#rediscovering the joys of venting to the void

[fliesonmyeyeballs]

when i talk about being single i always joke that it’s bc i hate people, but i don’t hate people at all. i just hate myself, which i’m trying to work on 🙃

[mjonesing]

I would like to reiterate all of this while adding something I can’t believe has to be said to anyone over the age of 5 -

IF YOU DON’T HAVE ANYTHING NICE TO SAY, DON’T SAY IT.

Come in with a whirlwind. Make your presence in fandom known - scream into the void about how much you love whatever it is you love because there’s a whole bunch of people here who are doing it too. The beauty of fandom is getting to find people who have similar interests, who will see your excitement and joy and match it with their own. You can’t find those people if you don’t reach out.

I got into this fandom because I had no one to talk to about Far From Home - who could I cry with over the kiss? The mind manipulation? The end credit scene?! - and it’s the best decision I’ve made in a long time. I’ve made friends and rediscovered my love of writing and get to share it with whoever wants to read the weird little ideas that roam in my head. Every comment - whether one word or a thousand, a random string of capital letters or a concise, analytical book report - means the world to me. I can’t put it into words how each comment makes me feel, but trust me, it’s magical. I prefer to respond to my comments - not always immediately, but whenever I get the time to really get into what they’ve blessed me with - but not everyone does. And that’s okay. Comments are just that - comments. They don’t require a response.

I could rant about how wrong this anon is for hours, but I’m just going to end this with a simple request: don’t be mean. Sending anon hate is just another choice - if you want to vent, choose a friend. Type it and then delete it - why bother hitting send? Or maybe, just maybe, make the better choice and say something kind instead. ‘I’m sorry I don’t always respond to your amazing comments, but know they are great and I appreciate them.’ ‘You can do anything you set your mind to, and it’ll be incredible because you put your heart into it.’ ‘I can’t wait to see your first foray into creating art of any kind for this fandom. You’re gonna do great.’

It’s not hard to make the better choice. You just have to be a decent person about it.

Heya, I really hope you don't take this the wrong way at all. You've commented on a few of my bigger fics a few times and I'm super appreciative but sometimes they're a bit much? Like, I don't have all the time in the world to respond to comments or read super long ones. I guess I'm asking if you would tone them down a bit? Or read the entire thing and then comment? Is that okay? Thanks :)

I’ve battled with how to reply to this like, all day. I got the first message and was just going to ignore it. Please fuck off, sorry if my comments are annoying AF, I’m never expecting people to respond to them. I probably just really enjoyed your fic. I’ve gone all Nancy Drew and narrowed you down to like 3 people, based on what I’ve commented on lately, and I canny deal with it. You can message me if you want, I won’t tell anyone, and I’ll stop reading your stuff. 

The second one? What? How can you say sorry my last message was mean and then be even meaner? I am far too soft for these kind of messages, honestly. The fact you don’t like me being in secret santa makes my heart hurt. You’re right, I’m not creative at all, I just thought it would be a bit of fun. I feel like I have a really cute idea for my gift, but I can’t bring myself to do it now. 

Ahhh point three is the worst. It’s the utter worst. I’m very rarely embarrassed, I’ve got too much to do to entertain being embarrassed by something, let alone being a bit too enthusiastic online. But I can’t deal with people talking about me behind my back. I guess technically you’ve told me? 

Anyway, I’m a grown up, so I should be able to deal with these kinda things and be like, fuck off. I made 17 fucking maps today and instead of being happy about it, I’ve dreaded these messages. 

You can block me ya know? I could block you too, but I can’t deal with the fact that I’ll know who you are because I don’t follow enough people to not be able to figure it out.