but it's the combination of self-absorbedness which makes it abusive. if you need excessive admiration to not want to kys then...that is a you problem, i'm so sorry<3 it makes sense! someone saying that people with your disorder are abusive is not excessively admiring you. however just because it hurts your feelings doesn't mean it isn't true.

"a, i never said ur abuse is illegitimate lmao what r u on. and yes it SHOULD be rebranded. you wanna know why? if you look up "npd recovery" you fucking get "hOw To ReCoVeR FrOm NaRc AbUsE!!!" and a bunch of shit about porn and how we're demons whos eyes turn black. you say youve done alot of work to overcome them but youre forgetting npd can BARELY recover themselves because of ppl shouting NARC ABUSE!!! everywhere. if you have bpd i realllllyyyyyy dont think u shld be commenting on npd babes im juuussttt saying!! ur not a doctor and npd and bpd dont share the same symptoms!! and literally who tf is using "i was abused too" as an excuse baby bc its not me. u dont see me doing it."

yes you DO say that it is illegitimate. saying narc abuse is not real is LITERALLY saying that my abuse is not real. because it was VERY stereotypical narc abuse. go to r/raisedbynarcissists <3 they will tell you alll about it.

okay but you do realize that narc abuse is a VERY serious problem and maybe you should not be always angry that there are support groups for victims instead of groups to support the people who perpetuate it??? like if you want to recover that's good, but there are a LOT of people who are hurting and if something is not for you just scroll. if you aren't abusive then it shouldn't make you feel bad?

bpd and npd are two cluster b disorders hunny, pwNPD seem to usually just whine about how the world is sooo mean to them rather than ACTUALLY try and recover. i see more about "npd is so sexy and hot" than "how to get better from npd." and fyi LOTS of people use the "i was abused too excuse," i said it earlier so u couldn't pull it on me.

"oh noooo 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 person wi-with bpd is joking about their traits !!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 person w-w-w-w-w-w-with npd is making coping jokes!!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 o-o-o-oh no scary npd borderline monster isnt having panic attacks 🥺🥺 on their blog 🥺🥺🥺 every 30 seconds 🥺🥺🥺🥺 and is actually using humor to cope!!! wahahahahhahahwaahahhhh i cant handle people who cope differently than me 🥺🥺🥺🥺 you joking about your disorder means y-you cant have it!!!!!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺"

girl what. this is just embarrassing. there's a difference between coping and romanticizing. your WHOLE blog is romanticizing. at some point you gotta do some dirty work and get better.

yeah, you will feel like a shit a little bit. yeah, you will realize that you probably did or said some awful things. if you so badly want to see those "recovery" things then actually put in the work!! you just want to whine and whine forever.

"bb i dont know what ur on but ur objectively wrong and i wanted u to see lmfao. if u say something online it is public. it is PUBLIC. its not private its PUBLIC, i have the right to ss it and i hope u know that<3"

bestie idk where you're coming from but the ENTIRE idea of "npd is good and hot actually" is a very new take. like, 2-5 years old new. the idea of narcissism being ABUSIVE has been around since longer than u or i was alive. if you say something online it is public too <333 i never said anything about it? lmao i just found it funny you singled me out among everyone because you care soo much. cope harder <3

there is no fucking way 💀💀💀

okay lets just !!! ignore ALLLL of my other symptoms because im not abusive i dont have npd sorry guys npd diagnosis cancelled i dont have it anymore sorry guys because this one person on the internet said so

[cruelsister-moved2]

I genuinely don't believe indigenous shld mean anything biological, its abt relationship to the land you're living on.

well hopefully no one is, in relation to human beings, intentionally using it to mean anything biological bc that would be very pre-1950s race science. but i think a lot of people (who are not indigenous) are still very uncritical about the romantic ideas they have about indigeneity & where they came from & what they imply. people seem to tolerate all kinds of ideas when cloaked in romanticism because theres a sense that it must be harmless, like most people would be unwilling to say that your personhood is defined by your genes or that people should all just go back to wherever their ancestors came from or that native white gentile europeans just Belong in europe more than anyone else does. but theyre very charmed by the idea that living in the same place your ancestors lived gives you some mystical relationship to the earth there and (especially for white colonisers in the US who crave a sense of identity) seek meaning in their genetic makeup or the lives of their great great grandparents on the basis that where they once lived conveys something meaningful to you (presumably in your genes), etc. but these ideas are still strongly implying the former things, just by people who dont really want to have to think about that because theyre enjoying a pastoral fantasy rather than intentionally trying to revive nazi ideology. and like for example, i get what youre trying to say and i 100% agree; but i think saying 'relationship to the land you're living on' is still potentially problematic to me, because like if an indigenous person is displaced from that land they have a relationship to, do they stop being indigenous? and whilst i think saying a relationship to the earth in general in preferable (e.g when african americans and native americans were displaced to new and unfamiliar lands, they retained the same non-exploitative relationship with the earth and developed new indigenous knowledge of this place they were new to), but when indigenous people's traditional ways of life are threatened by colonialism and poverty and cultural genocide etc they're still indigenous. if an indigenous person is forced to move into a city and get a 9-5 at starbucks, or the earth-honouring beliefs&spirituality of their ancestors are forcibly replaced with colonial xtianity and permanently lost to history, they're still indigenous. the way i've always seen it explained by indigenous people is as a relationship to colonialism & that is the one that's least romanticisable but creates the most coherent class of people: indigenous people are those whose right to live on the land they call home is threatened by a government which doesn't represent their community or respect the leadership it chooses for itself, whose language&religion&culture is being or has already been replaced by force, whose way of life is sanctioned or outright prohibited by a dominant culture that demands everyone live the same way, etc. if a group is experiencing these aspects of indigenous experience i see no reason to deny them resources and language on the basis that they dont have some kind of romantic noble savage mythology or something. lots of indigenous people are also dealing with huge loss & i think looking at a group whose language and traditions and way of life and so on HAVE been destroyed and then using a definition of indigenous that finishes the job and agrees they are no longer indigenous is very strange (this is not @ u though anon) & imo the fact of that loss IS a relationship to colonialism that makes one indigenous. never being able to learn the language your grandparents knew, specifically because it was taken from them against their will, is an indigenous experience regardless of what lifestyle or beliefs you as an individual practise.

i think we basically agree with eachother and im sure neither of us planned for my answer to be this long 😭 but i guess what im saying is that if u define indigeneity as a relationship to the land, but believe said relationship is inherited (and imagine vacuum from colonialism), is that not still in fact defining it biologically just without the discomfort of outright saying that