#relationdhipgoals

[missmitakarcloud]

bye soulmate,

we would have been good.

it’s nearly impossible to say goodbye. how? when you are convinced from the bottom of your heart that you met your soulmate, and you still weren’t meant to be.

but you know, if circumstances somewhere would have been a little bit different here or there

and it actually might have worked out

if other circumstances were around.

well then I believe we would have become an awesome versions of ourselves. both.

maybe not the same versions we are now, but another one that would have felt good, that would have made us grow in another way, healthy way and made us feel alive in a different way, then what keeps us alive right now.

and it’s okay.

it’s okay for us being exactly who we are and what we choose to do and to live with the consequences of our actions and choices

and it just wasn’t possible the way I might have wanted it. and I might have not. a “happy ending” is not always as we expect or wish it to be.

and that’s really just it.

we would have been good still. so good. awesome people, helping each other grow and becoming the best versions of ourselves. I know we would have helped each other grow in a healthy and loving way. giving each other the freedom to be who we need to be in oder to feel about ourselves just as we want to feel. just giving each other the space to unfold our full potential. and it’s so hard to let that go, if you ever see that potential. if you ever felt that way.

but maybe one can say we weren’t supposed to be.

but maybe it was just a choice made or not made.

and that’s all there is,

a choice made or not.

life happens no matter if you make your own decisions or not.

so better try to choose it, right?

and sometimes we wish we choose differently,

just to get a glimpse, and idea of how else it could have been,

because all we have left in the end are the consequences of our or others choices that have been made.

so yeah probably not all (of your choices) are gonna be good but maybe you were able to find your inner peace with most of the consequences. maybe you found your peace in it all and if you can’t get there yet, maybe you can try

and that’s all you can to.

think about it.

so yes I say goodbye now,

weither it was not meant to be or

if it just is what it is.

that’s life, it flows on,

it finds its way.

maybe we are not always 100% in control, as we can change some outcome, we can’t change it all,

so we flow in the ocean of unchangeable things and weirdly they are holding us all together,

these things that seem not meant to be.

that’s how you are able to say goodbye to a soulmate. A soulmate. not THE.

that’s okay, things are done and it’s time to let go go, it’s time to flow.

let it go. let it go. let it go,

so you can flow.

[berniearchiemac]

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[missmitakarcloud]

what do I have to offer ?!

i’ll just show you

i’ll just show you what i need

if i want this to work

this is the only things i can do

try again and again

and learn how to teach you

in a good way

that makes you learn it

finally

how to love me right

the way I need it

to feel loved

and that’s the only, best and most logical way to get the love that you need too.

because what you give me.

I give back to you.

a hundred times.

that’s how my love works.

that’s my one condition .

learn to love me right

and you will be showered with the love

that you need.

that’s my promise.

that’s what I have to offer.

how’s that? not enough?

then what do you need ?!

[missmitakarcloud]

childish mind

sometimes i just feel like i'm a burden to you. like something you didn't really signed up for. sure i make you happy, sure you love me. still sometimes I feel like I see you saying to yourself how much easier your life would probably be without me. maybe lonely, maybe a bit more boring but defenitley easier. You wouldn't have to worry about someone else. Not take care about anyone else but yourself. It feels to me sometimes like it's a burden to you. And that makes me feel bad, because I don't wanna be a burden. I don't want you to have the feeling you have to do all this things that you do. I want you to like what you do, I want that to make you happy too. giving, caring, loving. that that's nothing that makes you exhausted but actually more happy, because you see me happy. or just because you enjoy giving. But I don't get that feeling really. I feel like a burden. I don't wanna be a burden. I wanna be part of something beautiful. maybe it's my childish mind. my dreaming mind. maybe reality is different and my mind has been poisoned all this life with movies and books about how things should be. and maybe you're just different. maybe you still love what you do for me, you just can't show it that much. and maybe it's just me who has to accept that fact. but I feel like this is kinda oldschool. not talking about what bothers you? just do it, because it's your duty? we're not having the 50ties anymore. I wanna know what troubles your mind. you don't have to carry that weight upon your shoulder all the way all alone. we're a team. that's what you're saying all the time and do you know what that means ? it means we carry it together so we both end up there, yes but at least we are together, and two people can carry more. if two people carry something it feels like less. you carry parts of me, I carry parts of you. i signed up for this. I want this. you just have to let me in, let me be a part of it. share your feelings with me. be open, let me know what we have to carry so i know how much strength to put in it. If i don't know what's going on and what to carry, i might end up not putting enough effort in it and you might end up exhausted and feeling alone. feeling burdened. I don't want you to feel that way. I'm here and i am strong. stronger than you think. and sharing everything will make us both stronger, you will see. we will grow and we will be awesome. you just have to let this happen. I can try as hard es I want, if you don't open up the door. we will both end up being alone. and neither of us wants this, I guess. I want you in my life, with everything, all the luggage there is to carry. what kind of love is that where only one person ends up happy? i'm telling you it's not working that way. and i will do everything, to make us both happy. I will do everything to make this relationship not only work, but become the best it can be.

[missmitakarcloud]

toxic

I realized that most of my friends ( especially girls) are still trapped in a toxic relationship, including me. and it makes me wonder how it comes that we tend to give more and more chances and accept less then we deserve ? do we think so badly of ourselves ? are we just not able to be strong enough to be alone ? do we just like to see the good in people and that's why we give so many chances ? because we know that we too are not perfect and hard to handle sometimes. Is that why we accept all the constant bullshit ? because we think we're not better ? because we think that this is exactly what we deserve ? what is it? fear of being alone ? new circumstances? the unknown, that scares us? the question in our head ' will I ever find the right one or will I always be alone '? should I just stop looking for perfect and just accept what I have found, because I'd might not get any better anyways. At least now i know my partner good enough to know what i'm expecting.. I know what I signed up for, right ? but the new, the unknown? that's scary. what if it hurts more ? I'm used to this pain know, but I think, I can handle. but something new? something that might hurt me too, but in a different way? I'm not so sure how to handle. yeah it will make me grow etc. but at what price ? are we willing to take the risk and the price ? I honestly think that most of the time we are not. so are we lazy? excepting the easy instead of looking for the right ? which might lead us through more and more heartbreak ? before we might realize it's just best to be alone ? alone ? that word again. can we stand being alone in a world full of expectations and couples ? but what if we all think like this already in my close cycle.. where does this lead? A lot of people ending up with the wrong person, because of fear..? that is so much more than not right ! but what to do about it ? how will humanity change in a age of fear and of feeling unstable. where the government and everything else makes us think it all could end soon ? fear. the most powerful thing to make people do what you want them to. In this age where we are so safe and have everything. We would be too happy. No one wants too happy people. happy people don't buy as much, because they might not see the need for it. but people of fear, they will get anything. even into unhappy relationships because of the fear of ending up alone. and where does this lead us? unhappy couples. trying to make everything to seek for happiness. while we're forgetting what's really important in our life's. our own mental health. being okay with who we are. we don't need to be perfect and we have to remember that everything is part of life and that we should appreciate each and every bit of it. because that's what makes us us. we should stop to seek for fulfillment in other things or other people and start to seek fulfillment within ourselfves. this is the only way how we truly can find our worth and once we found that, we will automatically fall for the right persons. without fear. because we know what we want. we won't look for perfect anymore but for rareness and what best matches ours. we won't look for someone to fill the holes and won't project all our expectations of happiness on this person. but we will seek for someone that is actually matching. no holes to fill because there aren't any left. just sparkling and nice extras. and even if it's not happy all the time, it's okay. because the happiness of our relationship just adds up to our own, but is not needed to fulfill us, because we're full already. it's just a nice extra. no pressure, no expectations. just something we choose to want to have. and once we choose because we want it but not need it, we will be in relationships for the right reasons. with the right person. because any other shit doesn't have space in our life anymore.