#remember when you accidentally sent that message into FC chat and not back in a direct message

[angrymurderchild]

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Hey, anon here from /post/649483502519271424/

I wasn’t expecting my confession to go up so soon but I’m glad it did because the feedback so far has been so supportive. Thank you. 🥺💝 I had expected to be completely chided for dropping the ball like I did so everyone’s kindness has been refreshing and relieving. I’m submitting again because I wanted to say thank you and respond to the comments I’ve gotten so far: > Talk to staff about this I fear that may not do any good. As confirmed in the comments, the flightrising staff doesn’t tend to accommodate for situations such as these and I would love to know why not. They can obviously track stolen items/dragons from bought/hacked/stolen accounts, but they seemingly don’t want to bother helping people out with matters like mine and they should. I can’t figure out why they wouldn’t.

> I would try making things public That would most likely get me iced, as it would bring unnecessary harassment to the user in question, which is against the rules. (For some reason, FR is more worried about that than actual theft. Why? Who knows. Personally, I think there should’ve been a system designed for this very thing before the game even went live back in 2013 and them letting it go for this long without one is pretty inexcusable.) > Talk to somebody who knows them, maybe? Considered it but we don’t have any friends in common, (plus it could lead to the same outcome as above.) They seemingly quit the mutual server we were in, as well, as their last posts from there were from January and show their actual discord name, instead of FR name, which is required for that server. > Yikes, that’s a super shitty situation OP, hope you can get them back eventually Thank you. I hope so too. 💝 > Hey, so: if you disappeared for months you straight up forfeited your shit, and if it’s happened before they’re probably done dealing with you. You messed up. You ditched someone you had an agreement with more than once. I’m willing to bet, having witnessed this exact kind of conversation, that this person has bad anxiety and was given advice by their friends to just stop talking to you and to either exalt or keep your pair. Seriously, everyone in any fr chat I’ve been in (a third of the flights and FC, including Ice Chat itself) would give that exact same advice. It’s on you. It sucks you lost your project pair, but messaging them isn’t likely to help because they probably are just as stressed as you about it. There is also another possibility: they don’t remember who you are because they accidentally deleted your initial messages. Ah now this was more of what I was expecting. Firstly, when I said we’ve disappeared on each other before, I meant it was something we mutually did to each other due to outside circumstances, never malice. This is why I never was cross with them about it and why I’m left puzzled if it’s the reason they’re cross with me now. I don’t see why I’m being held accountable for something they have done to me personally and have never held against them.

Secondly, while I did drop the conversation and take full responsibility for that, the agreement was that they were supposed to breed the dragons indefinitely until they produced the project child, then both it and the parents were supposed to be sent back to me. They were allowed to exalt/keep/sell any and all rejects as payment. They bred them once since we last communicated and haven’t since so the agreement’s been broken on their end for a while now. Perhaps I should’ve kept a better eye on them, but I tend to trust others to not to need supervision.

Thirdly: Even if it is the lack of communication on my end, I can’t see why this whole thing can’t be fixed with an apology, a heart-to-heart and/or some compensation. They could demand all my gems and treasure and I’d happily pay it as I feel it is owed. If it’s a matter of not remembering, then why not just say so and return the dragons or ask for evidence of the agreement? Them having anxiety isn’t much of an excuse as I have anxiety as well and that’s been going off like mad since I noticed what had happened, three weeks ago. 🙃 Finally: we legit give this advice to everyone stop leaving your dragons with people for months at a time they take up space in people’s lair and it really isn’t cool

I take it by “we” you mean the people who frequent this blog. Regardless, this is pretty callous advice; encouraging thievery over what could be an outside problem or circumstance. People forget, people suffer loses, people die; it’s pretty cold to think they just stiffed you personally and use that as justification to steal what’s theirs. The advice should be “message them, air your grievances, see if they’re willing to listen and/or negotiate compensation, do so, then part ways.”

I understand it can be difficult dealing with people, but in my opinion: open communication is the key to healthy relationships and if the person doesn’t return the kindness, that’s never on you, for at least you tried.

That said, I want to give you all a big THANK YOU for your feedback and sympathy. It’s really warmed my heart and made me feel better about this whole thing. Thanks for being here for me and others like me. 💝💝💝